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Hi guys , please help !Ok two weeks ago I met this guy who was perfect in every aspect! Great communication, attentive and understanding. After our first night together he texted everyday and it's long texts about every topic. We set up a second catch up where I was 2 hours late but he still cooked us dinner and we watched a movie. That night I asked him what he was doing the following week, he said nothing. So since I didn't want him to know that I knew it was his birthday- I said you should come and see my house I had finished decorating it. So he said yeah we can do that. In all honesty I just wanted to surprise him with a birthday dinner. In the morning he dropped me home and After that I didn't hear from him for 4 days. Meanwhile his bday was in a day. So I decided to send him this message "hey hope all is well. Are we still on for tomorrow " he replied saying "I can try. What did you want to do again tomorrow?because I didn't want him to know that I have planned him a birthday dinner. Replied saying " it's ok if you're busy.. thought you'd come by and have a look at the Feng Shui of my home.He replied saying "oh okay yeah I can come and stop by it's just my birthday so I'm going to head out after. I then replied saying " all jokes aside I knew it was your birthday I just wanted to wish you a happy birthday in person 😉"He then replies " lol aww that's sweet ok I'll come buy but can't stay long. I said all good see you at 6:30He walks in dinner was set up, he was surprised and kept saying you should've told me I already had dinner but I'll still have a little bit so he did. We were drinking wine and then i brought out a piece of cake with a candle and again he was surprised he blew the candle and cut us a piece. After that I realized he's no longer going out so I got the vodka and we kept drinking where I puked and cried as well as telling him I'm blocking him from everything I'm done with him etc. When I woke up he had left now I don't know if there's coming back from this. Have I messed everything up? What should I do?
give him a chance!
@preciousmary I would love to give him a chance but the fact that I was drunk, puking and crying and verbally abusing him. I'm so sure if I've lost him all together 😞😞😞
The next day I sent him this message- Good afternoon, I am so embarrassed for my behavior last night. I drank too much and got carried away and It's definitely no excuse to act like that. I apologize for making you feel uncomfortable and I totally understand why you left. All I honestly wanted to do was do something nice for you on your first birthday here but evidently I ruined that. I drank way too many shots which I don't normally do and it went straight through me. To the point where I blacked out but I guess that happens to the best of us. Again I apologize hope you're having a great day. 🙂He replied sayings - it's all good don't worry about it. Appreciate it.GUYS WHAT DO YOU THINK? Has he lost interest from my drunken behavior?
me i suggest leave him alone for awhile and see if he wants to text back
@preciousmary Thank you.Honestly I think that's my only option for now. I just wish he would say where we stand but oh well. What do you think of his reply?
I ran in to an ex while with my husband at a sporting event - twenty years later. I heard him calling my name - and because my name is unusual, it was pretty apparent someone was calling me.There he was, drunk, with his new woman. It was such an embarrassment. He smelled bad and looked bad - and I was a bit self conscious that my husband was going to look at me and wonder what I saw in him. He kept shaking my husband's hand, telling him he was a lucky man. It was awful.
fuck me, the video is cringy. Meeting the girl I loved, the first time after it went downhill between us was simply us walking in opposite directions. Me seeing her from afar, her looking in her phone. She would have passed by without seeing me, but at the same time, I did not want her to look up right as I was going by and notice me and then think "ha, the bastard is a lame ass, he didn't even say hi, what a low life"... so...Me: "hi" She looks up from her phone screenHer "hi, how are you?".As I kept walking, I slow down a bit while right next to her, slightly turn around and said: "good, good", then I make a few more steps and turn around again and ask "what you doing round here?" (because she was right in my hood and basically in front of my building)Her: "I just moved here" (points finger at another building across the street from mine. The building I could see from my bedroom window)Me: *raising thumbs up while turning back my way and kept going while thinking "fuck my life" *Luckily as she wasn't from around, she did not hang out with anyone around there, so we've only bumped into each other just a few times.The second time, she looked at me and said nothing, while I waved at her from about 5 meters away. The third time, she noticed me walking her way and she simply turned her back on me. She eventually smiled at me once when we happened to bump into each other, but only because she was with some dude this time
depends if I am over them. lol either way, I want them to see me at my best always and make them say damnnnn, you looking good womannnn. lol If i am not over them and they with their current beau, I'll duck and try to avoid them as much as possible. but if they saw me first, well I will say hey how are you and small talk then bounce. If i am over them, I'll be normal lol. heck we could even grab coffee or some shit like friends.
That first video was pretty important to note about relationships. I think a lot of my relationships, especially the ones that ended abruptly or were hot and cold, was because of that gap in the communication. Also, we never really got deeper into our feelings or shared our goals or deeper feelings with one another.I've reflected on my past relationships. Yeah some have been where I got fucked over, or where I fucked over the other person. But as well, I believe that it isn't always because of a fault of one person or the other, it could be that the timing of the relationship wasn't correct, in that, one person's view of what they wanted and what type of relationship they wanted or was ready for, wasn't the same as the other person or didn't develop as fast or as smoothly. Also, we tend to judge the next relationship by comparing the past ones. Which isn't right either. Gaining insight into our past relationships is great, but I believe that we have to go into new ones with an open heart and an accepting mind, instead of walls, and perceptions that things will happen this way because this is the way it went before with my last relationship. You're just destroying the relationship before it even has a chance to start.
Depends upon who I'm also counting people I've slept with as exs despite actual relationship status. There's been some I've ignored some I've hooked up with upon running into each other others i wouldn't mind catching up with and some that remain friends. I ran into one recently and we avoided each other. Not knowing that we now live in the same city (not a city either of us is from nor where I knew him years ago) I accidently walked into his work to make a large purchase. I didn't acknowledge him because I didn't want him to out my high income. He didn't acknowledge me and I assume so I didn't out his criminal record lol. Others well we keep in contact so it wouldn't be a big deal. There's one I still have dinner with on the anniversary of us meeting but I'd have to be careful running into him as his current girlfriend has banned coomunication with me (obviously not something he actually follows).
I have bumped into him before and we did the whole catching up thing, just like any friend I haven't seen in a while. He asked me to hang out with him later over coffee or something and really talk as we hadn't when we broke up or after, but I told him I didn't want that. I really just want to ask him how he was so cruel to me when we were together though.
I never watched the video.. I'm. Friends with my exes and hang out with my kids their kids their new husbands and my new girlfriend... why not get along... We aren't in love anymore... Unless you secretly love each other then you shouldn't have broken up. Then you're just childish and you need to work on your relationship.. Lol
casually say hi and catch up! i think it's quite cool when exes become friends like really just friends... and nothing more ! like... it's over, we didn't work out, but i still acknowledge and value you as a human being / friend (unless the break up was really bad and toxic :') )
I remember about this one ex, he's 2 years younger than me and one of the reason why I broke up with him is because he was always acting like a child. His last words were "You'll regret it when I get older and get mature." I laughed when he told me that. Later I bumped into him he said he missed me. I laughed again, patted his shoulder and walked away.
Depends how the breakup went, but normally I wouldn't go out of my way to talk to him. If we made eye contact or he came to me or we were in some other situation where talking was a nessecity, I'd just treat him like an acquaintance or a friend who I wasn't very close with.
it would depend on the ex. most of my ex's i'm on good terms with if not friends.however,-one i would totally ignore. maybe give an obligatory hi but that would be it-another would probably not be happy to see me since she didn't like that i broke up with her.
I'd probably hug them around the neck. My exe is still one of my best friends and we don't get to see each other often... I suppose it doesn't really count as I don't really consider her my exe (as the term exe tends to go with many negative connotations). She's my mer (short for forMER). Anyways... yeah I love her, she's awesome :)
The first time I saw him out in public was when I was walking out of a party and he was walking in.. I felt like I saw a ghost and probably looked like I saw one too, I kept my head down and kept walking. That was like 4 months ago, I realized that made me look weak so the next time I saw him ( a week ago) at a music festival I went up and said "hi!" And hugged his friends, he couldn't even look me in the eye:) felt great
The first girl I dated said this a lot. It was cute at first, but when the relationship was souring, I just outright told her, "If I could go the rest of my life without meeting a girl like you, it would be a happier one."With that said, I never got attached to any individual girl to the point where I'm sad that I bumped into them. Very casual experience for me, even when I bumped into my first ex girlfriend.
Depends on how good or bad the terms were when we broke up. I'd probably say "hey, how are you," or "how are you doing" if the breakup was mutual and fairly decent. If it was bad and fairly negative, I'd just glance at her quickly and continue to walk past or ignore her altogether after noticing her in my peripheral
Depends on the ex. If it's the first one I'd fall apart if she hugged me I don't think I'd be able to let her go. if it's any of the others other then my last one I'd talk to them for a bit and then keep on going.if it's my last ex... I'd probably tell the bitch off. I wouldn't touch her but she'll definitely have an ear full
Say a polite greeting and move on.I run into one ex girlfriend a couple times a week, we say a polite greeting and go about our business.I also seem to run into the ex wife every few months, I have stopped greeting her politely as she does not answer and for some reason she looks embarrassed when she sees me.
Well me and my ex have the same friends so 2 months after we broke up we saw eachother with friends ofc.. we didn't exchange any words but before Ieft he gave me this long and lingering hug and well.. I don't know what that meant but it did mean something
I’m sorry, but no…I will not watch the full link. I see them hugging, and that’s just not what would happened.My first ex…god, I hope I will never bump in her. That would be very unpleasant. I wouldn’t recognize her anyway. The remaining 2…well, we are long distance “friends”, so…I guess it works better.
I would be happy to see most of my ex-girlfriends, but not my ex-wife. I even went to an ex-girlfriend's birthday party with my new girlfriend. It was nice, the ex-GF and I had broken up some years ago and it was great to see her and we both got some closure.
If it's an EX then there is a reason (s) why he is an EX. Personally, I wouldn't reopen any chapters to feel anything again. So, on bumping into an EX I would just say HI like the way would say to any acquaintance. 😇 💕
I'm in my first relationship but if I did I'd just treat them like how I treat everyone I know; smile, a little catch-up and then take off unless she cheated or I'm still getting over her I'd ignore her or just smile and walk past
I actually bump into my ex all the time. He may walk on the other side of the street and then he just yells my name and crosses the road just to come and talk to me. I would like to just walk past but it seems impossible.
I bump into my ex everyday considering the fact that we're still in high school. I recently text him and told him we should attempt to be friends so that it won't be so awkward... he agreed, but we still walk past each other like we didn't spend the whole summer together.
I wouldn't give her the time of day. She doesn't deserve my time nor do I wish to spend even a minute of my attention on her. I've built my life back up after the relationship destroyed any trust that I had with family and work. I take responsibility for my own actions and the part that I played but I never want to see her again.
I would say it depends on the ex. most of them I would be excited and literally pick them up with a hug like any old friend, some I'd act happy and take the opportunity to tell them exaggerations about all the great things happening with me, and if there were still feelings I'd lay things out truthfully.
I'd get anxiety, at this point I'm not sure if I still like him or not
Depends on which one it is. The one that I almost married? If I had a drink, I would throw it. My grad school boyfriend? I would take him for dim sum.
What would I do or what would my boyfriend do? LOL That loser abused me for the longest. My boyfriend wouldn't allow that dude to be seen by me without an ass whooping.
When I bumped into my first ex I got a panic attack, it was terrible seeing him again. That couldn't happen as my second boyfriend lives in a different country, but we often meet, because we are best friends and it just feels really nice to cuddle with him and talk to him and spend time with him in general.
You're an adult, you shared feelings, made memories, had sex, and that all came from humble beginings. It hurts, it may have ended due to horrible reasons, but instead of focusing on the pain. Focus on the idea of what you became because of the experience.
It depends on a lot of variables: the length of the relationship, if the break up was recent or not, if it ended well or not. But I think for the most part, I would just greet him, have the smallest small talk possible and leave right away because it would be awkward for me, but that's just me.
if you mean literally bump into them, then I would apologise, say hi, then walk away. if just happen to see them at a store? ignore them, pretend I didn't see them and carry about my day
Deoends because if he was the one trying hard to get me back and loved you then talk to him and at least appriciate he loved you but if he is the one to mess around then its your show time ti show him you are happier without him 👋
Depends which ex, my most recent id chat too for abit as were still friends, my first ever ex id probs ask if they wanted to hang out as were real good friends and the other one id 100% ignore and just walk away.
Depends on exactly what I am doing/where I meet them. Most likely would just give them a quick "Hi" and then carry on with my day.
Hm- Nothing as i bump into him often we share a dog together LOL. But if it was my other ex, I would probably say Hi and move on with my day.
well say thank you for opening my eyes and shutting my heart for good so I can be more wise with women and be more careful about my work, family and friends... thanks for showing me the true value of women bitch !
@abigail13 hell yeah!
if it ended badly, i'd punch her teeth out. if it ended on a good note, i'd still punch her teeth out because it's fun. sorry!
If it was a real relationship and it ended on my mistake or even forcefully ended by other reasons... Then I would be very soft next to her I guess. It's just very tough, especially if you are emotional and mature. :)
maybe greeted her nicely and initiate a nice conversation, wait patiently till it ends and leave
I don't carry a bag animosity with me. Things didn't work, we don't date anymore, but would be polite or funny.
I pretend I didn't notice them and keep looking forward
meh probably nothing, just walk by them. It happened once before, but he wasn't a ex.. just someone i use i spent time with over the summer.
I would be nice and cordial for a brief moment and then go on with my life
I think it's petty to say "that's the point", when most of the time they only say that because they're hurting and if nothing else wanting to hurt you in that moment.
Walk past them with a smile on my face like they weren't even there.
I bumped into two of my exes. I didn't say anything. I wouldn't even say hello. No point really
you are awesome. the real love between 2 person never end... they are made for each-other. . but... this is only happen in only some persons life
Looks the other way like I'm looking at something far off in the distance trying to hide my face hoping they don't see me. Or just fake invisible.
All my exs and I are on good terms so we'd probably just go and get some coffee together or something
I almost cried, ALMOST. And it'd probably be awkward too, but I wouldn't want him back, the bad outwages the good things
hi you😘look lovely sexy can we meet
most I would ignore. there us one I would tell her: you broke me. I'll never put that much effort into a relationship again or even think about having a kid.
Depends on the ex and the scenario, at the moment I only have one and we're pretty chill, she wants to try again. So I'd probably say "Hi" and give her a hug.
I m weeping myself really, believe it or not? I miss my ex-wife very much and I still love her, somebody please do something like their friend did in first video,
I bumped into him today and died a little on the inside :')
Oops shit happens sometimes 😀 C'mon guys just look forward and don't look back in anger 😂 Let it go and don't staying in the dark side 🤗 Going out to meet somebody or anybody as well 🐢🐈😅 Love & Peace
It has happened. I approached him and I said "hi" politely with a smile. I am over him, so I don't care. *shrugs*No feelings of animosity.
Talk to him and be friendly. You might didn't end up good as a couple.. But I think we always should give a second chance to a friendship.
It's not necessarily what I would do but what she would do. She'd run for her life, as fast as she can for as long as she can 😭😭😭
I would just smile and walk past himIt depends if we ended badly or not. If we ended badly then I would just walk away without making eye contact.
I would fall in-love with her again and try to win her back.
"Ma man" :D
Just being honest man, like always. Nothing dodgy tbh :)
@Filip933 I'm trying to not care about her anymore, tbh.
Yeah, that's okay. But you cannot be cold as ice next to her right.. But again it also depends how did you break up, your fault or her etc...
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