Do Men Or Women Hurt the Hardest After A Break-Up? (Page 2)

[Robbey]

Whoever was the most emotionally invested will hurt the most.

[MyExperience]

grief, loss, or sorrow are not gender specific traits.

[Anonymous]

If a man finds a hotter women, he all of the sudden stops caring about the old woman

[ManOnFire]

Hm. True. And interesting.

[smg99]

I don’t know many men who sincerely grieve it , shortly before giving in to a new temptation just as women do.
Rationality is the governing center in males, whilst emotion is to women.

[Pejtu]

the one who loved more definetly - it hurts this person much much more then u can think even

[dy8alexUk]

Both men and women hurt. some guys take it in there stride. It hurt me I was with wife 30 years it took me 2 years to heal I was glad I had my little York dog candy she helpt ease the pain

[Lizalogan]

Both depending on who it is and also why it has happened.

[Timelesswisdom]

It's usually men who hurt the worst, they tend to have a deeper attachment and don't feel their partner is as expendable or easily replaceable as most modern women do.

[ManOnFire]

That's what I said, yes.

[mr_mxy]

I thought the section talking about women not caring as much was particularly interesting and certainly agree for the most part its true.

[Nikkismith]

whoever was more emotionally invested in the relationship

[Dalisay]

I think women take it harder at first, but men take a long time to get over it.

[Browneye57]

Too much drivel. But yeah, guys do. Women are biologically programmed to move on, it's part of their solipsistic nature. It's built in.

[smg99]

It’s not part of our nature it’s groomed by society to not speak out, move on and understand that a mans’ choice is out of their control.
Now please don’t say we crave control, other functions of life need attention to so that life doesn’t come to a halt.

Such as a break up with children involved or a high paying career that expects a lot from the women.

We are multi taskers however the short grieving process is not a luxury most can afford.

[Browneye57]

@smg99 - "We are multi taskers however the short grieving process is not a luxury most can afford."

WTF? What does this even mean? Do you know what convuluted means?

Women are programmed to move on - it's part of their survival nature, their self preservation, it benefits them and their offspring. It comes from a bazillion years of biological programming - for every war the men were killed and the women and children taken into the new society. Women had to let go and move on to survive and to protect their children.

Men love idealistically. It kills them when it fails.
Women love opportunistically. They're plugged in as long as it suits and satisfies their needs and wants. When it quits doing that they shut down sexually, cheat bail or any combination. It's just reality.

75% of divorces are initiated by women. This proves it. They move on easier than men. If you don't believe it then you're just not well connected to what is real and what is fantasy.

[smg99]

You just can’t see past it’s deeper meaning in essence it’s summarized view of your rambling.

[smg99]

I grieve everything and we are always not exposed to life threatening situations.
Then what else can we feel?
Sorry for being snappy, it’s because I too feel annoyed at certain outcomes. This makes me grieve and I definitely agree with others here; who say grief depends on your degree and intensity of investment.

[PinkMichae]

I don't think one sex takes it harder than the other. I think it depend on the Individual.

[Logorithim]

Good thoughts here. I've always thought it was men.

[strateguy632]

women hurt more. i move on fast. also they feel used due to environmental attitudes, and forget they enjoyed and wanted.

[esotericstory]

I feel that women always want to make you feel as bad as possible in case of a break up no matter if you break up with her, or she breaks up with you. I feel that therefore men hurt more.

[ManOnFire]

I kinda think the same thing, yeah.

[OvershareGamer]

Well according to the national suicide rate. Men are far more beaten from it. Also women tend to get over it quicker.

[Shera63]

Honestly, both parties hurt. It's just men and woman process break-ups differently.

[Cherrylicious]

Women because most men are heartless, inconsiderate, and selfish.

[UglyestGuyEver]

True, and after reading this comment on going to try and become more heartless and selfish to females

[Cherrylicious]

@UglyestGuyEver Triggered by honesty😂😂😂

[UglyestGuyEver]

Not really... Jus triggered by the simple fact your trying to insult us and belittle us strictly for the purpose of trying to upset us... That what pisses me off... Not the fact were heartless unloving beings... I have no problems admitting that

[VIVANT]

@UglyestGuyEver

I don’t think she was trying to insult I think she was genuine

So if you actually agre then I see no reason to be upset

And if you ageeehow can you be upset.. if you think you are naturally cruel then why be bothered by anything at all.. when I Rome 🤷‍♀️

[UglyestGuyEver]

@VIVANT I like milk

[ericzaine]

I would argue plenty of women these days are spoilt and inconsiderate and want men for only their wealth.

[daisydukeso]

Or maybe you're rude to them so they are rude back

[genericname85]

obviously the one who got rejected or broken up with.