If you suspect him of cheating then end the relationship. If you accused him of cheating when he truly didn't, then he has every right to dump you. What's going on here is a lack of trust. You obviously didn't trust him and now he knows you don't trust him because you accused him of cheating.
Is he going to forgive you and you get back together? Maybe, but how is he going to know that you won't pull this crap again and accuse him a second time?
Additionally, if you suspect he was or is cheating, what evidence do you have that he wasn't? Because he got upset and dumped you?
That's not evidence that he didn't cheat, but it also isn't evidence that he did. Maybe he was upset because you showed that you don't trust him.
Or maybe he was cheating or was planning to get together with one of those girls, then you called him out on it and caught him red handed, so he went Nicholas Cage on you and over acted to the point where he turned you into the bad guy here by being overly upset... And you gave him the right ammunition to break up with you while trying to still seem like the good guy, leaving himself wide open to see this other girl without truly cheating because he is now single.
You went with your gut, you had signs pointing to him talking to other girls behind your back, and there was a real chance that what you suspected was indeed true. If all of this was innocent, why was he hiding it? If this was all innocent, then why didn't he just explain what it was all about and tell you the truth rather than making a big scene and then dumping you?
If he truly cared for you, this would have been able to be resolved before pulling the dump card.
The fact of the matter is there is no trust left and a relationship requires trust. Based on the limited information provided, my gut would say he was looking at other options but didn't have a justified excuse to end the relationship without coming off as a dick as you didn't do anything wrong (he just had more interest in someone else)... Because you confronted him based on limited evidence, that was enough reason to make you out to be the bad guy.
You guys might be able to sort this out and get back together, but consider that if he indeed decides it is over regardless of how sorry you are, yet won't explain what those messages were about, then your gut was right. Even if it is wrong, it is still over, so what does it matter? If you do get back together, but nothing is explained, can you trust him?
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I'd say you should talk to him and apologize. Explain that you love him and were feeling insecure and that you made a mistake. And that you trust him and won't do it again. If he doesn't want to talk about it, or rejects your apology, then it probably means there is more to his wanting to break up than just this. And it may not be reconcilable. You may have to accept that it's over. If that is the case, lick your wounds and learn something from the experience. As long as you learned what went wrong, the relationship was not in vain. It's very difficult, but something everyone has to go through in life at one time or another. You will survive and be better off in the end even if it cannot be repaired.
if you've gone through his phone that means you don't trust him, now he knows you've gone through his phone he's not gonna trust you.
If you do get back together your relationship won't be the same. He'll be reluctant to leave his phone around you and you'll be too scared to say anything in case he dumps you.
If you're prepared for that then just talk to him. Tell him that you love him & that you value him. If he wants to get back together then speak about the issues you have with him the 'few other changes' you mentioned. Tell him you don't feel 100% secure or comfortable, ask him if he can give you an explanation for the texts & then start fresh. If he doesn't want to get back together then leave it. You can't force him and maybe it's for the best, maybe you're the one who dodged a bullet he could've actually been cheating after all.
let him cool down first and then apologize tell him y u acted that way and how u felt and that u dont want things to end like this i hope he listens tho just be honest about what you're thinking and he'll feel it that its from the heart and believ u if he cares for u too just trust him next time that his heart is with u and if u dont want ur guy to be getting flirty texts form other girls then be with an ugly boring guy lol so yes ur guy is attractive so he will get attention form other girls but what matters is that he loves u so dont worry about other girls HE CHOSE U!
Um, if he got that defensive, maybe he actually was cheating? I don`t know, normal behavior would be if he just calmly and firmly told you no. Maybe he didn`t directly cheat on you, but my guess is he probably is hiding something... be cautious...
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Why do you want to be with someone who is showing you who they really are? He has probably been talking to other females for awhile now and you just now finding out about it. Begging him back makes him feel like his behavior is okay and he will continue to cheat on you because he knows how badly you want to be with him. One thing I have learned is that you have to have the strength to walk away, he is in the wrong. So he needs to fix it. Not you. Make him realize how badly that he missed out on a good female. Start no contact and please dont beg him back
You get dumped over the phone , and you decide to beg him to stay with you? You need to focus on getting over him and on your dignity, this sounds harsh but it was also harsh the way he dumped you. Get your stuff from his house and cut contact ! It hurts but this man doesn't respect you, dont beg him to stay , thats going to make yourself look silly and won't fix anything
You're being dumb. He was just using that as an excuse. No one leaves for something that petty unless this has been a consistent issue with you guys. He wants to leave. You have to convince someone to love you? No dude. Move the fuck on. You should have enough self value to realize that.
He dumped u because he got caught and knew he was wrong and hun just let him go he's waste of your time like cuz he never cared. if he did he wouldn't do that.. clearly he never LOVED you maybe LUST yu know
Was he really cheating? If he HAS been cheating, you might as well let him go and move on. If he HASN'T been cheating, then you've hurt him and broken a certain trust, and if you apologize, he might forgive you.
First. why do you accuse him of cheating, but still want to be with him. Second you might be really clingy and don't trust him enough so that's why he broke up with you. Third if he broke up with you that quick over the phone without talking to you in person, he probably did cheat on you. finally get your facts straight before you accuse someone, make sure you have valid evidence, because otherwise no one will believe you.
If someone catches you lying you get upset lol if they were friends of his he would have told you duhhh begging him to take you back makes you seem weak and he will take advantage of it take you back and continue cheating lol move on
If the texts were harmless then you need to look inwards because it's frustrating being with someone that's doesn't trust you
If you wanted him to stay, perhaps you shouldn't have accused him of something before you had significant evidence. I think that bridge is burned.
say it was an honest mistake and that you were only so upset because the thought of losing him devastated you because you love him. let him know how valuable he is to you.
It's hard to have sympathy because I would have done the same thing as him. It would take a lot to convince me to stay. Do something to demonstrate that you're trying to be less insecure and that might work.
When you get to meet up I would judge his actions if he wants to keep the relationship alive then he'd be open to talking and listening to why to acted the way you did and hopefully you are able to sort it out. If he isn't prepared to do so he's moved on and there is no point trying to force a relationship to continue.
Accusing someone of cheating is a serious accusation. He's probably hurt over it. Try talking to him about it and express your feelings on the way. Cheers!
Cry a lot?
I dunno. If you don't trust your guy then you don't respect him and that's a deal-breaker in my book.
You're what we refer to as a 'drama queen'. Most guys will only put up with it in short stints if at all. It's very tiring.If that's the real reason because he dumped you, sex will ease the situation.
The cheating accusation isn't one you come back from.
Wait. You accused him of cheating OVER THE PHONE? You didn't even have the decency to confront him to his face. As for looking through htis texts that's pretty shitty too.
Learn from your mistakes and move on.If you really have reason to believe he's cheating, why do you want to stay with him?
My ex wife accused me of cheating before. It ruined things. I never felt the same about her after that. Once trust is broken in a relationship, it really can't be fully regained.
Stop accusing him of things without evidence first. You sound insecure... Work on yourself first, then ask him for a relationship.
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