Boyfriend slept with someone else while we were on a break?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I have been together over a year. Our relationship was amazing. He bought me flowers every week, took me on dates, and just treated me like a princess. But we did bicker a lot, and this caused my boyfriend to want to take a break for a little bit since we were fighting so much. During our break I found out he was talking to multiple different girls, giving away his phone number and going out with his friends ALOT, while I was home, crying over him. I recently found out a yesterday, that he slept with another girl just two days ago. We've been broken up for over a month now. This entire time he's been telling me he stil loves me, and eventually wants to work things out, but then he sleeps with another girl? I feel sick to my stomach just thinking about it. I told him to never talk to me again when I found out, and he has been blowing up my phone constantly begging me and saying he knows how much he messed up, and it was a mistake and he loves me and crying to me. Should I just move on? Or give him another chance. I know he technically didn't cheat on me since we were not together, but it still hurts! I know this isn't the guy I fell in love with, he's changed, and he knows that. I just want my old boyfriend back that made me feel so special. What should I do? Try and move past this an give him another chance an start brand new? Or move on?

[Jim4ask]

Okay... Look, I don't know where are you from... you shouldn't give him another chance if you're not from US!
and if you are... so give him another chance because... he is a very good guy that slept just with one girl!!!

but actually if you want a LOVE... that's not a good choice.. He doesn't love you, if he does, he would not sleep with another girls or exchange number... I can say for sure... If He is not strong enough to watch his lust then he could not watch his LOVE... It's simple...
But if you loves him so much and don't care to these... talk to him and ask why he did that? maybe he had a good reason if he had then you can give him another chance!!!
Hope Be Helpful ;)

[Anonymous]

"We've been broken up for over a month now."

Perhaps you don't know what breaking up with someone means.
He is a free agent, and can sleep with whoever he wants, once you two are broken up.

"I know he technically didn't cheat on me since we were not together, "
Well you don't act like you know this. You act like you're going to blame him for the crime he didn't do, and hold him responsible for it.

" I just want my old boyfriend back that made me feel so special."

Yeah, of course you do. He sounded great. But you know what? You treated him badly, took him for granted, and bickered so much that he had to get away.

You don't DESERVE that boyfriend any more.

[Anonymous]

Tell him you're over it. Move on, girl.

[Professor_Zoom]

There's no such thing as a break. A break is when someone has other options, and the other person is stupid enough to agree to a break so the other person can explore those options. The only reason why he's still saying that he loves you is because those girls are still on a strictly sexual basis with him. You're just a place holder until he either meets someone else he would rather spend some relationship time with, or he gets tired and goes back to you. If this is really hurting you that much, then you need to break things off for real.

[TornByBalance]

I don't think he deserves feeling like he's losing you because you can't understand what a break means. If you're asking if you should move on or not then make the decision not because he slept with other girls, but because he asked for a break in the first place. Don't play stupid with yourself either; everyone still gets attracted to other people when they are in the most committed relationships. If he made you feel so special then why did you guys bicker so much? Was it because he felt unappreciated, or was it something else? These things need to be calmly discussed in person.

[Shaggy5150]

He did nothing wrong. You were broken up. You expected him to do nothing because you were doing nothing.
The relationship is over. Move on. You have no chance of reconciliation because you will hold this over him forever and not forget about it. You would both just be miserable.
You are young. You both are going through, and will continue to go through changes. Don't tie yourself down at this point in your life. Let life happen. There will be better men you find.
He was unhappy and broke it off. He did the right thing. He didn't cheat on you. He ended it so he could meet other women.
Let him go, heal, learn from this and move on with your life.

[Anonymous]

This is why breaks are stupid. Break up or don't break up. 'Going on a break' is asking for trouble. That said...
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[markscott]

He is telling you have much he values you, by him getting with other girls. It's time to cut your losses, and move on to someone better.

[kheserthorpe]

Your old boyfriend is gone.

Maybe you two can make a new relationship that works better, maybe not.

[yaddayaddayadda02]

You were on a break. Fair game. Since you can't seem to get over it, it might be best to part ways.

[Vesta]

YOU WERE ON A BREAK!