Hey , me and my boyfriend been together like 6 months we are really close I love him to bits and he loves me. He was diagnosed with lymphoma cancer few weeks ago. He became so cold and never wanted to see me and hardly spoke to me. Then I saw him few days ago I was begging him to see me so he did , he didn’t touch me or kiss me nothing we barely talked. I was crying so much and he cudnt even look at me. Today we broke up he said he is really sorry but we have to face the facts that we can’t be together he wants to be alone and he says he can’t have a girlfriend Cuz of his religion his a muslim and now he wants to be good and I was a sin for him Cuz I was his girl and he cudnt have a girlfriend , he is my first love and I love him so bad , it hurts so much I just want to be with him and help him get trough this , I tell him how much I love him and I’ll always be here by his side no matter what but feels like his not listening help please
Most Helpful Guy
That's not the real reason why he broke up with you. Or at the very least, not the main reason.
He doesn't know if he'll survive. He's preparing the both of you for in case he dies. He broke up with you because by the time you've at least somewhat moved on, him dying won't have as much of a devastating effect on you as it would if you were still together. At least, that's his reasoning for it.
Just think about it: If you not being a Muslim was really the reason why he broke up with you, he would've done so earlier. You know that.1
Most Helpful Girl
I am so very sorry here, dear, about the Cancer and the Long road ahead your boyfriend is going to endure.
He is scared, knowing it is Not 100% that he is going to survive. I am not sure what Stage he is in but with just hearing the "Big C," many people many times shove their loved ones away because they Want... No commitments, just to deal with This horrendous horror alone.
I am married yet to a Muslim out in Egypt and there was a Time when he was sick. It was pretty personal and along with a bad LDR which has been going on ever since I came back to the states 3 years ago, This was just One more topping to the cake that was Topped with no Extra helpings on the side and that Was... Me, a wife.
Some Muslims are this way. They would rather push you away, a wife, a girl who is someone they plan on marrying even, than to allow you to lend a helping hand. In essence, a parent is Number One and even being a wife, I never Was in his life.
He is obstinate and you probably Will have much strife in your own life because you are feeling even more pain right now than he is. You want to be there to make everything better but with his Long struggle of trying to survive and most likely any treatments he will probably have to endure, he doesn't want to have to deal with your heartaches and heartfelt feelings even though you desperately want t be this life line and support for him.
Although he may have went against his religion of Having a 'Girlfriend' back 6 months ago, he may Now be Reaching out more to his Quaran and his God, and Realizes that he is so afraid right now that he doesn't want to Be... Punished anymore than he may feel Allah is punishing him right now.
It is very difficult to be part of a Muslim's life sometimes, married or not. And with you wanting to be there with every once you can muster, it may not be possible and you will find, that 'His religion' Now is his soul mate and the Only thing he will be able to focus on in hopes of living and getting back into Good graces once more.
Give him his space and don't make it hard on yourself by doing anymore Pleading or Needing. If he cares enough, he will at least let you know "You're my friend" and for now, it might be your Last bit of hope.
Good luck and blessings he will be okay. xx2
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