Why my Ex ignored me when I asked back for my belongings?

[Anonymous]

I met my ex 2 weeks after our breakup, honestly I wanted him back but he was clear that he's done with me (he said he's not sure about how he feels after breaking his heart) he suggested to stay friends I didn't refuse I just wanted some time to heal first, I thought we ended it on good terms though.. But last week when I texted him to give me back my belongings (I didn't want to meet him I just asked him to drop them in some place) he totally ignored my message... That's making anxious, is he trying to manipulate me?

[TheThingALing]

I don't know about trying to manipulate you but if I was messaged " 'give' me back my belongings" that wouldn't generate a response back from me either. I'd just leave them outside my door too. They your stuff, why is the onus on him to drop them off somewhere? Should be on you.

[Asker]

I actually asked him nicely.. Plus the day we met he was the one who reminded me about that stuff, so I offered to pick them up in the dame day but he wanted to delay that. I told him that It wouldn't be possible to meet another day he said I can drop them for you in some place. So it was his idea in the first place

[TheThingALing]

Well, honestly, if it's stuff you can afford to part ways with, that would probably be best. If he has something you really need back, have someone else come by. If he still doesn't, call the police and tell them what you just want to pick up, and have them escort you. He technically still doesn't have to do anything, but last alternative would be court of it was that important

[Fireguy17]

For whatever reason it is quite possible he is.
Sometimes people do that, possibly revenge because he is or was controlling, so this is his last chance that he do that, or he is a being a butt peanut because you broke up with him, or having your stuff there reminds him of when you were there.
You may need to talk to him face to face and get it resolved so you can move on.

[Avicenna]

Because you're an ex and he doesn't care anymore

[Asker]

I don't care about him either, I just want my things back

[JaxiCats]

I’m not entirely sure, it’s hard to say cuz he could be busy. I remember when I broke up with an ex and he actually smashed my art that I wanted back so in return I didn’t give him his hoodie or anything he gave me, let the watch he gave me collect dust, broke a necklace he gave me and trashed his hoodie tho the goal was actually to burn it but I never did. To this day that relationship remains the most toxic and manipulative relationship I’ve ever been in with the following relationship having emotional detachment towards the end that really fucked with my ability to speak how I felt and thought. My fiancé makes me so happy but it’s such an uphill battle to get to where I want to be because of the trauma caused by others. Anyway exes are more often than not going to be like that unfortunately.

[OlderAndWiser]

He is trying to punish you.

[Christoff92]

He wants to keep a piece of you through your belongings am assuming 🤔

[slatyb]

How valuable are they?

[In_Trance]

Cut your losses and move on

[Asker]

I'd definitely do that, I just wanted to know why he's acting that way

[Emanon25]

He doesn’t want you to leave.

[Anonymous]

He is playing games with you.

[Asker]

Ig he does, but I don't know how to react on that

[spartan55]

@asker
Why does it matter? Just cut your losses and move on.