The first was the distance... we were so young and he lived states away. And the second was because she confessed that she can't see herself loving or marrying a girl, just liking.
I live in California and he lives in New York. I wouldn't be able to see him in over 6 years. It was hard but it wasn't going to work out. People change and we were way too far away. I needed someone I could actually hug
No, she wasn't. I asked. She was just honest. Plus it was open (she asked for it) so thinking that she would end up loving her boyfriend and just liking me hurt. I felt I would just be left behind and if she wouldn't ever love or marry me, then there is no future for us.
She and I liked each other but a week into the relationship she asked about how I would feel if she started dating this guy. I gave her the go ahead but she acted so differently with him than me so I guess I got worried and asked her that question.
I mean me and her were kind of awkward but after he joined she was a bit cold. I never kissed her or had her hug me back when we were together but she seemed to laugh with him and was so much warmer and cuddlier and stuff
I haven't broken someone's heart. I have had my heart broke though and only hope the guy I dated regrets it. but then I'd probably feel bad for them feeling bad.
thanks. I still really care about them and hope they come back... I don't blame them for leaving and I hope they're doing ok wherever they are, I just wish they didn't treat me like a stranger after they broke up with me. It really hurts to be their everything to their nothing.
I moved on already, but there's was this one dude that was different from the others. Everybody thought he looked ugly but I looked past that, he was the first boy I ever loved because of his personality not his looks.
As far as relationships are concerned I've never regretted rejecting people I was not interested in. Even those I rejected quiet harshly because they could understand all the previous times I calmly said "no".
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The only way I ever broke people's heart was when they asked me out and I rejected them. I regret not getting invloved with my best friend and friend zoning him though.
I broke things off with him because I knew a long distance relationship would be too much for him to handle. He also started hanging out with one of my best friends too much. So my jealousy resulted in things actually ending and me doing something stupid. But in the end, he gained feelings for her, just like I thought he would.
He told me that was his breaking point, he's given me many chances before. He doesn't actually believe that I was trying my best. He never really did communicate with me, like when I'd mess up or get him mad, he'd just stay quiet and not let me know. He expected me to find out myself. It was like he played the more stereotypical role of a female.
I was always the one trying to communicate, but he never wanted to really. He would always make me talk about myself, never him. But when I ask him to talk to me, he doesn't. I really did try, but I broke his heart without realizing it instead.
I have and I live with that guilt daily. I wish I never hurt him. He was so good to me and my son. I really fucked up badly and I'm so sorry that I hurt him all those times.
That I know of I've only broken maybe 10ish hearts since I started dating 12 years ago. I'm pretty fearless so I ask people out and I, personally, don't take rejection hard.
Why scary? It's in quotes because it's been said sooooo much 😧 however, I counter with something along the lines of "I'll be your sister the way Cerci was to Jaime Lannister." 🤣😂🤣😂 #noshame
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Nope. I've only broken up with two and it was for a reason. It just wasn't going to work out so I don't see why I should drag it out.
As long as they were justified
The first was the distance... we were so young and he lived states away. And the second was because she confessed that she can't see herself loving or marrying a girl, just liking.
Now that's jacked right there, I don't mind distant to be honest. I don't feel distance should separate two people, and that girl is jacked.
I live in California and he lives in New York. I wouldn't be able to see him in over 6 years. It was hard but it wasn't going to work out. People change and we were way too far away. I needed someone I could actually hug
No, she wasn't. I asked. She was just honest. Plus it was open (she asked for it) so thinking that she would end up loving her boyfriend and just liking me hurt. I felt I would just be left behind and if she wouldn't ever love or marry me, then there is no future for us.
He's from New York? I wonder how that happened, I love my city. Los Angeles all day every day lol but you're right... a hug is a powerful thing.
Oh it was open, were you catching feelings for her?
She and I liked each other but a week into the relationship she asked about how I would feel if she started dating this guy. I gave her the go ahead but she acted so differently with him than me so I guess I got worried and asked her that question.
How did she act differently if you don't mind me asking?
I mean me and her were kind of awkward but after he joined she was a bit cold. I never kissed her or had her hug me back when we were together but she seemed to laugh with him and was so much warmer and cuddlier and stuff
I wonder why it was different with you than when she was with him, did you ever ask her?
Im not sure. I guess its because she didn't know how to act around me and well she hasn't had much experience dating girls
I know what you mean, I've been in a relationship with a lesbian before. It can be a difficult and different transition
I haven't broken someone's heart.
I have had my heart broke though and only hope the guy I dated regrets it. but then I'd probably feel bad for them feeling bad.
I would feel bad for feeling bad, you're kind.
thanks. I still really care about them and hope they come back... I don't blame them for leaving and I hope they're doing ok wherever they are, I just wish they didn't treat me like a stranger after they broke up with me. It really hurts to be their everything to their nothing.
sorry I ranted lol 😅
If they don't though its because he wasn't meant for you, and there will be someone who doesn't ever want to give up on you
its fine lol
yeah very true. I hope I find someone that special, I've grown a bit cold and untrustworthy. so whoever it is might have to break down a few walls.
And if he's the right one, he'll tear them down. Just give them a chance
I'll give them a chance, it's just if they're willing to take that chance.
thanks for talking to me :)
Anytime
Well... no one deserves having their heart broken but sometimes you have to choose between your feelings the other person's...
What person heart did you break?
No regrets, I never intentionally broke someone's heart so I'm good with the past
As long as you aren't living in the past
I'm not... why do you say that?
because you have no regrets and moved on
I moved on already, but there's was this one dude that was different from the others. Everybody thought he looked ugly but I looked past that, he was the first boy I ever loved because of his personality not his looks.
Lol who cares what people think
He was beautiful handsome to you, that's what matters
it's never nice breaking someones heart, but i don't regret doing what i felt was best.
And that's all anyone can ask from you
I broke this girl's heart... And two days later she won the lottery...
I fucking regretted more than once friend... LOL I'm just kidding though
thanks for that. I needed a good laugh
Man imagine lol
Yes, this one girl i hurt her and I just wish i could go and tell her I'm sorry.
You could do that
I did for awhile but once I found someone I was compatible with and had feelings for it changed.
Being with someone else that you love can heal wounds
It can. It can also make you realize people in the past weren't I needed anyway;
I'm glad you found what you were looking for
People have broken my heart but I haven't broken someone's else's heart.
Aw dang... I'm sorry to hear that
Yes. But, I doubt I've ever done it. I would if I did. 😋
Thats honest though lol
what do you mean? 😋💜
As far as relationships are concerned I've never regretted rejecting people I was not interested in. Even those I rejected quiet harshly because they could understand all the previous times I calmly said "no".
The only way I ever broke people's heart was when they asked me out and I rejected them.
I regret not getting invloved with my best friend and friend zoning him though.
You wanted to be with him?
yes.
What ifs, one of the worst things someone can go through
exactly
Once. Now looking back though I don't. It was just never meant to be.
Makes you think doesn't it?
Yep. :V
I did t mean to, it just happened unintentionally, of course I regret it. I'm still in love.
What did you do?
I broke things off with him because I knew a long distance relationship would be too much for him to handle. He also started hanging out with one of my best friends too much. So my jealousy resulted in things actually ending and me doing something stupid. But in the end, he gained feelings for her, just like I thought he would.
What kind of stupid things did you do?
I smoked, I mean I ended up telling him~ but he's deeply against it. He just gave up on me.
What kind of smoke? Like cigarettes or weed?
Cigarettes
Do you still do it? I'm not a big fan of cigarettes as well
This was very recent, I formed a habit that's hard to break, I was clean from it for a month but I relapsed and he got upset
I get cigarettes aren't good for you but to leave someone when they're trying their best. Sounds harsh
He told me that was his breaking point, he's given me many chances before. He doesn't actually believe that I was trying my best. He never really did communicate with me, like when I'd mess up or get him mad, he'd just stay quiet and not let me know. He expected me to find out myself. It was like he played the more stereotypical role of a female.
Stereotypical role of the female lol okay that was pretty funny right there. Thats the problem with many relationships lack of communication.
I was always the one trying to communicate, but he never wanted to really. He would always make me talk about myself, never him. But when I ask him to talk to me, he doesn't. I really did try, but I broke his heart without realizing it instead.
You shouldn't be so hard on yourself, it seems like you really did try your best. You grew from that relationship
He said it himself~ It just sucks. I really could've saved the relationship.
I see it as if things are truly meant to be, they wouldn't truly end right? But if it does, then you weren't supposed to
Correct.
What? No. Why in the name of all that's evil and corrupt would I?
You're good thats why lol
Haha no. Not by a long shot.
i don't think i've ever broken anyone's heart really..
Never?
I don't really know for sure.. guys don't look at me that way a lot anyways.
I have and I live with that guilt daily. I wish I never hurt him. He was so good to me and my son. I really fucked up badly and I'm so sorry that I hurt him all those times.
how did it happen?
Yes, I'm no heartbreaker but I can can completely empathize.
Had it happened many times?
Breaking hearts or having my heart broken?
That I know of I've only broken maybe 10ish hearts since I started dating 12 years ago. I'm pretty fearless so I ask people out and I, personally, don't take rejection hard.
10ish hearts? Damn! You're ruthless lol
Oh hush, I'm not the girl next door I'm the "little sister"
😂 that made laugh, and a little scary you put it in quotes
Why scary? It's in quotes because it's been said sooooo much 😧 however, I counter with something along the lines of "I'll be your sister the way Cerci was to Jaime Lannister." 🤣😂🤣😂 #noshame
You just game of thrones me lol I guess there's nothing wrong with being the "little sister@ 😂
I only saw the first 2 seasons-ish but yea, I did 😅
It's hard to keep up at times, I don't blame you lol 😂
I don't think I've ever broken anybody's heart. I'm usually the heartbroken.
Aw that's really sad 😕
It's okay. I wouldn't want to break anyone's heart anyways.
That's get kind, the next will treat yours like treasure
Haha I hope so.