i remember AIM, but you did the best you could to set her in that path on how you see her through your eyes. Some women have a hard time getting over those insecurities, you did the best you could
What would you do differently?
Met the love of my life soon after. But, not knowing that would happen I would have "Made" it work and ride and ride out her growing pains.
That's what I would rather do, break my own heart before I hurt them. You're right though, you do always learn something
Well, I believe, the people that are open to learning do. Some people, unfortunately, end up with so much hate for the person that broke their heart that they hang on to the hurt and refuse to let go, to learn from it and move past it. Of course you would break your own heart, that's what you do for people you care for and love.
I think I've grown from it, I said sorry to the one woman I broke. For that I made my peace
Thats good. I'm really glad you're able to learn and grow from it. As I said, I don't believe everyone can, or at least is willing to. Was she receptive to your apology? Based on what I've heard from other people they would rather leave things alone. Not cut open healed wounds.
She was actually very rude and acted real juvenile but I killed her with kindness and walked away the bigger person
Please understand I am not trying to be rude or mean. Honestly. But this is the problem, it sounds like you did it to make yourself feel better. Perhaps I'm wrong but that's what it sounds like. My point is sometimes YOU break the heart and YOU have to live with the grief and leave them be to heal. I've been here. It's a sad reality but sometimes they never want to hear from you or see you again. However, you never really do know until you're in that situation, face to face telling them what they want to hear, something you should have said sooner or something they never wanted to hear from you ever. Again, not trying to be rude or mean, I hope you see that. Just trying to share the little wisdom I have on this topic.
And by you I dont mean you but the heartbreaker.
It was five years since it passed and I didn't cheat on her or anything but I felt really bad. I lived enough with it, I did it to grow as a person and know for myself that I can't dwell on the past.
And of course, I'm not taking no offense
Well given those facts I am sorry she behaved so childishly. She must have been hurt badly. It's unfortunate she couldn't just listen and walk away but had to be a brat about it. Either way, its done and it's time to move on. 😊
Oh I did lol and I hope you moved on from it :)
Hahaha well that sounds good for you. I have and I'm very happy with who and where I'm at.
Sounds like a happy ending
Guess we will find out. *fingers crossed* 😉
Hope you get yours too.
I think I have already
Good! Don't f*ck it up. Lol 😉
I won't lol
I couldn't have said it better myself, so I'm not going to try. haha
@Big_Biker_Daddy Haha! Good call, I've got this. 😉
This was probably one of the most mature answers 😐
Well this was a mature question haha Reading your question brought me flashbacks to reflect on things from the past and what I could have done differently. But, we all learn from our past.
You seem a way better person than that woman in your past. I wanted a question that made you think
I like to believe I've matured and grown from my past experiences. And congrats, you made me think and reflect 👏 haha
Thank you for sharing your experiences, I really appreciate it
Out of the 100 females that gave an opinion, thanks for selecting mine as MHO 🙂 Happy to have reflected and share my experiences. Was pretty interesting to read through others too.
Always keep in mind that.. never damaged emotional institutions which all human got by god by breaking hearts just for our personal gain, for those person who seriously in, lack of trust in today’s relationship... reiterating the high value of animal, thats why we take, in our home 🏠
That's very mature of you
So you're saying it's more kinder to let things go?
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Aw that's really sad 😕
It's okay. I wouldn't want to break anyone's heart anyways.
That's get kind, the next will treat yours like treasure
Haha I hope so.
If it does, let them off easy
At least you're straight with it, I can respect that
Do you keep in contact?
She choose to cut ties after a while. She was entering a relationship with someone and I think she was still thinking about us (like me). Today she's no longer with the guy apparently. She grew up and I did too. I could contact her on fb but i doubt she will respond since she is really hurt over the number of men that dumped her (I see some post on fb that people like and they are not positive at all). But, on the positive side my life turn for the better after the relationship. I'm no longer lazy. Got a new more than decent job. Became a better man. A part of me still miss her a lot... she was the best woman I had in my life.
I'll cross my fingers and hope her life turns for the better
Well she need to learn to stop being lazy and stop blaming others for her failure. Once she do that, i'm completely sure her life will turn for the better. She's a great individual with great skill.
Blaming others, I know how that is
to do what?
End things, of course
You blinded me with science
You're one of the lucky ones
Damn, that's hardcore right there. What happened? 😂
He is a big douche he is still tying to ruin my life because I never wanted to get back with him.
Ruining your life, how?
I hope it's not fun for anyone lol
Better to string him along right
Obviously not. That's why I broke up with them.
Oops I meant better than to string song lol
What did he do?
He committed armed robbery and assult. I was ashamed that I knew him.
Holy crap that must've been so odd that you found that out
Yeah. It was
She sounds special
How do you know she's the one?
Some things you just know.
Government controls you?
Knock on wood you never do
I hope so too 😊
cross my fingers for you
Should've told him in the beginning :(
An unmotivated guy, yeah you're right. You did the right thing
Yes, it was for the best 🙂
Are you better not? Is he?
Yes I am way better off, married and happy. I have no idea how he is doing anymore it's been a few years.
A Happy Ending
When you do have someone, don't do it lol
You bet! I won't do that and I hope I won't be taken advantage of either.
How did it happen?
Guy played emotional games and strung me along. I really invested a lot of time and feeling to be told he never cared for him. I wanted to kill the guy because he also abused me at the end. Now I don't trust men. It took me a year to get over that. - never again with another man
Damn... abuse that's horrible. I don't get how anyone could do that, man or woman
Did it work out for the best?
Let them live with the guilt
yes i agree... eventually one day they will realize... and should ask for forgiveness but never seem so.. but they hv egos!!!
Takes greater strength to apologize
agreed.. i guess they lack in that!!
Their own good?
I've definitely learned my share
haha that was funny
Hope you continue to stay that way
Thanks man I appreciate it
it sucks when you're left with no choice
How did you do that?
It was a time when a lot of my friends were posting a who stalks your social media, based on an app that apparently tells you. I decided to jump in on the trend and his name popped up among others, and he seemed pretty embarrassed coz I posted it online
I did genuinely feel bad for a long time, but I don't see him so I don't know how badly he took it
Its hard to know, be better for it
yeah you're right
Don't say that, think positive
What's not positive about that?
i thought it said, she would break it. My bad
No problem lol
You're always the victim?
thats very true
who hurts on purpose right
Many people got heartbroken here
I know, sad but true.
She's yours again?
yes she is
How long were you best friends for?
That bad, what happened?
Long story. I'm not even sure if it's counted as my fault, but it feels so. I can't really post it in public, even anonymously.
I would say message it to me but I understand
I'm not sure whether I'm brave enough to admit it out loud yet.
It's okay you don't have to, I was just concerned. When you're ready
Thanks for understanding 😊
No problem, have a blessed day 😊
he dumped a great girl (me)
You think so?
You didn't hurt them that bad right?
Well we never know because I did nothing but trying to fix things by lying and I apologized.
As long as you became better for it
Exactly because I felt really bad for what I did so since that day I've never lied to anybody the way I've lied to that person.
That's what matters
How did it go?
very bad that he hates me after all the years that passed and always avoids me if accidently ran into each other
Damn... hopefully you became a better person for it
always trying to be
finish it before it becomes too late
First one usually is the hardest
Yeah it sure was
thats not true, it can't be
Yes it is. I know it sounds quite unbelievable to most people, but its true
how could this be, explain it.
Hey, hey. I'm in the same situation as this anon guy.
@Enes_Sabi there isn't much to explain. remember the first time some girl liked you? well i never had that happen to me. I met thousands of girls in my life, but not one of them was ever attracted to me. i never even had a kiss or held hands
Me too Mr. Anon :/It is actually a little common among guys.
@Unit1 I wouldn't say its common. I literally dont know any other living soul thats in this situation. I only see this occasionally on the internet, just like I found out about you here...
Damn! lol hey at least you're honest.
Lol! Always honest. I keep it real. I don't have time for games especially with people's hearts and emotions.
Never stop being real alright?
You got it, sir!
Hahaha, I like this woman already 😂😎
Lol hey thanks! 😁
I hope it stays that way lol
Worked out in the end
I'd say it did
Got to take that leap of faith man
Don't beat yourself man
The best you can do to get over it faster.
cross my fingers for you bro
You were very young
Shows that you got a heart
Having a heart is not fun sometimes
Don't be the Tin Man now, a person will take care of it
I liked the tin man :)
I'm more of a scarecrow kind of guy lol
Thank you for the follow
you don't mind, ok cool :)
Of course not, why would I
I don't know what the habit is here