Yesterday was my birthday and I had a wonderful day. However I recently got dumped about 6 weeks ago. We dated on/off for 9 months so I would figure she would remember that I had birthday in July. I have had very limited contact with this girl except to wish her happy b day in late June (no gifts...just a funny a email joke).
I still have feelings for her but I know I need to go elsewhere. I will admit I was really hoping to just get a friendly text saying "happy b day" yesterday to know she still thinks about me. Well nada.
I know most of you are going tell me "who cares", "shes just a bitch", "let it go" and you are all 100% right. However what happens if she finds out later that she missed my birthday and says "oh (so so), I'm so sorry I missed your b day"...and of course we all know she isn't sorry at all. How should I respond?
I'm thinking about responding with ":)" and nothing else. No conversation, nothing. I'm tempted to say "you know so and so considering the person you are...I'm not surprised you forgot" and then not talking to her at all no matter what she says. I don't want to act like some immature kid or a woman (sorry girls)...I know you ladies would be MUCH MORE UPSET if I guy missed a b day. It's not masculine for man to worry about b days.
Yeah I know I shouldn't be caring about this. I haven't told a soul about how disappointed I am. It is still really bothering me though.
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Try not to have very high expectations for your exes. You guys are exes for a reason. Even if things are on friendly terms, there may be a memory connected to your birthday, a pain about remembering special moments, etc. I'm sure you don't get a birthday card and major hullabaloo from ALL your friends, right? Just put her in that category of "basic friends" who are in contact with you rather than "best friends" (which is where you seem to have classified her).
I know it may bother you, and that's natural too! Just try not to expect too much from her. She's trying to move forward while still remaining friends with you, and that's quite a task in and of itself.0