My boyfriend and I started dating and three months later he was arrested. He has been in jail for six months and has two more years. I am in love with him and want to be with him. About two months after he was arrested I had sex with a friend of mine. There are no excuses for why I did. It will not be happening again. I need help figuring out if I should tell my boyfriend that this happened or not. If you were in his position would you want to know?
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He deserves the truth. Tell him you failed him. You let him down. That he can judge all he wants, but he can't change anything. Tell him he deserves better. Whatever you do, try not to use the fact that he's in jail against him. It won't be easy, but you need to come clean. Make sure he understands none of it is his fault, it's all you. If you're sincere enough, he may forgive you. But the relationship will probably be over anyway.
There was a girl I liked once, but I had almost zero chance of meeting her in real life. It was a mutual Facebook crush. Then, I met a more realistic pursuit. I finally had to tell the Facebook crush that I was moving on and dumping her. I felt like the villain, but it had to be done.1