Well there's an older man I've been hooking up with for almost a year. I thought he was different than he turned out to be, and I hoped to have a relationship with him... I don't think he wants one at this time from what he has implied, and acts as though he never wants to get married. He seems to enjoy being single a lot.
I'm moving to the city next year, and I suppose he will probably spend the rest of his life here... It's a small rural town that he almost grew up in... I dislike the country and am here for limited reasons, and he dislikes the city. So I do know that even if he did want to be with me, there would be the issue and clash of the whole living situation. I am well over 10 years younger than him so if I stayed here it would prevent me from living my life... I honestly would like to tell him the day or two days before I leave how I feel, that I did not only want sex and had strong feelings for him, and wished that we could've been together even though it's not entirely fitting for me... Should I tell him to get closure? How do you think he will respond to it?
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Why does his response matter? At this point, you know him well enough that your future is not with him, so what difference does it make how he responds? Suppose he fell down on his knees and started confessing his love for you; would you trust him? Would you want to stay and be with him? Suppose he says, "Too bad, 'cause I was never gonna fell that way about you, so you just wasted a year of your life"; what do you do with that comment?
On the other hand, if telling him will help you to close the book on this part of your life. . . tell him, but don't have any expectations that you will hear anything encouraging in return.2
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