If a guy loves a girl truly, why does he sleep with another girl?

First, let me affirm you as the wonderful person, and woman, you are. There is no doubt in my mind, or spirit, that you are a beautiful, vivacious, sexy, woman. The problem is not with your appearance, or you in general. The problem is, this guy is not willing to grieve the loss of a relationship and process the pain he is experiencing. This is one of the worst forms of cowardice, since he is dragging you into an impossible position, wanting you to replace someone he refuses to let go of. By refusing to grieve that relationship, he has maintained it, literally bringing her to bed every time he has had sex with you. Notice I am saying he had sex with you. He was not making love to you, because, he was using your body to fulfill his desires for her.

This relationship is not healthy. At most, from his side, it is only around 4% of the less than 20% physical (appearance, affection, sex, etc.) required for a healthy, long term relationship. It is less than 5% of the 25% that is emotional (feelings, vulnerability and investment). It is also less than 3% of the 25% that is mental (decisions to risk, discipline thoughts, and commit). With regard to the most important aspect of love, which makes up more than 30%, he is probably not on the chart. Spiritual intimace means allowing someone else to reach that level of you where your identity is no longer protecting the real you. It requires trust at levels that leave you absolutely vulnerable to another person, or God Himself, with no protective mechanisms or barriers in the way. It requires intimacy between your spirit and the spirit, or Spirit, you seek intimacy with. It requires the investment of everything you have decided, developed, and learned to utilize to protect, and identify, yourself, in a relationship that will redefine you into the person you were meant to be. He has soul ties to this other woman that are allowing her to define him spiritually, much more powerfully than you can. These must be broken, or you might as well leave.

Love does not force itself on anyone. It pursues you until you recognize its desire is not to hurt, but to heal, affirm and develop the real you. It allows pain at times in order to peel away the layers of identity that don't belong, which keep us from becoming who, and what, we were made to be. It is patient, kind, long suffering and quiet. It does not get upset when you scream at it. It does not dismiss your pain, but seeks to lead you through the pain to the freedom on the other side. It does not ask you to cope, or protect, but to trust and allow it to protect the real you. It never forces its opinion on anyone, speaking in a soft, affirming voice, differentiating between you and your behaviors, affirming you, even while confronting your behavior.

The best way to learn about love is to read the ultimate love letter. The Bible is not a law, a historical fiction, or a hammer to beat people with. The Bible is God's love letter to us, in which

That guy has no honour. Sounds like he's used to charming females but really doesn't care about their feelings at all. Like totally uses them for his own selfish needs. Never mind want he says or wants. . You give but ya gotta think what you need to and if you're not getting it then get rid. Actions speak louder than words. Trouble is you fell in love with someone who wasnt being honest about his feelings. now that the truth comes out and he's treating you terribly badly. That's no basis for a relationship. You need to ditch him too and not listen to any more of his charm. He needs to get over his ex by himself but going by previous behaviour he's just as likely to do to you what he did to her. You don't want to be the stepping the stone. You deserve so much more. You can't judge all guys by this guy. normal looking girls with good heart's beat hot with no heart every time. but u'know even hot girls can be insecure about their looks. Even ones who are big flirts. She's doomed with guys who are only after her for her looks. Just because you think she's better looking, she won't be any happier. I mean she was with your other half, who's a poor excuse for a guy.