What would it take for your ex to sweep you back off your feet?

[duke01genlee]

My girlfriend broke up with me and I still think she got scared because we started to get serious. Her ex cheated on her so she thinks I'm going to do the same thing. I would never do that and never think about doing that. She has a 8 year old daughter that loves me according to her. This I thought would help things out. Well she emailed me 2 weeks ago and told me how she basically not having any luck with jobs and the guy she was seeing turned out to be a jerk. She used other words to describe that. In the same email she told me she always picks the jerks and then said she didn't want to hear it because she knew what I was thinking. I treated her good and her daughter like my own. Believe me I know I'm not perfect but nobody is. I try to keep in some contact with her not being pushy. I did that at the beginning. I know that doesn't work and still did it. But I would like to try to get her back and just sweep her off her feet. Just want to know some ideas on how to go about doing this. I know this may be wishful thinking but I'm not ready just to give up yet.

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Just wanted to add kind of another question. If you women broke up with your boyfriend what would it take for him to sweep you back off your feet?

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Well I have another update. My ex texted me out of the blue Thursday night, it said happy fourth of july and I'll be at home call me anytime. I didn't get this text till the next day since I was already in bed. I did call her the next day.

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When I called she sounded pretty happy. She was nice and didn't sound like she was blowing me off. It was almost like seeing if I was falling apart because she left me. I really didn't give to much info on, I just played it cool and left things vague.

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I just made it sound like I was out having fun and doing the things she use to do. What does anybody think on this. Trying not reading to much into this but?

[lost-angel]

You will have to pursue her, again.

Don't be too pushy, take it slow.

Whatever the reason for her breaking up with you, shouldn't matter right now.

Show her you care, not by words, but with actions.

Offer to drive her home, or drive her daughter home, or somewhere.

Bring lunch to her work place for her, or her house, wherever.

Come over one time and give her daughter a small gift.

Call her, at least by the end of the day, to ask how her day went. Ask if she needs anything.

You've gotta show her you WANT to be there for her, and it is up to her if she will let you.

Dont worry if she is seeing someone else.

Just focus on getting her attention.

As long as you prove that you truly care for her and her daughter, it won't be too hard to win her back.

[duke01genlee]

Thanks, I'm keeping my fingers crossed. I know there's other women out there but for some reason this one just gets me. I don't know how she would act if I was just to show up at her house. Right know trying to talk to her is a little hard. Sometimes she'll talk to me and other times she won't.

[lost-angel]

Ahhh, I see. That's not a good sign, if she talks to you sometimes, and ignores you some other times.

I have to be honest here, for your own sake, but when girls act that way, it means, she responds, or talks to you only when she gets lonely, or if the guy she is dating disses her. She knows talking to you will make her feel better and give her some kind of self esteem boost. Then when everything is going right again, she totally forgets about you. sigh.. I'm sorry :(

[lost-angel]

There are girls who like persistence. And there are girls who dont.

Which one would your ex be?

[duke01genlee]

I'm hoping she like persistence, I'm not trying to be pushy or clingy. I kind feel like a have some kind of chance with her. She still has all my coments under her pictures on her myspace page. If that was me and wanted somebody out of my life I would of deleated all my comments. Part of the reason she don't talk to me sometimes is my fault, I should of made that clear. I did all the wrong things when she said she didn't want a relationship with me. I did all the stupid crap.

[lost-angel]

Oooh jeez, myspace.... That site can seriously make our lives seem more complicated than it really is. lol sorry. I deleted my myspace, for peace :)

anyways, if she likes persistence, then good! it will be really easy to win her heart back.

I know ALL the moves ;)

[when-the-rain-fall]

Sorry to say this, but I don't think she's interested in dating you again. However, I think she realizes that you're a good guy. She may have started the relationship with you because of that reason but couldn't make herself to fall in love with you. I was in the same situations once. I was cheated on twice in a row. So I tried to make myself fall in love with the good guy. I tried it for 10 months. It didn't work out. I ended up breaking his heart. Which I truly regret. He was a great guy. But romantically, we didn't match. That's just my opinion. But I hope that's not the case.

[prettygirl]

oh. I really sympathize with the woman, all the while when she picked up jerks and put herself to trouble, and she is so frustrated that she ruled out the possibility of getting a getting a proper guy. and now when the prper guy knocks, she still does not want to open the door. she has put her guard on I guess, nobody likes to be hurt over and over again rite, but this sometimes, turns to their disadvantage, like the case of this woman.

I'd suggest you js keep doing what you are doing now and if possible just offer her ur shoulder wenever she is in crises, if she is fortunate enough, she will surely come to take a notice of this and differrentiate you from the "jerks" she has come across all this while

[prettygirl]

well, depends on the reason for break up, if it is because you realized you are not for each other, nothing can help I believe. if it is because of infidelity, I think remorse, love and sincerity will make up

[duke01genlee]

I'm not really clear on what caused the break up. She's told me that I'm ever thing she could want but she says there's something missing and she don't know what it is.

[lola23]

you gotta keep at her. but not to much. the best way to show her that you are different is to show her tons of attention.well a perfect balance.she needs to see that you see her and only her as special.

[duke01genlee]

I know she's been seeing another guy that's the only thing that I'm worried about.

[lola23]

Are they dating?

[duke01genlee]

I don't think seriously. Sometimes I think she sends me emails like the last one I mentioned in one of my questions just to see how I would react. I'm not the jealous type. I still think anything is possible. Not ready to give up just yet. All she is doing to me is making me realize somethings I can improve on myself.

[lost-angel]

What are the things she wanted you to improve?