My boyfriend's ex girlfriend is gorgeous and I feel so jealous. Please help! Any advice on getting past this insecurity?

[Anonymous]

I stupidly looked up my boyfriend's ex on facebook. She is drop dead gorgeous. Perfectly gorgeous face and perfect body. I really regret doing this because now I can't stop thinking about it. I can't stop thinking that her body turned him on more, that he thinks her face was prettier. To make it worse, they dated for almost 3 years and she was the one who left him because of college distractions!!! I find myself to be quite average. Average face and a not very good body. I have fat on my stomach and fat arms and my body literally does not compare to hers. Now my boyfriend and I have been together for a few months , and we are both very happy and in love. He says he has never felt the way he feels about me before, that all past relationships don't compare, and how he has loved girls in the past, but he hasn't been in true love before he met me. He calls me beautiful all the time, but I just for some reason cannot shake this insecure feeling. I just need advice on how to personally move past this. There's really nothing he can say that will help, because he calls me beautiful and sexy and says he wants to be with me forever all the time. And I dont want him to know that I looked her up on facebook because that's so weird. I really regret doing it !! It is just such an awful feeling, she is so so pretty and ahh!! Its awful! Please give me some advice lol.

[Anonymous]

I'm gonna tell you 3 words. Looks. aren't. everything. First of all stop comparing bodies. The guy likes being with you. Life lesson: body and looks mean nothing. Unless your into modeling. A girl could be drop dead gorgeous but have a shit personality. I want you to understand that no one is perfect in this world. Your too jelous because she looks better than you. I used to be kind of jelous too. Now the cure for this is acceptance. No one is perfect and you are a unique person. Everyone is different and everyone is unique in their own way. Worry about yourself and improve by taking constructive criticism from others. Whenever it bothers you just be your self. No one can recreate you.

[donut_ritz]

Tho we guys get attracted to the visuals on the first offense, it's not necessary for us in finding the one. I've been in both situations and there're girls who I'd prefer to be with all the time tho they are less privileged in the visual department because you feel more connected. It was more fun and engaging. May be he found a safe haven in you and that he trusts you now. Things with them is done. All that matters now is that you guys are together and making each other happy. Relationship is not all about "turning them on". Live it up, girl. Nothing good comes out of that insecurity.

[SkyBreeze]

Her looks doesn't define her, neither does yours. Tell yourself your thoughts are irrational, because they really are, and let them go. Instead, build up your own self worth and confidence. Your boyfriend doesn't have to be with you, he loves you and wants you. Be happy with that and let the waste of negative thinking go.

[SarahsSummer]

He was younger with her and as a person matures, they begin to realize what is most important it sounds like he’s not only attracted to your looks but also what’s inside you. Trust in what he says and in the fact that he’s with you. He chose to be with you. Accept it, embrace it and stop with the insecurity.

[melissa_tcmt]

be truthful with him. let him reassure you.

also realize that he's with you for a reason. its because he wants to be with you! girl, you're beautiful in your own way and he obviously sees that in you

[Joker22]

Ok so if she is "drop dead gorgeous" I'm assuming your boyfriend is handsome enough to get a girl similarly attractive to her BUT he didn't and looked for you and loved you and if he says that your beautiful he means it so you don't need to worry about him and how he sees you but if your worried about how you see yourself that's perfectly fine go to the gym and lose some fat and make some booty gains 🍑

[Pink1996]

Girl do not stress over past relationships. Its clearly over between your boyfriend and his ex. He loves you and that is all you should focus on. Focus on growing, maturing, and building your relationship positively.

[ZanyInternetName]

Before I may answer I need to be in the clear - are you jealous (bitch gonna steal my guy) or are you envious (why she looking so damn good?). It sounds like the second but you did say jealous.

[Harsh_5299]

Lol, these 13 year old kids though...
Seriously, your boyfriend is a mature person who understands the fact that personality matters, his ex was a shitty person who left him so obviously he knows the importance of one's personality so don't worry

[DeterMind]

I don't have any advice for you, just a comment on the people replying. Where did all these 13 and 14 year olds come from? And why do they all think they are capable of giving relationship advice?

[sarah009991]

There is one single thing u should do ! DON'T LOSE YOUR CONFIDENCE. if ur boyfriend by some mere chance felt that u lost your confidence and u let these giant thoughts consume and step on your mind then u have lost the game...

[peraphone04]

He chose you! They are not a thing anymore, hopefully. You are 10 times more beautiful than any girl in someone's eyes

[tasteyou]

Most girls that beautiful are so self-centered they have no passion and are a zombie in bed kind of like that Kim Kardashian video with Ray J

[Anonymous]

He’s with you now though. And he obviously thinks your gorgeous so that’s all that matters. She’s in the past. I know it’s hard not to compare yourself but you have to trust that he’s with you for a reason and he nor you can change who his ex is

[madgoat]

Like attracts like, a lot of the time. He was with her for 3 years then chose you. It doesn't sound like he's making do.
The moral is : All the shines is not golden.

[PondyPand]

He's not with her. He's with you. He wouldn't be with you if he was still hung up on her

[anmari2001]

There is a reason she is EX, look is not all hun, now he prefer you and he is with you

[str0gan0fb0i]

If he left her, he is not interested in her and found you. In his eyes you are currently the one for him.

[badgalg]

Why bro he legit is reassuring you no need and your probably are gorgeous

[Anonymous]

I read it then saw you are under 18, then it made sense. Give yourself 5 more years, you'll grow out of it.

[Anon-ymous1]

Haven't you posted this exact same question before? Or was that someone else?

[Spotted3]

well if he picked you over her he thinks your more gorgeous

[SovietBall]

Don't worry, he has a heart of gold and will not leave you to any of the previous girls...

[RONALDO_007]

NOT MUCK TO DO THE EXACT SOLUTION IS JUST MENSTRUBATE KID

[abourbeau558]

Make up for it by having an awesome personality !

[rjroy3]

How is having that insecurity a problem?

[GinaTina]

You Just have to get over it

[Eden0202]

Did you even hit puberty?