How flirty is a game of footsie?

[lana77]

like if this guy and I have been hanging out and I want to kind of flirt but not be TOO out there...would initiating a game of footsie (shoes on) be bad? guys, how would you interpret this?

[ObscuredBeyond]

It's an instant turn-on. You'd have to verbally give me a disclaimer about your intentions to keep me from reading into them. I'm very sensitive to the idea of being touched.

And if a gal looks at me a certain way and starts rubbing her feet against mine, especially barefoot, it doesn't take long for my mind to wander from "let's rub feet together" all the way to "let's make out like we're in an action movie and something behind us could explode any minute for no reason."

Get me in that mood, and I won't want to apply the brakes until she starts undressing. Then, it's time to review the ground rules. I'll progress from footsie to holding hands to making out, to grabbing on to her like she's a life preserver and I've been thrown overboard. I suppose at that point, if this were a comic book, I'd grab the back of her head to kiss her, and accidentally suck out her soul or something.

So why don't I? I fear my own strength and aggression. I don't want any gal of mine to get hurt. But footsie is a good way to unlock the inner wild animal I try so hard to keep in its cage. Even so, it's a refreshing change of pace from the usual of what I get from women: nothing but small talk and more talk. Often with no actions to back it up.

[kholland65]

Personally I would consider it flirting.

However, too many girls are playful like this and will do this kind of stuff with no meaning to it. As a result, I still think its flirtatious, but it most likely cause me to act. It's just not enough to assure me this girl isn't just being friendly and playful. I've been burned far to many times by playing into this very assumption and asking the girl out all because every little playful gesture I took as flirting.

I think the problem is that guys are much less naturally flirtatious. Obviously both genders project their own personalities onto the other gender, in other words, we assume they think and act like us. So since most guys don't go around playing footsy with girls, this action would stand out to us since its not a normal thing. We know that for us as a guy, we would do this only if we were interested in with a girl, so we assume the mindset is the same in women, but many times its not the case, hence the reason so many guys fall for their friends.

[AmberOryx]

I'd say footsie is very flirty, but then again it depends even more on to the guys reaction to the act. For me personally it's downright asking for more physical contact for I would never touch a guy like that unless I'd wish to sleep with him. Many men seem to think the same.

[AnonymousGlRL]

This is just my me but I don't really like anyone touching any part of me with their feet, shoe on or off. But lots of people may find it to be fun and flirty and some people even have foot fetishes.

[gogogidget]

I've dated a couple of guys who had foot fetishes, so chances are he'd go for it. Try it. If it gets awkward be like, oh, sorry, didn't mean to kick you. :p

[TwistedLogic]

Physical flirtation is much more forward than verbal flirtation. It manifests a clear interest in the person you are doing it with. I would interpret a game of footsie as a welcoming sign for more physical interaction in the future, which means I would become creative and start looking for other reasons to touch her more often.

I advise you to go for it.

Good luck.

[martyfellow]

Well, Lana, for me it's about the sexiest move a female can make without taking off her clothes, or mine! I'd assume she has an EXTREME attraction to me, and also is totally lacking in shyness, to boot! No pun intended. OK, the pun was intended...and so are the consequences of 'playing footsie' with someone.

[JOSHisAdude]

If every woman knew how turned on this makes a man feel.

Oh yes ma'am!

Do it do it do it do it do it

Very flirtatious. Very enticing.

Use your eyes too.

Do it in public: much secrect embarasment.

But it also means you want more, so this would be too out there for you.

[BasedBaeBecca]

haha it's cute and definitely flirty 😆 go for it!

it also depends what type of friendship/relationship you guys have already - if you've known each-other since childhood or have shared friends then I probably wouldn't (to avoid awkwardness) - but if it's a new or casual friend it could be a subtle way of letting them know you're interested without being too full on 😉

[jeston]

its old.. well me I don't like people touching my feet. I mean if you like someone just tell him how you feel or do a friendly push.. if you like someone I think you should tell them because I could be just playing footise with someone but not like them.. I don't know I've never don't it

[AshBrown]

Oh boy oh boy ! If you were wearing closed shoes, I am not sure bow I will feel although I would indeed take it as a sign... Who wouldn't ? However, if I could see your feet a d if I found them attractive or pretty, it would me the biggest f****g turn on for me.

[AshBrown]

*it would be*

[InquisitiveMale]

I would interpret it as an advancement and a display of interest. I miss playing footsie. I haven't done it since college. People get so boring as they grow older :(

[InquisitiveMale]

It's forward. I didn't read that part about your question. I consider it a weak form of seduction, an open invitation for something a little more physical.

[lana77]

thanks for your input! and if you don't mind my asking...how should I start it haha? like just playfully kick him in the foot or something? and is it okay to do it with shoes on?

[InquisitiveMale]

I think take your foot and rub it on the inside calf. Be all seductive and stuff.

Kick him in the foot. haha. Funny girl.

[InquisitiveMale]

and eye f*ck him while you do it. I bet he blushes. lol.

[JOSHisAdude]

Questions asker: start it off small with just a small area of contact. Or start by rubbig you big toe pn the front of his leg

[stepyo99]

I don't have a foot fetish so it's not as much of a turn-on for me as it is for some guys apparently, but any sort of play fighting/wrestling/footsie from a girl I would 100% without doubt consider her to be flirting with me.

[posted]

If he's one of the guys who go nuts on designer shoes and sh*t he'd prob rage. If not mildly flirty, verbal suggestions or something would be better, or just telling him.

[twice-shy]

Wear a pair of sandals or slides so that you can slide your foot out for this procedure.

If a female would do it to me, she would at least end up with a great foot massage ;)

[BadApple69]

My opinion…. Games are for kids. Take a chance, just kiss him. Pull the bandage off quick! If he is interested you’ll know really quick.

[AviatorTom]

Playing Footsie is definitely flirting. Depending on how high your foot goes on your partner's leg, the sexier it becomes.

[Fireguy17]

I know Mr happy would be very interested.
It's flirty, but more serious flirty.
Not like a touch on the arm, this is more deliberate.

[Popnlock]

Yea it lets me know your interested... When it happened to me I was shocked but also turned on lol

[islands7]

... that you have more randy ideas in mind ... interesting enough to pursue

[Anonymous]

I think it's a pretty innocent and sweet way to flirt. Going elsewhere with the feet gets a little more sexual, but just shoe on shoe is sweet :-)

[Consultant]

That was totally the thing to do back in 5th grade!

[Anonymous]

Lol depending on the guy, that could really make a guy turned on...shoes on or off.

[moviedude714]

it would be more hot sexy if she was doing it with sandals

[Xwtxx]

My feet is too sensitive for this game. This will upset me.