It's been almost 3 months since my ex broke up with me, and 2 months since we last spoke in person. My ex left some expensive items at my place that I am sure she would want back. When we broke up I asked when she would be coming to get her belongings, and she said "when the dust settles", then we met in person about a month later to talk about the break up (the break up caught me off guard since everything seemed to be going well), and I again asked her when she was coming to get her stuff and her response was "soon". We are now going on 2 months since we last spoke, why hasn't she come to get her stuff? I know it will be awkward, but she is the one who dumped me, if she was fine with meeting to talk, then why is she delaying meeting to get her belongings? I don't want to be a jerk and throw everything away. I really cared about this girl and she knew that. She stayed at my house 4 days before we broke up and acted like everything was fine. She hung out at my house while I went to work (she was waiting for morning traffic to be over before going home), why wouldn't she take her stuff then if she was planning to break up with me 4 days later? I do not want to bring her stuff to her, as I feel it is her responsibility to get her belongings since she was the one who broke up with me, and because I always went out of my way to help her when we were together, like any good boyfriend should. I also don't want to mail it to her since she still owes me $200 for clothes I paid for one day when she forgot her wallet in her other purse. She promised to pay me back while we were together and never did. I didn't care about the money until after we broke up (I paid for these items about 3 weeks before she dumped me). Why is she doing this? The break up was unexpected on my part, she kept telling me how good I was to her, how I did everything right and that she couldn't have asked for a better guy (I'm assuming these were all lines since she dumped me).
Why hasn't my ex girlfriend picked up her belongings after dumping me?
What Girls Said 1
She is not being considerate to you. I would reach out and express that this is the third time now that you are asking her about this, but you really need her to come pick up her belongings. They are an inconvenience to you, and an unnecessary reminder of her lack of presence, for that matter. You want to respect her belongings, so you haven't thrown anything out, but if she hasn't returned to pick up her things by the end of the week, you're going to throw her things out.
3 months is more than enough time to pick up her belongings. And honestly, how much could that stuff have meant to her if she's been without them for 3 months?
You're not being mean by doing this: you're being assertive, setting a boundary, and sticking up for yourself.0
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What Guys Said 1
I don't know how the legal system works there, but I'd write a notice saying she has 7 days from whenever to pick up her stuff or it would be dumped. Keep a copy of it, and if she hasn't picked it up, get rid of it if you don't want it. You're not a storage company nor her dumping grounds. If she tries to sue, you have proof that you gave her plenty notice.0
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