It's complicated with my ex-girlfriend, any suggestions?
What Girls Said 1
Just because two people Break up doesn't mean they don't and can't Make up and that it's Good-bye, my love forever. And with two people being an "EX" that still Marks an X in their hearts, many times over, it's One of the Other who uses the Term... Indecisive.
It appears with her telling you this here, dear, she is not sure she is ready nor raring to be back in a Real Relationship right now. She still cares about you, wants you back in her life, but doesn't want to be hooked at the hip at this given moment in time.
Go slow with her flow. Perhaps going Slow, nursing and nurturing even a Friendship to start, may be the best thing to do. This way it's like a fresh beginning to an even better beguine and won't go down a beaten path, which ended up to be a War of the Roses.
However, don't let her take advantage of you either. Her call for Help the other night may be a habit she will get into and always feel you will pick up the pieces... With no strings attached.
Talk things over, even if you have to set down some rules. Tell her you don't mind helping at times but don't always expect you to jump through hoops, especially when... I was in bed. This could become a problem and a full circle pattern.
Don't stand on ceremonies with who should text who first. If you feel like sending a "Hi" this is fine, no one says you have to over do it or overthink it as well.
I don't know who broke up with who and if it was her, then yes, be civil, lite and semi sweet, and let her do some of the Initiation, I will put this. But with this, don't end up to be an Enabler either, where she takes advantage of the situation or of you.
I don't think so much it is 'Going to fast,' but it it Is... Going in a direction which I see could end up sour and just be this: "Hey, buddy, thanks for all the favors." That in itself will not get you back with her, just enable her to to have her cake and eat it too.
Good luck. xx0
What Guys Said 1
It's one for one buddy.. one for one
But don't give her a reason and text first0
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