I don't understand my ex boyfriend.

[Anonymous]

Five months ago today my ex left me because he had fallen out of love, supposedly. He's had three girlfriend since then, been with the third for two months. He was always the one who wanted to stay friends, always the one who contacts me first. For a while after he got with his latest girlfriend we barely spoke. But now he thinks I have a boyfriend (and no, I haven't set him straight, nor do I plan to) and he's suddenly telling me he considers me his best friend and he wants to help if I have any problems. The thing is, I don't understand why he's suddenly acting so caring again when he didn't seem interested at all for quite a while. Also, he and I usually spend hours online at a time, and yet he will never speak to me during the day. He usually talks every other day, but only in the evening when his girlfriend is not online. He told me just the other day that he has to stop himself talking about me in front of his girlfriend...before hastily adding 'only as a friend of course'.Surely that means I'm at least on his mind? Any opinions on this? I'm really confused.

[dieselgirl]

Yeah this kinda happened with me except I really do have a boyfriend haha

I talked to my ex for like a month after we broke up but we stopped altogether because I got pretty depressed over him and I think I scared him off. 4 months later I got my current boyfriend who I've been with for almost 4 months and he has started talking to me again.

I think its one of those things where, once they see that you have moved on and are living without them they try to kinda come back and see get the scoop on your life since you were with them. Maybe he is interested again now that you're not availible, maybe he's not.

either way I would try to distance myself from him again. I am a firm believer that you shouldn't get back with an ex because something between the two of you happened and there is a reason you broke up...

[gottaluvestrogen]

Sounds like you picked a player who is good at playing the game. What he did to you he is probably going to do with his current girlfriend when they break up. He tells girls what they wanna hear. He keeps a girl friend and his side girls. He probably knows you still like him so try not showing him that you care as much or he may go back to you when he is done with this one. I would stay away until you get over him

[elanag1]

Wow I know how this feels. I have an ex who does the same thing to me. He only talks to me at night when he is home from being out with his new gf. He says he doesn't care about me like that, yet he acts like he does. The only thing I can think of is He still cares but is fighting it, for whatever reason.

[Asker]

That's exactly what I thought. Well I backed down and told him how I feel. Messing around was pointless, so now he knows I love him. And amazingly we seem even closer now. But he's still with this girl, so I'm still confused.

[elanag1]

My ex has known that I love him for years. We go back and forth between being really close to not talking at all.

[That-Guy]

Sounds like a lot of drama. I'd avoid him all together.

[lou_lah]

He sounds completely like my ex. Doesn't want to know you when he's got someone else to preoccupy him, yet is all over you when it suits him. He's being all "friendly" now because he's jealous of the fact that you may of moved on and just wants you to keep him in the back of your mind so you don't forget about him. I would avoid him!

[Anonymous]

what's there to understand? he's your ex bf...

learn from the experience, but do not dwell on him...