I am 22 and my girlfriend is 19.
I really like her a lot and I know she feels the same way towards me.
As corny as this may sound we have discussed how we have a "connection" that neither of us has ever felt before.
Regardless, my girlfriend is very insecure. She has been in bad relationships in the past and it's hard for her to trust guys because of these previous relationships. I always feel like she is keeping her guard up and I just want her to realize I really like her and I don't want her to think I am going to screw her over like every other guy.
The worse thing is that I am heading out of the country for 6 weeks in about 15 days. It will be a great experience for me and I am really looking forward to it. However, she is worried that I will forget her/not want to talk to her when I get back. Of course it will be hard, but I definitely want to see her and be with her when I get back (not to mention she already lives 1 hour 30 min from me so we are already in a long distance relationship). Sure, 6 weeks is a long time, but it's not the end of the world. I want to see her when I get back and she wants to see me.
I'm not sure what to do. She has already mentioned how hard it will be for her when I leave and at this point she isn't even sure if she can see me right before I leave cause she is afraid she is setting up herself to her hurt and she will cry.
I'm not sure what to do.
I like this girl a lot, but her insecurities and doubts don't help at all.
I wish she would just let her guard down.
It's hard because I'm sure in the back of her mind she is thinking I am going to screw her over. All I can do is reassure her that I like her and want to see her when I get back.
What should/can I do?
Thanks so much
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That sounds hard, and I wish the best for both of you. Just keep being patient and showing her you care, like you already do. Over time, she will let down her walls. She trusts you a little more each day. I wonder if she has someone to talk to, like a counselor, about her past relationships? It hurts to keep it bottled up inside, but it might be good if she talks to a counselor, someone who can help her work through it and coach her on how to open up to you. Time and patience... Another thing: girls love it when guys tell them about their days. It shows that guys want to include them in their lives. If you don't already, maybe write to her and tell her what you're about to be doing. Then it might give her some questions to ask you to keep a cheerful conversation going... You: "Tomorrow I'm going to the arboretum..." Her, later: "So how was the arboretum? See any roses?" ;)0