Me and my ex where together for 2 years and on and off for another 2. We were each other's first loves. He just started dating her 4 months ago, they seem happy, they travel together, they go to parties together, they do grown up things, things him and I never did together. Why do I feel so heartbroken? Why can't I let go? How do I stop comparing what we had with what they have now? Did he ever love me? Why do I feel so broken right now. Please help :(
Most Helpful Guy
Maybe the fact that she is so opposite to you is quite deliberate but not for the reason that you fear. Rather than being a rejection of all that you are and were it could actually be that he doesn't want to constantly be reminded of you because that's hurtful to him. So he chooses someone who doesn't remind him of you in any way whatsoever.
Regardless of his reasons, if you are sitting around watching what he is doing then you're not living your own life. Don't try to guess what their relationship is like because you cannot possibly know. Appearances can be very deceptive. You have no idea if they are truly happy and you have no idea if they will last. They might break up in two weeks' time.
Just get on with your life, he's in your past now.
Most Helpful Girl
Oh Hun. It's always hard to see someone we loved move on, especially if we aren't quite there yet. But her being the opposite of you doesn't nullify what you shared in anyway - he may want to have tried something different or they may have been traits he's learned to enjoy after being with her.
That doesn't take away from what you shared, and watching them together isn't going to do anything good for you. Try to stay focussed on your own happiness instead of theirs