Is dancing two-step with some one cheating???

[louiseee]

Well, according to a very determined guy on here, I am basically cheating on my boyfriend when a guy asks me to two-step with him and I agree...even though my boyfriend said that it is OK because my boyfriend hates dancing.

I am not a good dancer by any means, so it isn't an insecurity thing. My boyfriend is not jealous because he knows I wouldn't let anyone cross lines. I love my boyfriend with my whole heart and we have been together for two and a half years. He knows I wouldn't do anything to jeopardize our relationship.

And I two step with my girlfriends to.

Do y'all think that it's cheating for me to dance two-step with girls and guys, and telling the guys that I have a boyfriend..and my boyfriend says it's fine?

Mind you when I go out, I maybe only dance four times and that's it.

Why do so many people try to say something is wrong when they aren't even in the relationship and the two that are in the relationship are fine. UGH

Rant over

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+1 y

HAHA, guess which ANON is most likely redtide.

[MrAtticusLebowski]

Ummm...maybe in some super-judgmental small town where dancing was only legalized recently lol

No it's not cheating. LIKE... at all. You two aren't groping each other on the dance floor are you now.

Dude's, or anyone that thinks this are out of line and probably very controlling/jealous.

BTW... looking at your location...this scenario probably takes place in Texas? Then probably, this probably constitutes cheating for a woman in Texas. I use to live in TX, not trying to bash in any way.

[louiseee]

Haha, we don't consider it cheating here. That's why we are fine with it :)

[MrAtticusLebowski]

whew! then you're golden. You have to be wary of some of the comments/advice on here. It's hard for most not to project their own bias on certain issues. I mean, I've never had a good experience at a McDonald's therefore I always side against them in an argument(for example).

[louiseee]

Man, last time I had Mcdonalds I had some serious runs. Never eating there again. ;( Never want to torture my asshole like that again

[dodgypirate]

Redtide was bang out of order.

Dancing with other guys when your boyfriend knows is NOT cheating.

Now if he didn't know it would be a slightly different scenario, even if you told the other guys you had a Boyfriend.

[Eva_Grace]

No I wouldn't say so at all. You're with him in a committed relationship and he knows that. He also knows that your dancing with another guy and is alright with that because he hates dancing. If he realizes it and doesn't haven a problem with it I don't see it as cheating at all. If he didn't know and wouldn't want you to then I think it would become more gray area.

[Marsupilami]

No, that guy is just picking on you. If your boyfriend is okay with it then that's fine. It's none of his business and he needs to leave off to be honest. You ain't done anything wrong.

[kerouac5]

It is not wrong at all, its just dancing, and if your boyfriend says its OK, that's the only opinion that should matter. :-)

[louiseee]

THAT'S WHAT I SAID! And he just doesn't listen.

[kerouac5]

Just ignore him, you don't have to justify what you did, because you didn't DO ANYTHING!

[LoganK]

Not cheating at all! I swing dance with other girls when I have a girlfriend and its just a dance.

I can see how it might be considered cheating by the other guy. if the two are just friends or are not interested in each other, like you just wanting to dance, with the guys hand on the hip, girls hand on the guys bicep or shoulder and the two have a noticeably "large" gap between the two of them I wouldn't see a problem. if the guy has his arm wrapped around the girls lower back, and the girl has her arm wrapped around the back of his neck and there is nearly no space between them, almost like they are grinding, I could see how the body language there could give the impression your girlfriend/boyfriend doesn't appear to be faithful.

[Anonymous]

I can see how some dances could be seen as cheating, since some of them aren't much different than a lap dance, but the two step is a really innocent dance. Everyone has different standards for what is cheating. As long as you are honest with your boyfriend and he is okay with it, I would say whatever the two of you agree on would not be cheating.

[louiseee]

Oh yea if it was grinding or some crap neither of us would feel comfortable.

[Jsonason]

I don't see any problem whatsoever, redtides existence being the exception. Nobody involved has a problem with it so how could there be one?

..and imo, if your partner can't handle you dancing with another person it's high time to move on. That kind of jealousy isn't healthy.

[Hans222]

It's a very good sign for your relationship that your boyfriend trusts you dancing with a guy. Mutual confidence is the key to chemistry. Enjoy, you have met THE guy!

[louiseee]

Aw, thank you!

[Dandeus]

A pretty large number of guys on here are misanthropic, bitter douche bags, so take what he said with a giant grain of salt.

[louiseee]

Love this

[Anonymous]

It's just dancing... whoever told you it's cheating he's deeply stupid. Even if your boyfriend is not OK, it's not cheating, you're not doing anything wrong, it's just f-ing dancing!

[louiseee]

Well, if my boyfriend was not OK with it (EX: he wouldn't be OK with grinding), then I would considering it to be cheating and betrayal if I did something he was uncomfortable with and that dance is blatantly sexual. I feel the same way as he does.

[Opinion Owner]

If your boyfriend wasn't OK with you dancing with others (and I say DANCING, not GRINDING), then your boyfriend has a problem (and you should find a new boyfriend). Dancing is just dancing, a sport, a funny activity. People who sexualize dancing are sick.

[louiseee]

Yea like ballroom dancing and junk is not sexual. Most of them anyway ha

[jackhammer900]

well some girls would tell you a blow job is not cheating

[louiseee]

Those girls are messed up then. His weiner.. is in your mouth. And you can contract and spread STDs. Cheating.

[justthetruth]

This is all about the comfort level of those in the relationship. If you and your partner know you would not cross any lines that you have set as a couple then there are no issues. I was on the opposite end of this in 2 previous relationships. I love to dance and for me it was more about an outlet for creative expression and never anything sexual with another person.

[SandraSlip]

I know dancing couples who dance salsa and even bachata (closer than and more sensual than salsa) and some of them ar in relationships. It really shouldn't a big deal.

[Deviouscourage]

Dancing in general with another person may/may not be considered cheating.

I think this revolves around insecurities and jealousy.

[shiller]

Are you serious? Unless you're grinding against each other then it can't be classified that way. You should tell your friend to check out sensual Bachata or even better Kizomba.

[louiseee]

HAHA. Thank you

[TheOneTurv]

nope not at all, now if it was slow dancing or grinding? Different story and I would be kinda mad.

But if its alright with your boyfriend then go ahead!

[louiseee]

Oh hell yea. I told him what that guy was saying and my boyfriend was like "It's two step.. not grinding..." and we both agree that we would be comfortable with the dirty dancing ones.

[TheOneTurv]

then go ahead your good :D

Good luck!

[pooper89]

the guy who said that was just trying to be an asshole

[doctorwhofan23]

In my book he gave you permission and it is not like dirty dancing. It is not cheating.

[Anonymous]

It depends on the totality of circumstances.

Are you coming here looking for validation? You already seem to have your mind made up. You answered your own question. Go dance with whoever you want. Nobody here is going to stop you.

[yaddayaddayadda02]

It is not cheating. Final answer

[louiseee]

Voila

[bh6676r942]

Well it can be perceived as cheating but I wouldn't call it that

[Hamburgers]

Lmao, God no.

Although, I concede that 'I' wouldn't like it. Dancing is historically linked to sex, lust, and intimacy.

[Anonymous]

I am so jealous.

and why move to OH?

and why do you live with him?

[louiseee]

Ohio because his family is there. And I live with him because I want to

[Opinion Owner]

not Christian?

[louiseee]

Both our families are Christian? Why

[Opinion Owner]

but you have sex?

[louiseee]

As do my divorced parents with their new boyfriend/girlfriend. Are you really about to judge me because I sin differently than you do? You are not perfect and neither am I. Romans 3: 10 "As it is written: “None is righteous, no, not one; " All sins are equal in your God's eyes. Joe and I are Agnostic. But before you judge us, look at yourself.

[Opinion Owner]

Romans 1:24

[louiseee]

Congrats on missing my point. You sin too, our sins are equal. Everyone sins. And when I get married, I can ask for forgiveness for having sex before I was married and I'll be forgiven. You, you are never going to stop judging people for sinning differently. You can't ask for forgiveness unless you change your behaviour. I'm done with this though, your obviously too hopeless and too much of a hypocritical Christian who can't understand his own religion.

[Anonymous]

no. he should be happy you didn't grind on him :)