I can't stand being stared at! I'm tired of all the attention. How to deal with this?

[Anonymous]

So I guess I'm pretty or something or at least that's what my friends and boyfriend say when I complain about getting stares. I'm that "ugly duckling that grew to be a swan". I spent a large portion of my life being awkward; physically and socially and not really caring about my appearance. I've grown out of that phase and while I appreciate my physical features, I don't really think they're all that stunning. Anyhow, I get A LOT of stares and to be totally honest: IT'S EFFING ANNOYING.
I don't like the attention. I find it rude for people to stare for extended time. I'm not interested in being recognized for my hair or a**. I'm sick of guys eye-balling me all the time. I value quality over quantity meaning I'd rather have one amazing, lovely, wonderful guy give me attention than 30 guys who are most likely to disappoint me or be jerks. And I'm already taken so the attention is just awkward.

What should I do? I don't want to be rude, but at the same time, I wish people would keep their eyes to themselves! It's becoming a noticable thing where I can feel people's eyes on me and it's just aggravating. I'm pretty sure that my big, curly hair and large butt/tiny waist has something to do with it : /

What's the best way to handle this? Should you just ignore them? Should you say something? I don't want to be rude, but this is really becoming a pet-peeve of mine. I can't stand the excessive attention. Maybe it's my wallflower tendencies coming back lol but I don't like having all those eyes on me.

[shygirl16]

I completely understand where you are coming from. For the firs 13-14 years of my life, I was hideous, then I matured when I was 15, and now I get stared at very often. It is very annoying, but if you don't respond to the stares, and are slightly rude, or just not overly polite, most guys eventually get the hint. Other than wearing very unattractive clothes and no makeup, there's no other way to get rid of it. I personally don't mind the stares as much, but when a guy that I don't know comes up and starts flirting, I am as cold as possible without being all-out rude until they get the hint and move on. So far, this method has worked for me! :)

[Anonymous]

Try to put a poker face or your meanest face on when you are walking around, that would keep them from trying to talk to you, at least. That's what works for me. And if people are just staring, I would just walk away. When I can't just walk away and guys just keep staring, I would just look at them as if I'm asking "What the hell are you looking at?"

[Asker]

: / see, I've thought about doing that but I really don't want to because I love spreading positive vibes all over : /

[Anonymous]

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[AustinMan]

Don't take it personally. It's just their bad behavior. Let it roll off unless someone breaches an intimate boundary. Then respond. I have always felt some sympathy for young women who are very attractive because of just what you're talking about. Is your mom very attractive?

[islands7]

Been there, done that with gals like you...

[islands7]

first understand what/why of the stares... ugly is all around us and models are few... only on TV/movies some will say so they can't believe your looks... mmm... is it makeup? mmmm there must be something some flaw that makes her... more like us.. what IS it? Others might be thinking... now how can I be friends or more with her? mmmm

[islands7]

The cover gals, stewardesses, etc. of my day got used to this, certainly by college and played the game with nice dinners out, ignoring the whole place turning to gaze, focusing on their date (even if it was me).

[islands7]

Some might dress down, even baseball caps... others would dress up!

[islands7]

You'll probably need help from the beauty salon and a good dress store to figure out The Look you desire to avoid gazing

[Asker]

hmmm interesting. I'm just a girl. Just a normal girl with a normal life who has made your typical normal mistakes and bad decisions like everyone else. Having a pretty outter shell isn't some key to miraculously evading life's BS.

[Asker]

I just find it to be rude and annoying. It's so awkward when someone is staring at you for over 20 seconds. Maybe I'm just weird but I'd like to just not really be noticed. I don't care to have attention unless it's from my boyfriend, family, a friend, or just someone whom I really value. Other than that, I don't really give a f*ck about being noticed so it's just really aggravating.

[islands7]

I have no clues on how to change this world - most people are IQ under 110 it seems. I DO recall a model or two staring back at them - some wilted some ran... haha

[kheserthorpe]

You can't have one amazing guy notice you and not 30 jerks. You either take all 31, or nobody.

You're going to have to put up with this for another decade or two. Then it will rarely happen for the rest of your life.

[KhaysunDei]

I'm sorry but this is karma. Because you were once ugly and ignored, you are now pretty and desired for. a similar thing is happening to me but i will not admit it (let's just leave it as I THINK). But the best way is just to ignore people or better yet, get a boyfriend to be around you so people won't stare.

[Anonymous]

Take it as flattering. It's a compliment that they're looking at you. If you don't like it, either change your attitude or limit your time in crowded public spaces.

Other than that, there's nothing you can do.

[mario1321]

Seems like your a little inside your own head meaning noticing others staring at you next time it happens start picking your nose