Fuckboy: someone you're dating casually or someone you're having sex with who is not that interested in you
Characteristics of a Fuckboy
- Inconsistency
- With how much you hear from them
- With how they show affection
- With their expectations from you
- If inconsistency stays stagnant or grows over time, it's a bad sign
- Not making plans in advance
- "What are you up to later tonight... let's grab a drink" kind of texts
- Excuses to why they don't want a relationship with you
- This includes:
- I want to focus on my career
- I'm afraid of commitment
- Let's just enjoy what we have
- I don't want to ruin our friendship
- I don't deserve you
- My ex really hurt me
- I want to take things slow (when he wants to do other things rather quickly)
- This includes:
- They tell you the truth
- They'll straight up tell you they aren't looking for anything right now, and when they say this you best believe them!
Getting Over a Fuckboy
- Don't give yourself cheat days
- Admit that you have an addiction and that the relationship is doing more harm than good, that they're no longer good for you
- Remember short-term pain for long-term gain, the worse the addiction is the harder it will be at first
- Realize wanting them back is toxic
- Your ego gets hurt when someone you love decides they don't want to be with you or chooses someone else over you
- After this your ego just wants to fix and stop whatever is making them feel less than, taking them back is seen as a fix
- Convincing yourself that they deserve a get out of jail free card because if xyz is also your ego trying to fix things, is this the advice you would give to a friend?
- Block them
- Make sure they don't have any access to you
- Don't reach out
- Don't stay friends
- Don't ask yourself why things ended
Sincerely,
Someone trying to get over a fuckboy
Information is from the book Don't Text Your Ex Happy Birthday
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