I thought I moved on, but in fact I was waiting for some news before getting back to my ex. We broke up because of circumstances, but these circumstances are no more and I tried to contact her (although I said I would not in order to move on). But she blocked my number, I called and called and left a few messages. It's like breaking up all over again, first time was more than a month ago, and I never thought the excruciating pain would be back.
But I need to sleep, I am important personal matters that require me in full capacity. During the day, I can keep busy and not feel crushed by that "second break up", but at night... It is impossible for me to sleep, nothing to distract me from the pain. I did manage to get some sleep the first night, by using the good memories I have of my ex. Remembering the first kiss, what I love about her, the romance, living in fantasy, it made the pain go away and I could actually sleep.
Is it healthy to use that to go to sleep? I can't help but feel like this is only going to make things worse. I feel that every night I'm taking a step backwards by letting the memories flow unbridled. But it is still healthier than drinking myself to sleep, and I can't afford spending all night completely awake, this will destroy me.
What the hell am I supposed to do?
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Im going through the same thing right now. although he was never my bf, im still moving on from him because i know that he's not right for me. He doesn't even care about me, doesn't even contact me. at first, i use the same technique, using our happy and good memories together to forget the pain and fall into sleep. most of the times, he's even in my dreams.
but later I've realized that doing all those reminiscing (good or bad memories) will just hold me back. i will be stuck in the moving on phase if i keep on thinking about those memories. sometimes, my brain creates these happy and fun memories that didn't really happen in real life, just to be happy. whenever i start thinking about him, i automatically stop and talk to myself (silently) that i need to move on and forget about him. i force my brain to think of other things. i listen to music that isn't related to him and doesn't make me think about him. i watch action/horror/comedic movies. avoid watching romantic movies cause it will only make you think about her. i go out a lot. just walking outside, buying things that would make me happy.
always do things that will make you happy and not think about her. if she suddenly pops into your head, immediately stop that feeling/memory. You have to control your brain. Right now, im still on the process of moving on. Good luck to the both of us!0