Do you keep or delete pictures of your ex?

I have several pics of me and my ex and even a funny video of us doing impressions. Right after we broke up, I thought about deleting everything but now, I've decided to keep them. Reasons? They bring back memories. If the pictures are deleted for good, the good memories are just kinda gone. Despite the breakup, I've learned how to control my emotions for a bit. I learned to accept the situation as it is and only remember the good times we had. In the future, I might even look back and think "Why the fuck was I with this guy?" lol. For me, deleting the pics would make me feel worse than keeping them.

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  • I deleted everything. I had one night where I ordered a pizza and drank a lot of liquor. I turned on all of our favorite songs and started with the earliest pictures of our relationship and enjoyed the memories of our 5 year relationship/engagement one last time before I completely moved on. Sounds dramatic and lame but it was a painful breakup. I am stronger because I leave pain behind.

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    • What was the reasons behind not wanting to continue the relationship or have you found why you were left behind? I have also found myself in a situation painful like this.

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    • Amen. Get rid of it all. Except for what you may need to keep around for evidence purposes in court. :-)

    • Yes, I agree. Good for you because we can all Overcome anything through Christ. I mean there have been times of peril in my life when I cried out while driving a scooter with music of the religious type feeling God touch my heart with love calming me down so fast I stopped crying to the times I got upset at those who dogged me online and to those past relationships between people I lost. So I think it's good to get rid of those pictures. It's your choice. I pray it's a smart choice to. Actions speak louder than words.

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  • I think it's okay to keep them for a while, it's difficult to delete good memories, but once you start seeing someone new, it seems respectful and healthy to let the other person go in all forms.

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  • I keep everything because the past informs who I am now. I don't white wash it.

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    • Your ex's spread ass cheeks doesn't define u or inform u who u are Deleat that shit stop being a creep

    • @otternk15 I was never so creepy that I felt the need to photograph my girlfriends spread asscheeks and butthole.

    • @belgie best response you could have given :)

  • I'm a little surprised at the replies below. I always felt that deleting pictures was a very female thing to do. I don't delete pictures of my exes but it's not because I want to keep them -- it's because I don't care enough to delete them. I mean, that strikes me as a lot of work for no reason and having her pictures on my computer or phone just doesn't bother me as I rarely ever see them anyway.

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    • Yeah that's part of my reason too.

  • Believe me, after awhile after deleting the pics, you'll feel much better. Keeping them doesn't help.

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  • Depends on the circumstances. The bitches that cheated on me I deleted. The ones where we ended on decent terms and I sort of wish it hadn't ended I keep.

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    • Yeah, that's kinda what happened with me. I ended on decent terms.

  • To comply the general push, I delete them, but it is funny how weak people are. Girls are afraid the guys will seek back the pre life, guys dont learn to clean up after a breakup, and we, who actually know how to manage it, suck it up and forced to hide/remove memories of our life, because the majority can't deal with their own stuff :) thank you for listening.

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  • You'll move on, you will change your mind. And those memories are never gone. You might not remember them for a while but the next time you find yourself in a similar situation you'll think back and know what you do. And you'll be able to tell people about it, and use thinks you like to be positive towards others

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  • Leave the past behind when starting a new future. Unless there is an extremely high chance you'll get back together, let them live as memories not pictures.

    When you meet someone new you'll want to delete them else your knew found love might not feel comfortable knowing you think back on your previous love affairs, especially if you have a fight they'll believe you secretly wish you were back in the other relationship.

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  • I keep everything, it's not for leverage, it's for me. I keep memories. Good bad and ugly, I love playing through emotions...

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  • Delete.. You don't need to keep these pictures of the past to remember all about the good memories or what you learned that time..
    The memories will always stays in your mind.. And the hard lessons definitely will not need a reminder..
    So remove those old pictures and make way for the new..

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  • I still have chats from our first ever text (4 years ago) to the very end. Every single picture she send me and every picture i found with her in. Reason for holding on to it? I really dont know guess i still love her too much to throw away everything i lived for.

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  • They are a part of your life, pictures, cards, videos, etc... regardless of what anyone thinks it is perfectly normal and within your right to keep them for memories sake.

    It is always nice to have things that remind you of good times, nomatter when or who the good times are with. an ex is just like an old friend or aquaintance.

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  • Generally, I keep everything. I rarely receive media that is compromising, but if I did, I would delete it almost immediately. I generally discourage transmitting anything that is compromising even if it is to a trusted individual. Why? Because very few people can be trusted, and we have people in this world we call "hackers", most dangerous of which are black hats.

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  • Past is unchangeable. It's like a book out of press, that can not be edited. So what about it? Your past needs reference, smiles and tears both. Because they teach and tell tales of your journey so far.

    Let it be a lesson and learn from it, while having a laugh about it. Going along the same lines as you explained, when you become grand parents, and you are flicking away memories, you are going to have a serious laugh thinking "Damn! This was me? Was I on drugs or what?"

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  • Keep them. Dont look at them for the moment but in the future im sure they will bring back memories and tbh its your life so its worth keeping it. On the other hand if the guy was a complete asshole all the time/the relationship was bad af you may consider not keeping them

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  • Depends. In most cases, I keep, some girls stand out, and make for great memories and we always make up and stay friends.. on the other hand, I tend to cut all forms of communication, recordings or photos are deleted and the girl is left behind with all of it. It's all based on the circumstances of the relationship or break up.

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  • I keep the pictures as a reminder to why we broke up and to show what i looked like when i was younger. The only issue i have about my girlfriends exs is when she tells me that his current girlfriend is an asshole and she can steal him back if she wanted to.

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  • Maybe this is not that important maybe it depends on how long you were with this guy.

    If you have dropped all contact with this guy,... then I would delete the pictures as well. That's just me though. If you want to remain friends with him, that's your choice. I'm not friends with any of my ex's nor do I have any pictures of them. Again that's just me though.

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  • Surely it would be better to eliminate all memories of the ex. This is usually done in the initial rage or disappointment. But he or she was part of your life and there were good times despite the separation. And sometimes it is just that, especially with the first, great love, you still have feelings that you can not eliminate. I keep these pictures because they are in the head anyway.

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  • Have nothing against people who delete them. I keep them and cherish them even if i m with other partner. But, keeping them would show the maturity of the person. Different people handle emotional trauma differently. There is never a right or wrong answer to this one.

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  • If ot Broke your heart in the breakup process instead of you breaking his, you should delete them. Because you wouldn't look up and find other partners for your life. You will remember all the good times you guys had and never go out to find someone else

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  • They were dead weight for me.
    I don't believe in the whole "Don't delete pictures of your past. They are memories, good or bad."
    because i don't work that way, it just made me hang on to something that wasn't there harder... a true waste of energy.

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  • I keep mine for a while cause I too think it's happy memory. But the more I look at it the harder to move on. So I delete them. They still haunts me in corners of memory but I can get on with my life and find new dates

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  • I gave a couple , I don't look at them like my x tho after break up more like a friend only the one's I liked as a cool as friend then or now , everybody else deleted.. no pictures with people that has way more bad memories than good , have one pic of a bad relationship I keep it for the memory tho , not her. A good time is a good time.

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  • I don't like taking pics to keep them but if I do take photos I keep them, if I am on it, the rest also kept, so if new girlfriend would want them gone, I can propose to only dispose those. :) But i always lose everything so even if you don't care, he might like those pics.

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  • I actually have a picture an ex sent me of her wearing my highschool class ring on her finger as a promise ring... that never happened cause she lived in Florida and I'm from Texas, but that memory was to good for me to lose. I don't know what will happen if my wife ever find the picture.

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  • I agree with OP. Its best to keep them. No matter what, the images and videos are a reminder of the times spent. Not all the bs if there was any. And its not a capture of the breakup. The mind can change and add to memories, so the original memory can be lost. Pictures and video helps retain that.

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  • Keep. Even after we break up, we will still be friends and love each other forever. I don't understand how you can decide you love a person and then one day you never want to see them again and the same thing happens over and over how does that make sense?

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  • It depends on the break up. I am an emotional guy prone to overreacting, so if its a bad break up and i feel resentment, i might delete everything out of spite onky to regret it later.

    Luckily I have had mural break ups and haven't destroyed everything. I have gotten rid of a lot, but some pictures like prom photos, or special moments I kept. I still talk to one of my exs

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  • It does hurt a lot to look through those memories and then you want to take it all back. But what’s done is done and you just have to push forward no matter how hard it is. That’s my problem, I can’t..

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  • Till sometime back people used to keep, however in todays advanced world, people can anytime access it by peeping the ex's social networking to see what is happening there. In other words, yes people always want to know about their ex's.

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  • Delete.

    Even if we parted on good terms, I'd delete them.

    I have no need to keep anything of sentimental value of my ex. I move forward with my life after a relationship fails. I don't hold onto anything that I put behind me. I prefer to create new memories on my own, or with someone new. I'm not sentimental

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    • Delete will show that ex was ur attraction but not true love as true loved are not ment to be forget then also if they hate u as ur heart wants to keep loving them in any situation...

    • there is no doubt we all move on when a relationship fails. but deleting the pictures feels like i'm deleting my memories as well. and i don't think just "deleting your past" seems right to me. being in a relationship often changes you and i prefer to remember how i changed and what changed me.

      yes, new memories will be made but that doesn't mean you have to delete your old memories of other people that once were important to you.

  • I delete the texts, numbers but I keep pictures, in a folder at my pc where I don't really look at them lol

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    • Yeah that seems smart.

  • I think when you loved them or do still love them you keep it as a memory. However, if you broke up on bad terms and he made you angry for a long period of time you're more likely to delete the pictures straight away because you don't want to be reminded of the way that person treated you

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  • I didn't have that many in the first place, but have deleted all pictures, along with texts and everything else in relation to them really.

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  • I really think it depends on many factors. If the photos in question are good ones of you there's no real reason to delete them. Also, if the photo represents a good memory you should keep them. While some relationships ends badly, and you may hate your ex at the moment, and even for the next few years, you won't always be angry and you will miss the memories if you stumble across them later.

    Personally, I keep photos because many of them also contain our child so that's also a factor.

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  • Its your choice. if you can ctrl your emotions so there is no problem. but maybe in the future you meet a guy who is sensitive and he gets upset with you because of your videos and pictures. I think its better to delete them, that wouldn't make any issues in the future.

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  • Initially I don't delete the pictures. But after a while, when I realise that I'm just looking at our pictures (me and my ex) and I'm just remembering all the memories which just upsetting myself then I delete those pictures. As everything begins with recalling the memories.

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  • The ones where he took my phone and took a bunch of selfies, I deleted. The other ones, are just buried in my 1000+ photos. It feels petty to take the time to delete them.

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  • I keep them, mainly because my memory is poor so they can bring back a lot of memories, good or bad. I keep pictures of people I no longer am friends with or do not like any more for that reason. I don't think it's weird or does any harm.
    I keep the profile pictures as well, but just make them visible to me.

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  • I don't delete old photos. I think that each part of my past is valuable and I don't want to forget them. I keep these photos and everything that reminds me them. But I rarely remember them. I used to save gifts they gave me, I lost them tho. but I still keep diaries where there's written our love stories.

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    • I love to have things that remind me them, to fill my collection of memories.
      I wouldn't really remember these diaries though, this question was reminder.

  • Yes, we're not together anymore so need to keep them. I guess if you and you're ex were married and it was a family picture, then that's okay to keep. But since it was just us, weren't married, didn't have kids, I deleted the pictures as a way to let go of the past in order to move on. Plus some people give a side eye to those who keep pics of their ex's cause their not sure if your keeping it cause it's a nice pic or keeping it cause part of you is still holding on to the past and the person.

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  • I deleted the photos of all of my exes save one. I only kept them because he is the only ex with whom I do not have a combative relationship. We broke up because I moved, not because we stopped wanting to be together.

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  • I'd feel hurt if my boyfriend still had pics of his exes on his phone especially when I've already deleted pics of all the guys I used to flirt with and talk to. If he's moved on already, I don't see what's the purpose. It's especially unfair when he told me to block those guys yet he can have pics of them. If he can have pics of them, I will too. That's my thinking.

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  • Delete because the lessons I learned (about myself or life) I can keep with me on the journey but seeing the photos or videos creates unnecessary guilt and regret.

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  • I delete the pics/number and throw away the gifts. He was a ass about it. I don't need that In my life. 🤷🏻‍♀️

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  • I had a hard time deciding what to do with the photos of my ex, because I love photos and memories.
    I saved them (digital pictures) in a place I don't frequent regularly and erased them from my PC and phone.
    Maybe, someday when I hold no bad feelings or memories of him, I might look for those photos, but I seriously doubt it now because when I put them away I tried to treasure those good times, and now I think I have move on that matter...

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  • What id do is put them on google and never look at them till you're completely over him. I miss all the cute pictures we took im pretty damn over him but a part of me still misses him. I don't know man its your call. But its best not to look at them when you're trying to get over him. Out of sight out of mind

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  • I keep them but I erase them from my phone. On my social media I don’t erase them because i think it gives your ex a lot of power and shows that you still care lol. Which I don’t so I just leave it up.

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  • I keep them. I don't exactly have the best memory so it's nice to have something to look at and listen to. Though I delete anything the other person wants erased and I expect the same from them. I delete all nudes for example. Just because I'm no longer together with them doesn't mean I can't be respectful.

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  • haha my dating years was when we only had film cameras boys and girls.
    but yes have thrown out all of the ex boyfriend photos.

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    • And there were the Polaroids, no developing and printing. So no processors to see your nudes. lol

    • dude just stop please. 😳❌

  • Keep them. The important ones at least. Even if they hurt now, and you want to burn them or something out of anger, you always want them later.

    I think everyone needs the reminder of the good times, to keep sane and not turn bitter for life.

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  • Even though it's hard, better to delete or you'll always be reminded of him and you'll never get him out of your head

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  • I deleted all of them, but to be honest I wish I didn't. I did it in a heat of a moment, the same day we broke up. I was angry and sad and I never wanted to see his face again. But now I regret it because no matter how badly he hurt me and how much of an ass he is, he was my first love, my first live-in boyfriend and my longest relationship of five years. And there was a good amount of time when we truly loved each other. Those pictures are the proof and a memory of those amazing times. I want to see those pictures again, not because of him or us together, but because of me with a huge smile and a happy face on them. I want to reminded how love is beautiful and how I can be happy.

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    • You're not able to do that without looking at past pictures. You should be out having fun, keeping yourself happy.

    • @huckleberryhound Oh I am, I am totally over him and having fun, it's been two years since we broke up. :D It's because I am over him that I miss those pictures.

  • I know exactly what you mean, and I do the same thing. Keeping pictures is respecting the memories, remembering the good times. People change, memories don't. Deleting them won't change anything!

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  • Well if you want to keep them, keep them. If it's not at all hurting you in any way, than why not. But if you date other guys and you have those, I don't know if they will be too pleased to find out. So if you do, I would suggest keeping just a few and or saving them in a very very private place :)

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  • I deleted off my phone so I don’t have to see all the time. It will just hurt to much. but if it’s resent brake up you could always put the photo on a dartboard Or have a bonfire. It helps a lot depending on how bad they hurt you. Yes I’m crazy 😂😂

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  • I generally keep them for 6 months to a year after the break up, then delete because I've learned most of the good memories were just lies anyway. I know it sounds a bit bitter but unfortunately how I feel about my exs, haven't regret deleting them either.

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  • I usually hide them in a deep place that I don't get to often.. I do that after keeping the pic for the first period of the breakup because if I hide them right after the breakup I know I'll go find them again. So I keep them for a while and then when I find myself slowly moving on I hide the heck out of them. I put them in a USB memory flash. I don't use that thing so I forget them.

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  • I'm Bipolar as fuck. I keep them, then delete them, then collect more of their photos. I sometimes scream at the photos, stick up the middle finger, then kiss the photos

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  • That's a good question. I keep them tucked away in a folder on my computer that I rarely touch. I'm not one to sit around thinking of my ex but it's good know I have it. You learn things from looking back on the past and the people you once knew.

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