I’m not key your truck and bust your tail lights out crazy, but I tend to be moody and I know it. I’ve been dating this guy on and off for a couple years. He never ends the relationship; I do (a lot) for various reasons mainly because I don’t think I’m getting what I need from him. He is closed off emotionally via text, email, IM and on the phone but in person he is the most affectionate person I have ever known. However, we don’t see each other much due to demanding jobs and we live about and hour and a half a part. He also doesn’t tell me he loves me or anything of the sort, he tells me he misses me and that he wishes I was with him and that kind of stuff but that’s it.
I constantly change my mind about if I want to be with him or not. I sometimes feel like if he’s not going to give me what I need then I don’t need him but then I miss him and change my mind (see what I mean, a little crazy). One day I told him I didn’t want to see him again and he didn’t respond. He text me the next day to see how my day was going, we were being sweet so I decided I wanted to see him. I told him and he told me I was way too much. I didn’t hear from him until 1:00am when he text me saying “I’m coming to see you this weekend”.
Why does he put up with me? If I knew he felt something for me I’d calm down but the fact that he doesn’t tell me makes it worse. One of my guy friends told me if he didn’t have feelings for me he wouldn’t put up with me and he wouldn’t keep going back. He said guys don’t like drama and only put up with it if they care about someone. When I end it he doesn’t say much, especially now he just gives me some time to cool off then he contacts me and things go back to normal.
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He keeps coming back. Doesn't that say something? Look...it's sneeky, and a bit underhanded, but if you can learn to do this you can pry open the the most stubbornly closed man. Learn to tickle his ego. I said tickle, not pounce on it. Quit fishing for his feelings...use them.
Talk to your girl friends. Ask them about it. I know when the question comes up, they will see they do it, and don't even realize it.
As with so many endeavors in this life, subtlety is the masters edge.
Hope that helps0