Yeah. A girl I had a brief fling with in college. I don't know if I 'really' broke her heart, or if I just made her despair over her assumed lack of prospects.
She was really hot, but I can see a lot of men actually disagreeing with me on that, and instead thinking the opposite was true. Again, I thought she was hot, it's just the rest of the world might not have. Anyway, she could have been a little insecure since she spent about half her life around these 'other men.'
Anyway, I fucked her. OMG she was amazing. She had one minor quirk in which she claimed not to really enjoy sex - she just wanted a lot of it. I saw it as a challenge, but on some level I was intimidated. If I had the slightest bit of foresight at the time, I would have acknowledged what gift that would be - and it could be a gift to me. But no, I let it fester and found myself getting easily frustrated by any minor annoyance of hers that I could pick up on. In the end, we were chatting over AIM (basically the 00's version of "texting") and she asked me if I still wanted to have sex with her. I fear I may have set her on the path to deducing that, yes, the entire world is full of these 'other men' who don't think she's hot, and which I failed to be a counterexample.
This isn't quite heart-break, though. And I honestly can't say any of it's true. It could be I'm not as special as I think, and I'm far from the only one who finds her ridiculously sexy. If that's the case, chances are she actually fell for me. I would actually prefer this over the former, because she needs to made to believe in how hot she is. A body like that shouldn't have an insecure bone in it (unless it's arthritic - not that that's a deal breaker, just.. you know..). Heartbreak is easy to get over. Mental trauma, less so.
But, I guess if my 'regret' is conditional, then it's not really regret. Like, they say 'unconditional love,' but that's a redundancy. If it's conditional love, it's not really love. Likewise, conditional regret is not really regret. True, my condition isn't a 'yes/no' regret, more a 'yes/absolutely,' regret, so maybe it's the threshold that counts. But that only means I'm capable of feeling more regret than I currently am, but aren't. If I'm not feeling it fully, am I really feeling it? Do we just name emotion by their principle components, and disregard magnitude? That would be a spectrum instead of a combination. But, I guess we only have so many words. Makes it easier to name them all..
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Yeah. I'm actually 51. When I was 31 I met a 19 year old virgin. Sweet but very immature. Told myself "Hands off". It didn't have long term potential With her being a virgin, I didn't want to go there if it wasn't going to be long term leading to possible marriage. She was from Haiti and lived in a black neighborhood. She was used to black guys continually hitting on her. "Hey Gurl". As the evening progressed the more I decided it wasn't going to happen the more she decided I was going to be number 1. My hands off approach had a reverse effect. The more I said no the more she said yes. She had never gone out with a white guy, a bodybuilder, or a guy who wasn't trying to get in her pants. I'm sure it added to the intrigue factor. Anyway, it happened and she fell in love with me. I tried to make it work. There was 12 years between us but it felt like 30. She was really sheltered and had zero concept of how to budget money. It didn't work out and I broke her heart. Still feel like shit to this day.
I do regret breaking a few hearts. Unfortunately, that's life. It's not something I've ever set out to do and I've hated doing it each time its happened. I know what it's like to have my heart broken, and I don't wish it on anyone.
Well, maybe just the really bad people. Sorry. 😕
In the long run it's for the best. Im not going to say it doesn't sucks that it happens that way but in the end it seems to work out.
I believe you learn something after each failed relationship and each broken heart.
Eventually those lessons will lead you to the person that would rather break their own heart before yours.
I've never intentionally planned on breaking anyone's heart. If I did ever hurt anyone's feelings, it was from being honest with mine or from being hurt by them in the first place which made me react irrationally and explode my feelings from suppressing the load they put on me. I always try my best to explain myself rationally, but if the other person isn't hearing me out and can't read between the line/is being irrational with me, I have just dropped everything and distanced myself as well as have once lashed my feelings by doing dumb actions.
No, because i've only left in two situstions:
1. The guy not treating me well or not looking for the same thing as me.
2. In an early stage in dating when I've found out I didn't have the same feelings. Ended it respectfull and with dignity and kept in touch until the guy is over it and moves on (but not giving any hope on dating, just answering unanswered questions and stuff like that).
It's not fun but I think it creates a "different kind of broken heart".
Yes, because I hate to be the cause of another person's pain.
It's inevitable at times though. It's kinder to end a relationship that's not right for you , coz living a lie by pretending you still want to be with someone will hurt them more in the long- term. Lying not only hurts , but it destroys a persons trust in other people
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Definitely. I don't think I've ever done anyone dirty, but just like unrequited feelings from really nice girls that I just wasn't into like that. I remember my mom telling me when I was a young teenager that over the course of my life I'd get my heart broken, and I'd break others' hearts, often without even knowing it. Sure enough, I remember a friend telling me an ex-coworker of ours sweated me hard back in the day, and I just never had any idea, and I wasn't into her on that level as it turns out. But she was a really sweet girl and it bummed me out to think that she might have been sad about me not going after her or even think of her like that. But there's a hundred chicks I thought it was the end of the world at the time if I couldn't get with them, lmao, and now I struggle to even remember their names, and I hope the girl who liked me, and any others, have well since gotten over it and have found their happiness👍 Because let's get serious, who the fuck am I?🙄😂
I was friends with a woman from another country back before the internet, we wrote letters to each other. And she decided to come holiday in Australia where I live. It was several months between her telling me about this trip and her getting here. During that time I started a relationship with a woman I met at a night club. It broke the friend's heart when she found out about that relationship. I had no idea she thought we were romantically involved. I did like her though and I regret not knowing she'd invested in our friendship that way.
I think there is a part of me that still loves all those I have been in long term relationships with. Some I ended, some they ended. It still hurts even if you know it's the right thing to do. But if you want out of a relationship for a legitimate reason and don't leave you hurting both of you more really
I had to leave my last girlfriend because she had unrealistic expectations of what our relationship was supposed to be. In her words, our relationship was supposed to be like the movies.
Of course real life happened and I had to cut her off and hard. I feel bad though because she was a virgin before me.yes... and it felt so terrible when i give him a hopes for nothing because before i dont have a courage to be in a relationship and it hurt him so much when i told him to stop coz i already have someone before... to bad i can't find him anymore to ask for his forgiveness...
I know I broke my ex's heart, and I feel bad about it, but I didn't do anything to intentionally hurt her. I just broke up with her, and whenever I feel bad, I remember my heart was broken too, when we broke up. It's a risk you take when you fall in love, it's better than not feeling anything.
Absolutely, I'm actually dealing with this right now. I know I'm breaking his heart, but I'm also breaking my own. I truly do regret it all but at the same time you can't just sit around waiting forever, I'm taking life as it comes and right now this is something I need to do.
Every time it happens.. I happen to be pretty emotionally detached, and if someone were to have an attraction for me that I didn't have, there would be nothing I could do about it, because I couldn't understand her feelings if I tried. It sucks to have to reject people this way.
Absolutely. The boyfriend before my husband, I just didn't feel it with him after a few years and wanted out of the relationship but I was gutless and a coward and took way too long to end the relationship because I didn't want to hurt him (or look like a bad person).
breaking hearts doesn't apply to just the romance love I assume. it so happened that I was very rude to my best friend on his birthday. we were fighting at that time. he tried to make up but my ego made me flare things up and I really did break him up. he and I don't even talk to each other anymore. I still regret that.
Someone has shattered my heart into pieces. She tried to contact me again and she even asked me for a second chance. I cannot forgive her this time because what she has done to me was brutal. I don't know how much months it taken to recover from that shock. No i am trying to merge them and its very tough, but still i am trying. It will take some more time to recover from all of this.
yes. a long ass time ago I cheated on this guy, and he was very very heartbroken.
He was suicidal before it happened but when I did it, it made him even more suicidal. i think he cut himself and tried to kill himself over me.
at the time I didn't even regret hurting him either, i just regret getting caught cheating.
then a little bit after that i realized how horrible it was and i hated myself for itI, for one, have never been "in love"... I'm not the type to fall easily lol. But I'm not sure if I've ever broken someone's heart. I did have a friend who kinda obsessed over me & I turned him down. I don't regret it, but I do feel guilty about it..
Did have one girl who, when I talked to her months later, said she had cried for a week after I left. It didn't make me feel very good, but it had to happen.
I tried to arrange a hookup but she claimed to be busy with school, though I think she just didn't want to go through that again.Yes. It was a shitty thing to do -- I kept seeing someone I knew I would eventually leave. She was a lovely person and didn't deserve that heartbreak. I should have ended it as soon as I knew I wasn't going to stay.
Not really, no. It's not something that I do lightly and it has always been for the best. I don't have an ex that I would want to get back together with. They were all good learning experiences but they were ultimately not right.
I hate that I've caused people pain but I don't regret anything I've done, I never have regrets because what ever I do feels right at the time and I'm not gonna tell myself I was wrong to feel that way. NO RAGRETS!
Yes, I just left my ex without saying anything because of stress and pressure, he got all crazy and shit
i wouldn't say i broke his heart but there was this guy i really liked but i couldnt date him and he liked me too and i had to pretty much laugh in his face when he said he liked me and i still feel so awful about it, he totally didn't deserve it
Of course I've never wanted to hurt anyone I once loved, however I've learned I need to put my own needs first and foremost and it's hard for me to feel guilty for doing what's best for me.
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