Have you ever regretted breaking someone's heart?

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

[normalice]

Yeah. A girl I had a brief fling with in college. I don't know if I 'really' broke her heart, or if I just made her despair over her assumed lack of prospects.

She was really hot, but I can see a lot of men actually disagreeing with me on that, and instead thinking the opposite was true. Again, I thought she was hot, it's just the rest of the world might not have. Anyway, she could have been a little insecure since she spent about half her life around these 'other men.'

Anyway, I fucked her. OMG she was amazing. She had one minor quirk in which she claimed not to really enjoy sex - she just wanted a lot of it. I saw it as a challenge, but on some level I was intimidated. If I had the slightest bit of foresight at the time, I would have acknowledged what gift that would be - and it could be a gift to me. But no, I let it fester and found myself getting easily frustrated by any minor annoyance of hers that I could pick up on. In the end, we were chatting over AIM (basically the 00's version of "texting") and she asked me if I still wanted to have sex with her. I fear I may have set her on the path to deducing that, yes, the entire world is full of these 'other men' who don't think she's hot, and which I failed to be a counterexample.

This isn't quite heart-break, though. And I honestly can't say any of it's true. It could be I'm not as special as I think, and I'm far from the only one who finds her ridiculously sexy. If that's the case, chances are she actually fell for me. I would actually prefer this over the former, because she needs to made to believe in how hot she is. A body like that shouldn't have an insecure bone in it (unless it's arthritic - not that that's a deal breaker, just.. you know..). Heartbreak is easy to get over. Mental trauma, less so.

But, I guess if my 'regret' is conditional, then it's not really regret. Like, they say 'unconditional love,' but that's a redundancy. If it's conditional love, it's not really love. Likewise, conditional regret is not really regret. True, my condition isn't a 'yes/no' regret, more a 'yes/absolutely,' regret, so maybe it's the threshold that counts. But that only means I'm capable of feeling more regret than I currently am, but aren't. If I'm not feeling it fully, am I really feeling it? Do we just name emotion by their principle components, and disregard magnitude? That would be a spectrum instead of a combination. But, I guess we only have so many words. Makes it easier to name them all..

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

i remember AIM, but you did the best you could to set her in that path on how you see her through your eyes. Some women have a hard time getting over those insecurities, you did the best you could

[slutsdontgetoral]

Yeah. I'm actually 51. When I was 31 I met a 19 year old virgin. Sweet but very immature. Told myself "Hands off". It didn't have long term potential With her being a virgin, I didn't want to go there if it wasn't going to be long term leading to possible marriage. She was from Haiti and lived in a black neighborhood. She was used to black guys continually hitting on her. "Hey Gurl". As the evening progressed the more I decided it wasn't going to happen the more she decided I was going to be number 1. My hands off approach had a reverse effect. The more I said no the more she said yes. She had never gone out with a white guy, a bodybuilder, or a guy who wasn't trying to get in her pants. I'm sure it added to the intrigue factor. Anyway, it happened and she fell in love with me. I tried to make it work. There was 12 years between us but it felt like 30. She was really sheltered and had zero concept of how to budget money. It didn't work out and I broke her heart. Still feel like shit to this day.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

What would you do differently?

[slutsdontgetoral]

Met the love of my life soon after. But, not knowing that would happen I would have "Made" it work and ride and ride out her growing pains.

[PrettyKitty31]

I do regret breaking a few hearts. Unfortunately, that's life. It's not something I've ever set out to do and I've hated doing it each time its happened. I know what it's like to have my heart broken, and I don't wish it on anyone.
Well, maybe just the really bad people. Sorry. 😕
In the long run it's for the best. Im not going to say it doesn't sucks that it happens that way but in the end it seems to work out.
I believe you learn something after each failed relationship and each broken heart.
Eventually those lessons will lead you to the person that would rather break their own heart before yours.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

That's what I would rather do, break my own heart before I hurt them. You're right though, you do always learn something

[PrettyKitty31]

Well, I believe, the people that are open to learning do. Some people, unfortunately, end up with so much hate for the person that broke their heart that they hang on to the hurt and refuse to let go, to learn from it and move past it.
Of course you would break your own heart, that's what you do for people you care for and love.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

I think I've grown from it, I said sorry to the one woman I broke. For that I made my peace

[PrettyKitty31]

Thats good. I'm really glad you're able to learn and grow from it. As I said, I don't believe everyone can, or at least is willing to.
Was she receptive to your apology?
Based on what I've heard from other people they would rather leave things alone. Not cut open healed wounds.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

She was actually very rude and acted real juvenile but I killed her with kindness and walked away the bigger person

[PrettyKitty31]

Please understand I am not trying to be rude or mean. Honestly.
But this is the problem, it sounds like you did it to make yourself feel better. Perhaps I'm wrong but that's what it sounds like. My point is sometimes YOU break the heart and YOU have to live with the grief and leave them be to heal. I've been here. It's a sad reality but sometimes they never want to hear from you or see you again.
However, you never really do know until you're in that situation, face to face telling them what they want to hear, something you should have said sooner or something they never wanted to hear from you ever.
Again, not trying to be rude or mean, I hope you see that. Just trying to share the little wisdom I have on this topic.

[PrettyKitty31]

And by you I dont mean you but the heartbreaker.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

It was five years since it passed and I didn't cheat on her or anything but I felt really bad. I lived enough with it, I did it to grow as a person and know for myself that I can't dwell on the past.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

And of course, I'm not taking no offense

[PrettyKitty31]

Well given those facts I am sorry she behaved so childishly. She must have been hurt badly. It's unfortunate she couldn't just listen and walk away but had to be a brat about it.
Either way, its done and it's time to move on. 😊

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Oh I did lol and I hope you moved on from it :)

[PrettyKitty31]

Hahaha well that sounds good for you. I have and I'm very happy with who and where I'm at.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Sounds like a happy ending

[PrettyKitty31]

Guess we will find out. *fingers crossed* 😉

[PrettyKitty31]

Hope you get yours too.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

I think I have already

[PrettyKitty31]

Good! Don't f*ck it up. Lol 😉

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

I won't lol

[Big_Biker_Daddy]

I couldn't have said it better myself, so I'm not going to try. haha

[PrettyKitty31]

@Big_Biker_Daddy Haha! Good call, I've got this. 😉

[aicarg]

I've never intentionally planned on breaking anyone's heart. If I did ever hurt anyone's feelings, it was from being honest with mine or from being hurt by them in the first place which made me react irrationally and explode my feelings from suppressing the load they put on me. I always try my best to explain myself rationally, but if the other person isn't hearing me out and can't read between the line/is being irrational with me, I have just dropped everything and distanced myself as well as have once lashed my feelings by doing dumb actions.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

This was probably one of the most mature answers 😐

[aicarg]

Well this was a mature question haha Reading your question brought me flashbacks to reflect on things from the past and what I could have done differently. But, we all learn from our past.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

You seem a way better person than that woman in your past. I wanted a question that made you think

[aicarg]

I like to believe I've matured and grown from my past experiences. And congrats, you made me think and reflect 👏 haha

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Thank you for sharing your experiences, I really appreciate it

[aicarg]

Out of the 100 females that gave an opinion, thanks for selecting mine as MHO 🙂 Happy to have reflected and share my experiences. Was pretty interesting to read through others too.

[Udaygsshsj]

Always keep in mind that.. never damaged emotional institutions which all human got by god by breaking hearts just for our personal gain, for those person who seriously in, lack of trust in today’s relationship... reiterating the high value of animal, thats why we take, in our home 🏠

[notguilty]

No, because i've only left in two situstions:

1. The guy not treating me well or not looking for the same thing as me.
2. In an early stage in dating when I've found out I didn't have the same feelings. Ended it respectfull and with dignity and kept in touch until the guy is over it and moves on (but not giving any hope on dating, just answering unanswered questions and stuff like that).

It's not fun but I think it creates a "different kind of broken heart".

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

That's very mature of you

[Fitness-Fanatic]

Yes, because I hate to be the cause of another person's pain.

It's inevitable at times though. It's kinder to end a relationship that's not right for you , coz living a lie by pretending you still want to be with someone will hurt them more in the long- term. Lying not only hurts , but it destroys a persons trust in other people

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

So you're saying it's more kinder to let things go?

[WhiteSteve]

Definitely. I don't think I've ever done anyone dirty, but just like unrequited feelings from really nice girls that I just wasn't into like that. I remember my mom telling me when I was a young teenager that over the course of my life I'd get my heart broken, and I'd break others' hearts, often without even knowing it. Sure enough, I remember a friend telling me an ex-coworker of ours sweated me hard back in the day, and I just never had any idea, and I wasn't into her on that level as it turns out. But she was a really sweet girl and it bummed me out to think that she might have been sad about me not going after her or even think of her like that. But there's a hundred chicks I thought it was the end of the world at the time if I couldn't get with them, lmao, and now I struggle to even remember their names, and I hope the girl who liked me, and any others, have well since gotten over it and have found their happiness👍 Because let's get serious, who the fuck am I?🙄😂

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Your mom is wise, she taught you all the good things. You had to do what you had to do right?

[NasaOne]

I was friends with a woman from another country back before the internet, we wrote letters to each other. And she decided to come holiday in Australia where I live. It was several months between her telling me about this trip and her getting here. During that time I started a relationship with a woman I met at a night club. It broke the friend's heart when she found out about that relationship. I had no idea she thought we were romantically involved. I did like her though and I regret not knowing she'd invested in our friendship that way.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

She probably thought you two were more, did you talk to her about it?

[NasaOne]

Yeah, we talked about it and spent some time together etc. This was twenty-five years ago and we still keep in touch, she's back in her home country though and married now so it all worked out okay.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Good for her! It worked perfectly

[Schnikies]

I think there is a part of me that still loves all those I have been in long term relationships with. Some I ended, some they ended. It still hurts even if you know it's the right thing to do. But if you want out of a relationship for a legitimate reason and don't leave you hurting both of you more really

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Certainly right about that

[10dsw]

I had to leave my last girlfriend because she had unrealistic expectations of what our relationship was supposed to be. In her words, our relationship was supposed to be like the movies.

Of course real life happened and I had to cut her off and hard. I feel bad though because she was a virgin before me.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Like the movies?

[10dsw]

La la land specifically

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Thats funny lol

[ruzzell]

yes... and it felt so terrible when i give him a hopes for nothing because before i dont have a courage to be in a relationship and it hurt him so much when i told him to stop coz i already have someone before... to bad i can't find him anymore to ask for his forgiveness...

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

You were seeing someone when you gave him hope?

[ruzzell]

nope.. i can't do that to him and before i got a boyfriend... i already told him that i can't return his feeling... and we agree to be friend...

[bajustus]

I know I broke my ex's heart, and I feel bad about it, but I didn't do anything to intentionally hurt her. I just broke up with her, and whenever I feel bad, I remember my heart was broken too, when we broke up. It's a risk you take when you fall in love, it's better than not feeling anything.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

It just wasn't meant to be?

[bajustus]

I don't know honestly. I'm 20 and it was my first relationship ever, and it was with a girl. I am still learning to accept myself, and deal with everything. I needed time, I was confused and wasn't sure if I loved her/wanted to be with her. So I told her that, but I cried like a little girl. She cried a little. Two weeks later, we talked and thought maybe it was a good idea for us to get back together. But I still wasn't sure. So she got very upset and told me I hurt her like anyone ever had. I really like/miss her, and it's hard to be without her. But I can't keep her here without knowing what I want.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

If it was your first relationship you can't blame yourself for breaking it off, like you said its something you're doing to figure out what you want and need. You cried like a little girl, don't say that. You cried like how she felt towards you, do you two still talk? No judging here, girl or guy love is love right

[bajustus]

No, she said she can't keep in touch with me as long as I don't know what I want. She told me to keep as much distance as possible :/

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Why are you confused on what you want, do you love her?

[bajustus]

I know I like her, but I'm not sure I love her. I've never loved anyone (except for my family), that's why I'm not sure.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Its okay, love is a hard thing to understand. Its not the easiest thing to harbor such feelings for someone

[JeepGirl95]

Absolutely, I'm actually dealing with this right now. I know I'm breaking his heart, but I'm also breaking my own. I truly do regret it all but at the same time you can't just sit around waiting forever, I'm taking life as it comes and right now this is something I need to do.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

May I ask why this is happening?

[JeepGirl95]

I have had an exciting job opportunity open up and I want to take it, the problem is that it puts me on the opposite side of the state from my friends/family. My guy friend that has feelings for me is taking it really hard and has started lashing out towards me, I also have feelings for him and seeing him upset hurts me. He finally told me today that he is sorry but he feels hurt and doesn't know how else to deal with it. I feel awful, but I want to take this opportunity and I can't let emotions blur my judgment because I need to do this for me.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

I would make it work, he shouldn't lash out on you. If it's something you worked hard for? l, he should be happy. Other side of the state isn't bad actually

[JeepGirl95]

This job is everything that I have been working hard for. I think the real issue is that we see each other every day because we currently work together and if I take this new job I'm not only moving hours away but it's also hard to say when we will see each other again. He told me that if I'm sure this is what I want then he will try to be supportive but it'll be hard for him. I get it, but him being mad is just making it harder for both of us.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Exactly! I mean how far would the distant be and what state is it?

[JeepGirl95]

We will be around 5 hours away from each other in TN.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Not going to lie... but that's not a huge distance,. You can definitely make it work

[Lopezz1999]

Every time it happens.. I happen to be pretty emotionally detached, and if someone were to have an attraction for me that I didn't have, there would be nothing I could do about it, because I couldn't understand her feelings if I tried. It sucks to have to reject people this way.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Makes you grow though right?

[Lopezz1999]

Yeah, and them too, hopefully. It would really be hard on them to face the same thing again, so it definitely won't hurt as hard next time.

[Wonderer89]

Absolutely. The boyfriend before my husband, I just didn't feel it with him after a few years and wanted out of the relationship but I was gutless and a coward and took way too long to end the relationship because I didn't want to hurt him (or look like a bad person).

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Dragging it out... you must've felt really bad

[Wonderer89]

Like a total asshole. Honestly it's probably the only time in my life I actually remember feeling ashamed of my behaviour. It took me months, and at times I acted out hoping that he'd get sick of my shitty attitude and dump me so it would be done.
I think my guilt is compounded because I found my love shortly after and he's had a string of bad relationships and has gotten so bitter and angry at women. This was like almost 10 years ago, but still.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Do you feel maybe karma will come back because you found the "love" now

[Wonderer89]

I think I've balanced it out... He's needed help a few times over the years and I've always answered and done my best. A few years ago before I got married I apologised and was completely honest and acknowledged to him how I felt and what I did to try and push him away and why. He said he knew it at the time but wasn't going to make it easy if I wanted out so he stayed for longer than he would have otherwise.
I've never cheated or been in anyway unfaithful so I don't feel there is any karmic retribution waiting for me, and if he too had found happiness it probably wouldn't even weigh on my mind as we all have break ups in our past

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

I'm glad you were strong enough to apologize to him and admit you made a mistake. I've done the same with my ex

[Wonderer89]

At the end of the day it's all we can do 😊

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Thank you for everything

[Wonderer89]

I haven't done anything 😛

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

You gave comments and answered what I needed. That's what you did

[Wonderer89]

Oh well I'm glad for that then 😊

[flavonallie]

breaking hearts doesn't apply to just the romance love I assume. it so happened that I was very rude to my best friend on his birthday. we were fighting at that time. he tried to make up but my ego made me flare things up and I really did break him up. he and I don't even talk to each other anymore. I still regret that.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

You let your ego get the best of you?

[flavonallie]

I did. and when I tried to fix things it was too of late. he never forgave me.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Time does heal all wounds right? Maybe it'll be better later on

[flavonallie]

it's been six years. hope he decides to forgive me even if he doesn't want to talk to me anymore

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Im sure he has, thats quite a long time to hold a grudge

[flavonallie]

haha. you think so? two years ago I gathered some courage and called him up. he was like, actually I'm busy with something. I'll call you back. bye. end

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Man some people just want to avoid things for the rest of their life, I rather confront the hurt. That's cowardice

[flavonallie]

I know. or maybe he just wants to keep me guilty for the rest of my life.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

That's even worse, they shouldn't make you feel guilty

[flavonallie]

I know I wouldn't. one fine day, I'll probably barge into his house and demand an answer.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Do it! lol

[flavonallie]

haha. yeah

[StormRiderszz]

Someone has shattered my heart into pieces. She tried to contact me again and she even asked me for a second chance. I cannot forgive her this time because what she has done to me was brutal. I don't know how much months it taken to recover from that shock. No i am trying to merge them and its very tough, but still i am trying. It will take some more time to recover from all of this.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

What happened?

[JustinTheGreat]

yes. a long ass time ago I cheated on this guy, and he was very very heartbroken.
He was suicidal before it happened but when I did it, it made him even more suicidal. i think he cut himself and tried to kill himself over me.
at the time I didn't even regret hurting him either, i just regret getting caught cheating.
then a little bit after that i realized how horrible it was and i hated myself for it

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Poor guy, you became better for it right?

[JustinTheGreat]

Yeah, i really did

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Thats what matters

[FrenchiFresh]

I, for one, have never been "in love"... I'm not the type to fall easily lol. But I'm not sure if I've ever broken someone's heart. I did have a friend who kinda obsessed over me & I turned him down. I don't regret it, but I do feel guilty about it..

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Why? Since he was obsessing over you, why feel guilty?

[FrenchiFresh]

Because he was so sweet & probably meant well. He even went as far as giving me a rose & ordering an old fashioned Coke bottle with my name on it because he remembered me telling him that I was mad because I could never find one with my name on it. But I couldn't help that I didn't feel anything for him. There were also some things that were off about him that was kinda creepy. But I just blew him off & avoided him & have not seen him since. I just feel like a real bitch by the way I went about lol :/

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Off about him, how so?

[FrenchiFresh]

Well, apparently he had done some time in Jail. And when I asked why he didn't really wanna tell me, which I understand, but it was still kinda weird... but the creepiest thing to me was that he would stare at me CONSTANTLY (something that I hate). Like he would sit right in front of me & just stare without even blinking an eye! And it was like an evil weird look too! He would totes win at a staring contest... just saying lol.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Win a staring contest lol Okay that is a little creepy like come on dude aren't your eyes dry yet?

[FrenchiFresh]

Ya feel me lol? That's what I said... I nearly offered him some damn eye drops 😂

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

You shouldn't feel bad, he sounds weird as hell lol

[FrenchiFresh]

Thanks :) I can't argue with that lol. Sweet but creepy...

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Maybe another girl will be into that lol

[FrenchiFresh]

Whatever floats that girl's boat I guess 😂 I wish him well!

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Haha 😂

[zagor]

Did have one girl who, when I talked to her months later, said she had cried for a week after I left. It didn't make me feel very good, but it had to happen.

I tried to arrange a hookup but she claimed to be busy with school, though I think she just didn't want to go through that again.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Do you see her around?

[zagor]

No, I had called her before I was in her area and she was surprised to hear from me again, but since she claimed to be busy and didn't seem interested didn't bother seeing her. And we live on different continents (why it didn't work out in the first place) and had met on a third one, so there was no chance of running into each other at random.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

At least you tried to apologize

[slatyb]

Yes. It was a shitty thing to do -- I kept seeing someone I knew I would eventually leave. She was a lovely person and didn't deserve that heartbreak. I should have ended it as soon as I knew I wasn't going to stay.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

You care for her?

[slatyb]

I don't wish we were still together, but she's a lovely person and deserved better from me. We haven't been in contact for many years. I hope she found happiness with someone else.

[Astoriana]

Not really, no. It's not something that I do lightly and it has always been for the best. I don't have an ex that I would want to get back together with. They were all good learning experiences but they were ultimately not right.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Helps you grow

[Astoriana]

Yeah, I agree. None of us are the same people we were then. Holding on to the past wouldn't be helpful or productive.

[pretty-kitty]

I hate that I've caused people pain but I don't regret anything I've done, I never have regrets because what ever I do feels right at the time and I'm not gonna tell myself I was wrong to feel that way. NO RAGRETS!

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

No Ragrets? That sounds so familiar... lol

[Anonymous]

Yes, I just left my ex without saying anything because of stress and pressure, he got all crazy and shit

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

How crazy?

[Dreamer95]

me too I left my ex at the time he was crazy in love with me.. it was heart broken but I couldn't do better than that.

[Opinion Owner]

@TheWorldEndsWithYou he started partying, hating on his parents, blocked me from everything, made new accounts for stuff and got new girlfriends every week...

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Damn... he lost his way

[Opinion Owner]

yeah I don't know exactly what happened. I suspected he might have suffered from something, as I could sense he was just a ticking timebomb... I didn't know what to do

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Do you feel better for it though?

[Opinion Owner]

yeah it's getting better

[bubblybex]

i wouldn't say i broke his heart but there was this guy i really liked but i couldnt date him and he liked me too and i had to pretty much laugh in his face when he said he liked me and i still feel so awful about it, he totally didn't deserve it

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Why couldn't you date him?

[bubblybex]

a bunch of reasons like my family split cause father was kinda insane and we were real poor and mostly i dont want to have sex unless im sterilised which stops him from having his own kids which is wrong to make him do and not fair on him and we were real young, everyone in a relatoinship was out of it by the end of the month, i knew itd never last and he had just come from another country and needed to learn English and it would end up being drama for him and it would just be distracting him and he was already failing school, especially English

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Your father went insane? Man thats really sorry to hear, did you think you made the right choice in the end?

[bubblybex]

i dont really know if i made the right choice but i hope i did

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

As long as you feel that way

[indo_ma]

Of course I've never wanted to hurt anyone I once loved, however I've learned I need to put my own needs first and foremost and it's hard for me to feel guilty for doing what's best for me.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

The best person to make happy is yourself, thats right!

[hereforu]

There's 1 I regret

[KDria]

I have felt really bad about it but regretted it, no. Breaking someone heart is better than leading them on

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Any one in particular you felt really bad about?

[alwaysless]

Yes, I broke up with him at the peak of our relationship (he didn't suspect anything and was always kind) and he apparently cried for 2 hours after. I felt like shit.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Poor guy, why did you break it off?

[alwaysless]

I was getting sick of his immaturity, it felt like I was dating an 11 year old.

[alwaysless]

He was ridiculously sweet though.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

He acted like an 11 year old who was very sweet. You made the right choice

[alwaysless]

Haha I agree, but I do regret breaking up with him when he was starting to get attached.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Better late than never right?

[adore_lfl]

I think i did it a lot when i told guys no when they were interested in me i just didn't wanna have any relationship so mostly i friendzoned them or brotherzoned them.

[kenjaminslutton]

I wouldn't be your friend that optical illusion of a dress gives me headaches "headaches"!

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

You wanted to be single or those just didn't interest you?

[adore_lfl]

@kenjaminslutton lol😂😂
@TheWoldEndsWithYou i just wanted to be single and enjoy my life.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Do you feel you've made the right choice?

[adore_lfl]

Yes i totally do

[Enes_Sabi]

I am a Great Asshole. I never regetted a kiss, a friendship or a love which Iam breaked up, until this particullar Girl, who has the best good-bad balance
I worked for her 2-3 Month to chat with me, an in the End it worked. Now I think she kinda likes me again.
I dont know, do I love her, but I know she's in some way special.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Special is good though

[Enes_Sabi]

My best friend and I were Womanizer in the past

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

What are you now though

[melanieeeB]

No not regretted but with one I still feel really bad, but well I can't change the way I feel and can't force myself to love someone who I clearly don't

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Why did you feel really bad about it?

[melanieeeB]

we used to be really good friends and actually I had a gut feeling that he wanted something, I was 16, but I wasn't sure cause I was not that self confident and I was like no he couldn't but I somewhere knew it and after a year he told me and well I broke every contact to him

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

You ghosted him? Why were you not confident in yourself?

[melanieeeB]

I did not ghosted him, I broke his heart and then left, he asked to be friends and I decided to end it, cause I thought with being friends he would still have hope and I killed that hope
In all this year his affection for me got bigger, if I stopped that in the beginning he would have not get hunted so much like in the end

[melanieeeB]

*hurted, stupid auto correct

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

I was about to say... like damn you even hunted this guy down but it was auto corrected. Rip off the band aid as fast as you can right? It hurts but it was the right thing to do

[melanieeeB]

yes as fast as possible, thanks

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Thank you for sharing your opinion

[luvstoned4him]

Yes but it wasn't intentional. I didn't get involved with them or anything but they grew obsessed with me with unrealistic expectations and when it didn't happen, grew bitter.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Obessed? it was that bad?

[luvstoned4him]

@TheWorldEndsWithYou yes in his own words.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Sorry to hear about your experiences

[luvstoned4him]

@TheWorldEndsWithYou I am trying to make our friendship work but safe to say it will never be the same. He texted me this morning "I will get pissed at you and we won't always be on terms but dont think my feelings for you will change. You will always be my friend" Plus he is very BIG on sarcasm so am not sure what to think.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

That would make me so confused what to think

[luvstoned4him]

yep...

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Sorry for what you had to go through with

[luvstoned4him]

@TheWorldEndsWithYou What dont kill you, only makes you stronger. It was kinda messy tho and I hate messes.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Just wipe yourself out, like Obi Wan said. If you strike me down I'll come back more powerful than you can possibly imagine

[luvstoned4him]

haha loool. ok

[sassygirl13]

Twice. They confessed love but I felt nothing more than friends. They were crushed but it's not fair to lie to them.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Better than stringing them along?

[SabinaV]

I have not and would not choose to. Or it may lead to that question you just asked.

Why are you going through it?

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

I did a long time ago but I made peace with the woman I hurt. Just felt like something that needed to be ask. That's good you never did though.

[SabinaV]

Does it still bother you?

Closure ends unanswered thoughts and questions, it is good you had, to keep both of you at peace.

I did not want anything bothering my thoughts

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

It doesn't bother me because when I said my closure. I did it with poise and maturity, knowing in myself I grew from her pain. So I apologized, thanked her for helping become a better person.

Let's hope we keep our minds clear

[SabinaV]

That is the right step to take, not a lot would, but that is courage, very good thing

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

I appreciate that

[HonestGirlAlways]

It's never a good feeling to break someone's heart. I've always felt sorry about it but I can't say I regret rejecting them or breaking up, because I was putting myself first.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

You live up to your username indeed lol

[BrettAC]

Yes and no but general rule of thumb is that if it were meant to be she'll never truly let you go long enough for you to find I go that special someone that isn't her.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

That's insightful actually, she won't let you truly go

[Pretentious_Haze]

Gotta break hearts to stay intact, never regretted it ever; it takes courage and maturity to recognize when something needs to be done.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Very true, so not even once?

[Pretentious_Haze]

Well one time I broke things off with a girl that was too clingy and then she attacked me in the parking lot of our school months and months later. So I wish I'd been able to end things on a better note, but I've never regretted ending it in general. There's always other people in the world and it's often better in the long run for things not to drag out if you know it's a sinking ship

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

She sounds crazy, you were right to let things go

[Pretentious_Haze]

Yeah, I seem to have some pheromones that attract crazy, haha

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

I actually like crazy lol 😂

[BornIntoThis]

Yeah I did. Kinda still do. It was just an elementary school love so she got over it in like a day or something, but still, I was a dick about it.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

You were a kid, its okay. Just be better

[TheMoroccangirl]

No, I cannot control their feelings and I prefer to be honest about my feelings than giving them fake hope.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Tell them what they need to hear, not what they want to hear

[TheMoroccangirl]

Exactly.

[Jager66]

No, I don't generally give a shit if this happens.

If she was valued enough for me to care about hurting her feelings then I wouldn't be doing it in the first place.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Damn lol

[EmiliaB]

Yes, hurting someone is the worst feeling in the world.
I don't regret what happened, but I never wanted to hurt him, and I hate thinking about it.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

That bad?

[EmiliaB]

Yes. It's easier to get your own heart broken than to break someone else's. Your own heartbreak, you get over. I don't the guilt of hurting someone you care/d about ever goes away.

Have you regretted breaking someone's heart?

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

No because majority of the time, its the person who breaks my heart. The one i did leave is because she never kept her promises.

[OtakuNeko666]

I feel it now and I hate myself for it and once I forgive and move on I'll still remember this mistake for ever in my dumb life.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

What mistake?

[OtakuNeko666]

I think i broke my crush's heart...

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

How did you do that?

[TasDevil]

yes and I still do 20 years later I wish I could go back and punch myself in the face really bloody hard

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Ouch, regretted it that bad?

[TasDevil]

when you turn your back on someone and they are dead less than a week later and you never stopped loving them. yeah regret that

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

damn... I'm sorry dude

[TsundereMatrix]

I had to tell a lot of guys that I wasn't interested in them and I just wanted to be friends. I don't regret it but it was hard to do.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

You friend zoned a lot of them didn't you?

[TsundereMatrix]

Yeah, there was no connection

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Better to not fake it

[TsundereMatrix]

Yeah. I hate to lead them on

[Musiclover10009]

Yes I didn't want to break his heart but things got really complicated and I feel so bad but we sorted it out but never wanted to hurt him 😬

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

How did you sort it out?

[Musiclover10009]

We talked it over and what went wrong and then we decided to be friends again and since then are good friends again but part of me will still feel guilty cause of how things ended

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

He forgave you though, learn to forgive yourself

[Musiclover10009]

True I guess and yeah that takes time👍🏽

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Of course, thank you for the comments

[Musiclover10009]

No worries 👍🏽

[live_love33]

it hurts to hurt someone, but i had to break up w him if i wanted to keep the trust. heartbreak is always better than getting played

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Why do you say that? Getting played

[live_love33]

because after you lost feelings for the person, you start liking other people and that's getting played

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

You were liking someone?

[live_love33]

after a relationship or i lost feelings

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

As long as you grew from it, you're better person for it

[Teenage_Elmo]

Nope. I've only broken up with two and it was for a reason. It just wasn't going to work out so I don't see why I should drag it out.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

As long as they were justified

[Teenage_Elmo]

The first was the distance... we were so young and he lived states away. And the second was because she confessed that she can't see herself loving or marrying a girl, just liking.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Now that's jacked right there, I don't mind distant to be honest. I don't feel distance should separate two people, and that girl is jacked.

[Teenage_Elmo]

I live in California and he lives in New York. I wouldn't be able to see him in over 6 years. It was hard but it wasn't going to work out. People change and we were way too far away. I needed someone I could actually hug

No, she wasn't. I asked. She was just honest. Plus it was open (she asked for it) so thinking that she would end up loving her boyfriend and just liking me hurt. I felt I would just be left behind and if she wouldn't ever love or marry me, then there is no future for us.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

He's from New York? I wonder how that happened, I love my city. Los Angeles all day every day lol but you're right... a hug is a powerful thing.

Oh it was open, were you catching feelings for her?

[Teenage_Elmo]

She and I liked each other but a week into the relationship she asked about how I would feel if she started dating this guy. I gave her the go ahead but she acted so differently with him than me so I guess I got worried and asked her that question.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

How did she act differently if you don't mind me asking?

[Teenage_Elmo]

I mean me and her were kind of awkward but after he joined she was a bit cold. I never kissed her or had her hug me back when we were together but she seemed to laugh with him and was so much warmer and cuddlier and stuff

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

I wonder why it was different with you than when she was with him, did you ever ask her?

[Teenage_Elmo]

Im not sure. I guess its because she didn't know how to act around me and well she hasn't had much experience dating girls

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

I know what you mean, I've been in a relationship with a lesbian before. It can be a difficult and different transition

[Anonymous]

I haven't broken someone's heart.
I have had my heart broke though and only hope the guy I dated regrets it. but then I'd probably feel bad for them feeling bad.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

I would feel bad for feeling bad, you're kind.

[Opinion Owner]

thanks. I still really care about them and hope they come back... I don't blame them for leaving and I hope they're doing ok wherever they are, I just wish they didn't treat me like a stranger after they broke up with me. It really hurts to be their everything to their nothing.

[Opinion Owner]

sorry I ranted lol 😅

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

If they don't though its because he wasn't meant for you, and there will be someone who doesn't ever want to give up on you

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

its fine lol

[Opinion Owner]

yeah very true. I hope I find someone that special, I've grown a bit cold and untrustworthy. so whoever it is might have to break down a few walls.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

And if he's the right one, he'll tear them down. Just give them a chance

[Opinion Owner]

I'll give them a chance, it's just if they're willing to take that chance.

thanks for talking to me :)

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Anytime

[lovelybabygirl]

Well... no one deserves having their heart broken but sometimes you have to choose between your feelings the other person's...

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

What person heart did you break?

[HaleyArnold]

No regrets, I never intentionally broke someone's heart so I'm good with the past

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

As long as you aren't living in the past

[HaleyArnold]

I'm not... why do you say that?

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

because you have no regrets and moved on

[Anonymous]

I moved on already, but there's was this one dude that was different from the others. Everybody thought he looked ugly but I looked past that, he was the first boy I ever loved because of his personality not his looks.

[kenjaminslutton]

Lol who cares what people think

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

He was beautiful handsome to you, that's what matters

[Xoxoxooo123]

it's never nice breaking someones heart, but i don't regret doing what i felt was best.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

And that's all anyone can ask from you

[lucasnabizada]

I broke this girl's heart... And two days later she won the lottery...
I fucking regretted more than once friend... LOL I'm just kidding though

[flavonallie]

thanks for that. I needed a good laugh

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Man imagine lol

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Yes, this one girl i hurt her and I just wish i could go and tell her I'm sorry.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

You could do that

[BlackSkye]

I did for awhile but once I found someone I was compatible with and had feelings for it changed.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Being with someone else that you love can heal wounds

[BlackSkye]

It can. It can also make you realize people in the past weren't I needed anyway;

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

I'm glad you found what you were looking for

[Sunflower19]

People have broken my heart but I haven't broken someone's else's heart.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Aw dang... I'm sorry to hear that

[shortandsweet24]

Yes. But, I doubt I've ever done it. I would if I did. 😋

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Thats honest though lol

[shortandsweet24]

what do you mean? 😋💜

[MaelaK]

As far as relationships are concerned I've never regretted rejecting people I was not interested in. Even those I rejected quiet harshly because they could understand all the previous times I calmly said "no".

[lilmomo]

no, I like the feeling of dissecting a heart. Science!

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

You blinded me with science

[Anonymous]

The only way I ever broke people's heart was when they asked me out and I rejected them.
I regret not getting invloved with my best friend and friend zoning him though.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

You wanted to be with him?

[Opinion Owner]

yes.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

What ifs, one of the worst things someone can go through

[Opinion Owner]

exactly

[ThatLeaf]

Once. Now looking back though I don't. It was just never meant to be.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Makes you think doesn't it?

[ThatLeaf]

Yep. :V

[xJxMxN]

I did t mean to, it just happened unintentionally, of course I regret it. I'm still in love.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

What did you do?

[xJxMxN]

I broke things off with him because I knew a long distance relationship would be too much for him to handle. He also started hanging out with one of my best friends too much. So my jealousy resulted in things actually ending and me doing something stupid. But in the end, he gained feelings for her, just like I thought he would.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

What kind of stupid things did you do?

[xJxMxN]

I smoked, I mean I ended up telling him~ but he's deeply against it. He just gave up on me.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

What kind of smoke? Like cigarettes or weed?

[xJxMxN]

Cigarettes

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Do you still do it? I'm not a big fan of cigarettes as well

[xJxMxN]

This was very recent, I formed a habit that's hard to break, I was clean from it for a month but I relapsed and he got upset

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

I get cigarettes aren't good for you but to leave someone when they're trying their best. Sounds harsh

[xJxMxN]

He told me that was his breaking point, he's given me many chances before. He doesn't actually believe that I was trying my best. He never really did communicate with me, like when I'd mess up or get him mad, he'd just stay quiet and not let me know. He expected me to find out myself. It was like he played the more stereotypical role of a female.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Stereotypical role of the female lol okay that was pretty funny right there. Thats the problem with many relationships lack of communication.

[xJxMxN]

I was always the one trying to communicate, but he never wanted to really. He would always make me talk about myself, never him. But when I ask him to talk to me, he doesn't. I really did try, but I broke his heart without realizing it instead.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

You shouldn't be so hard on yourself, it seems like you really did try your best. You grew from that relationship

[xJxMxN]

He said it himself~ It just sucks. I really could've saved the relationship.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

I see it as if things are truly meant to be, they wouldn't truly end right? But if it does, then you weren't supposed to

[xJxMxN]

Correct.

[Barrabus_the_Free]

What? No. Why in the name of all that's evil and corrupt would I?

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

You're good thats why lol

[Barrabus_the_Free]

Haha no. Not by a long shot.

[BrittBratt2416]

i don't think i've ever broken anyone's heart really..

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Never?

[BrittBratt2416]

I don't really know for sure.. guys don't look at me that way a lot anyways.

[Anonymous]

I have and I live with that guilt daily. I wish I never hurt him. He was so good to me and my son. I really fucked up badly and I'm so sorry that I hurt him all those times.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

how did it happen?

[Anjie2218]

Yes, I'm no heartbreaker but I can can completely empathize.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

Had it happened many times?

[Anjie2218]

Breaking hearts or having my heart broken?

That I know of I've only broken maybe 10ish hearts since I started dating 12 years ago. I'm pretty fearless so I ask people out and I, personally, don't take rejection hard.

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

10ish hearts? Damn! You're ruthless lol

[Anjie2218]

Oh hush, I'm not the girl next door I'm the "little sister"

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

😂 that made laugh, and a little scary you put it in quotes

[Anjie2218]

Why scary? It's in quotes because it's been said sooooo much 😧 however, I counter with something along the lines of "I'll be your sister the way Cerci was to Jaime Lannister." 🤣😂🤣😂 #noshame

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

You just game of thrones me lol I guess there's nothing wrong with being the "little sister@ 😂

[Anjie2218]

I only saw the first 2 seasons-ish but yea, I did 😅

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

It's hard to keep up at times, I don't blame you lol 😂