He premeditatedly lied. Made up story to be out of town on business. Long story short...I IMD him to be certain he made it to LA...SHE answered IM to let me know he was in town, did I want to leave a message? I asked if he were in LA she said well no...I asked if she was girlfriend and she said yes! But was from out of town. When he came back IM sure she told him that she had talked to me. HE cheated, I found out and ever since he will NOT communicate in any way with me! WHY ? Not an apology, explanation...nothing! Before he supposedly left he told me he was see me the following Tuesday! Please help me to understand.
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I don’t think there’s anyway to understand unless he opens up enough, and commutates, and apologizes for his actions. But then there’s a question I’d like to understand. Why are you even wanting him to talk to you after he lied to you, once, but also twice? And to top it off, who knows how long he was with that other chick. How long was he lying to you? I just don’t think that’s a person to have as a friend, or a boyfriend at this time.
There may be some time in which you forgive him, but then it’s a question of putting yourself into that risky situation in which you could be hurt once again, not only as a girlfriend, but as a friend. And don’t be so codependent upon why he’s not talking to you. If anyone lies to you twice, and can’t even apologize, or even explain themselves, then there shouldn’t be any communication at all for awhile. He needs to understand that’s it’s not right to treat anyone like that. In away he was just thinking about himself, and his d***. And keep that in mind. He may be so codependent himself that he can’t wait until he gets his d*** wet again.
I hope things get better with you, because you don’t deserve that kind of sh*t from anyone. It’s not right that people lie, and cheat on lovers. I believe that people need to be honest with the ones they love, and at least be honest enough to say that they don’t have feeling for you, and that they have someone else in there life, rather than hiding away from the truth. I’d rather someone be honest with me, and have the decency to tell me that there seeing someone else.
Much love to you, and I hope things get better anyway shape for form.0