Hi guys , please help !
Ok two weeks ago I met this guy who was perfect in every aspect! Great communication, attentive and understanding.
After our first night together he texted everyday and it's long texts about every topic. We set up a second catch up where I was 2 hours late but he still cooked us dinner and we watched a movie. That night I asked him what he was doing the following week, he said nothing. So since I didn't want him to know that I knew it was his birthday- I said you should come and see my house I had finished decorating it. So he said yeah we can do that. In all honesty I just wanted to surprise him with a birthday dinner.
In the morning he dropped me home and After that I didn't hear from him for 4 days. Meanwhile his bday was in a day. So I decided to send him this message "hey hope all is well. Are we still on for tomorrow " he replied saying "I can try. What did you want to do again tomorrow?
because I didn't want him to know that I have planned him a birthday dinner. Replied saying " it's ok if you're busy.. thought you'd come by and have a look at the Feng Shui of my home.
He replied saying "oh okay yeah I can come and stop by it's just my birthday so I'm going to head out after. I then replied saying " all jokes aside I knew it was your birthday I just wanted to wish you a happy birthday in person 😉"
He then replies " lol aww that's sweet ok I'll come buy but can't stay long. I said all good see you at 6:30
He walks in dinner was set up, he was surprised and kept saying you should've told me I already had dinner but I'll still have a little bit so he did. We were drinking wine and then i brought out a piece of cake with a candle and again he was surprised he blew the candle and cut us a piece. After that I realized he's no longer going out so I got the vodka and we kept drinking where I puked and cried as well as telling him I'm blocking him from everything I'm done with him etc. When I woke up he had left now I don't know if there's coming back from this. Have I messed everything up? What should I do?
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Depends upon who I'm also counting people I've slept with as exs despite actual relationship status. There's been some I've ignored some I've hooked up with upon running into each other others i wouldn't mind catching up with and some that remain friends.
I ran into one recently and we avoided each other. Not knowing that we now live in the same city (not a city either of us is from nor where I knew him years ago) I accidently walked into his work to make a large purchase. I didn't acknowledge him because I didn't want him to out my high income. He didn't acknowledge me and I assume so I didn't out his criminal record lol.
Others well we keep in contact so it wouldn't be a big deal. There's one I still have dinner with on the anniversary of us meeting but I'd have to be careful running into him as his current girlfriend has banned coomunication with me (obviously not something he actually follows).
I ran in to an ex while with my husband at a sporting event - twenty years later. I heard him calling my name - and because my name is unusual, it was pretty apparent someone was calling me.
There he was, drunk, with his new woman. It was such an embarrassment. He smelled bad and looked bad - and I was a bit self conscious that my husband was going to look at me and wonder what I saw in him. He kept shaking my husband's hand, telling him he was a lucky man. It was awful.
depends if I am over them. lol either way, I want them to see me at my best always and make them say damnnnn, you looking good womannnn. lol If i am not over them and they with their current beau, I'll duck and try to avoid them as much as possible. but if they saw me first, well I will say hey how are you and small talk then bounce. If i am over them, I'll be normal lol. heck we could even grab coffee or some shit like friends.
fuck me, the video is cringy.
Meeting the girl I loved, the first time after it went downhill between us was simply us walking in opposite directions. Me seeing her from afar, her looking in her phone. She would have passed by without seeing me, but at the same time, I did not want her to look up right as I was going by and notice me and then think "ha, the bastard is a lame ass, he didn't even say hi, what a low life"... so...
Me: "hi"
She looks up from her phone screen
Her "hi, how are you?".
As I kept walking, I slow down a bit while right next to her, slightly turn around and said: "good, good", then I make a few more steps and turn around again and ask "what you doing round here?" (because she was right in my hood and basically in front of my building)
Her: "I just moved here" (points finger at another building across the street from mine. The building I could see from my bedroom window)
Me: *raising thumbs up while turning back my way and kept going while thinking "fuck my life" *
Luckily as she wasn't from around, she did not hang out with anyone around there, so we've only bumped into each other just a few times.
The second time, she looked at me and said nothing, while I waved at her from about 5 meters away.
The third time, she noticed me walking her way and she simply turned her back on me.
She eventually smiled at me once when we happened to bump into each other, but only because she was with some dude this time
That first video was pretty important to note about relationships. I think a lot of my relationships, especially the ones that ended abruptly or were hot and cold, was because of that gap in the communication. Also, we never really got deeper into our feelings or shared our goals or deeper feelings with one another.
I've reflected on my past relationships. Yeah some have been where I got fucked over, or where I fucked over the other person. But as well, I believe that it isn't always because of a fault of one person or the other, it could be that the timing of the relationship wasn't correct, in that, one person's view of what they wanted and what type of relationship they wanted or was ready for, wasn't the same as the other person or didn't develop as fast or as smoothly. Also, we tend to judge the next relationship by comparing the past ones. Which isn't right either. Gaining insight into our past relationships is great, but I believe that we have to go into new ones with an open heart and an accepting mind, instead of walls, and perceptions that things will happen this way because this is the way it went before with my last relationship. You're just destroying the relationship before it even has a chance to start.
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You're an adult, you shared feelings, made memories, had sex, and that all came from humble beginings. It hurts, it may have ended due to horrible reasons, but instead of focusing on the pain. Focus on the idea of what you became because of the experience.
It depends on a lot of variables: the length of the relationship, if the break up was recent or not, if it ended well or not. But I think for the most part, I would just greet him, have the smallest small talk possible and leave right away because it would be awkward for me, but that's just me.
I have bumped into him before and we did the whole catching up thing, just like any friend I haven't seen in a while. He asked me to hang out with him later over coffee or something and really talk as we hadn't when we broke up or after, but I told him I didn't want that. I really just want to ask him how he was so cruel to me when we were together though.
I wouldn't give her the time of day. She doesn't deserve my time nor do I wish to spend even a minute of my attention on her. I've built my life back up after the relationship destroyed any trust that I had with family and work. I take responsibility for my own actions and the part that I played but I never want to see her again.
I never watched the video.. I'm. Friends with my exes and hang out with my kids their kids their new husbands and my new girlfriend... why not get along... We aren't in love anymore... Unless you secretly love each other then you shouldn't have broken up. Then you're just childish and you need to work on your relationship.. Lol
it would depend on the ex. most of my ex's i'm on good terms with if not friends.
however,
-one i would totally ignore. maybe give an obligatory hi but that would be it
-another would probably not be happy to see me since she didn't like that i broke up with her.casually say hi and catch up!
i think it's quite cool when exes become friends like really just friends... and nothing more !
like... it's over, we didn't work out, but i still acknowledge and value you as a human being / friend (unless the break up was really bad and toxic :') )I'd probably hug them around the neck. My exe is still one of my best friends and we don't get to see each other often... I suppose it doesn't really count as I don't really consider her my exe (as the term exe tends to go with many negative connotations). She's my mer (short for forMER). Anyways... yeah I love her, she's awesome :)
The first time I saw him out in public was when I was walking out of a party and he was walking in.. I felt like I saw a ghost and probably looked like I saw one too, I kept my head down and kept walking. That was like 4 months ago, I realized that made me look weak so the next time I saw him ( a week ago) at a music festival I went up and said "hi!" And hugged his friends, he couldn't even look me in the eye:) felt great
I remember about this one ex, he's 2 years younger than me and one of the reason why I broke up with him is because he was always acting like a child. His last words were "You'll regret it when I get older and get mature." I laughed when he told me that. Later I bumped into him he said he missed me. I laughed again, patted his shoulder and walked away.
The first girl I dated said this a lot. It was cute at first, but when the relationship was souring, I just outright told her, "If I could go the rest of my life without meeting a girl like you, it would be a happier one."
With that said, I never got attached to any individual girl to the point where I'm sad that I bumped into them. Very casual experience for me, even when I bumped into my first ex girlfriend.Say a polite greeting and move on.
I run into one ex girlfriend a couple times a week, we say a polite greeting and go about our business.
I also seem to run into the ex wife every few months, I have stopped greeting her politely as she does not answer and for some reason she looks embarrassed when she sees me.Depends on how good or bad the terms were when we broke up. I'd probably say "hey, how are you," or "how are you doing" if the breakup was mutual and fairly decent. If it was bad and fairly negative, I'd just glance at her quickly and continue to walk past or ignore her altogether after noticing her in my peripheral
Depends how the breakup went, but normally I wouldn't go out of my way to talk to him. If we made eye contact or he came to me or we were in some other situation where talking was a nessecity, I'd just treat him like an acquaintance or a friend who I wasn't very close with.
Depends on the ex. If it's the first one I'd fall apart if she hugged me I don't think I'd be able to let her go.
if it's any of the others other then my last one I'd talk to them for a bit and then keep on going.
if it's my last ex... I'd probably tell the bitch off. I wouldn't touch her but she'll definitely have an ear fullWell me and my ex have the same friends so 2 months after we broke up we saw eachother with friends ofc.. we didn't exchange any words but before Ieft he gave me this long and lingering hug and well.. I don't know what that meant but it did mean something
Deoends because if he was the one trying hard to get me back and loved you then talk to him and at least appriciate he loved you but if he is the one to mess around then its your show time ti show him you are happier without him 👋
I’m sorry, but no…I will not watch the full link. I see them hugging, and that’s just not what would happened.
My first ex…god, I hope I will never bump in her. That would be very unpleasant. I wouldn’t recognize her anyway. The remaining 2…well, we are long distance “friends”, so…I guess it works better.I would be happy to see most of my ex-girlfriends, but not my ex-wife. I even went to an ex-girlfriend's birthday party with my new girlfriend. It was nice, the ex-GF and I had broken up some years ago and it was great to see her and we both got some closure.
It depends if she saw me, if she didn't then I'll proceed as if I didn't see her but if we saw each other then I would talk to her with a smile but I would nip anything in the bud if she tried to reconnect.
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