So my ex-girlfriend and I were together for 1y & 10m (longest she has been in and my only). We had a great relationship. We never argued and I believe there was a lot of love in the relationship. About late February she monkey branched into another relationship and she seemed so confident in her decision. She told me I could move out if the house and move back to my home town, but I didn't. I stayed but she seen my snap of a job application I filled out and she asked me if I was moving. I told her "depends on this job, why?" Then she asked "because why would you move?" and "you really going to move?". For 2 months I have not initiated the texting it has always been her. We started texting a bit and she said "I'm here for you" I said "but you are not truly here like you were" then she followed up "I know, I don't know what's going to happen". Then same day she came to my house when I was not there and cleaned my house. I asked her why and she said "I don't know". Then she left the note that is pictured. She said she wants to meet with me to workout. Is she regretting her decision? What are your experiences with monkey-branching? What does she mean "I dont know what's going to happen"? I still love her to pieces. Thank you for this long story ❤
If she monkey branches to another guy out of the blue, she had been seeing him for a while. Don't take her back.
Instinct tells me she thought she could do better and when the grass wasn't as green on the other side she wants her safety net (you) available if things go south.
It will suck, but don't take her back. If you do, there is a high chance she will do it again when the opportunity presents itself. Not worth your dignity and emotional or mental health. Cut her loose, find a better woman who won't do what she did.
Little before Valentine's day she was acting distant to me. So I defiantly knew something was up. Also she "stayed" at work little later then usual. All the pieces are there of a monkey branch.
They were there and your story here proved that. My point still stands. Don't take her back. If she comes back and you take her back, you are telling her "please do that to me again".
Be polite, but don't take her back and just be upfront. "Look, you are giving me these mixed signals and I don't want any of that drama. I forgive you, but I don't want you back or to try starting over. I value a woman who is transparent and loyal because that is what I desire in a relationship."
Yeah as others have said she regrets it because it didn’t work out with the other guy. You’d have to be a complete moron to take her back regardless of how you feel about her.
Just be prepared for waterworks and attempted guilt trips when you tell her no. She’ll probably do all she can to pull on your heart strings, don’t fall for it.
