I've been hurt really bad this year by a guy and although I'm starting to move on I can't get passed the hurt. He really crushed me then just left me to rot. He wouldn't apologize or explain anything to me. I asked him what was going on and why this was happening but each time I asked him he just got more abusive. He really did mean a lot to me and I really gave a lot of myself to him. I know that was a big mistake now and I know he's a monster and not the lovely person everyone seems to think he is. But it doesn't make any of this easier and I can't seem to deal with any of it. I simply can't believe he has been this hurtful. But I'm sick of crying tears for him and really want to move past it. Can anyone help? All this year I've been waiting for him to talk and explain and apologize for his behavior but there's just no way.
I've met a couple of nice guys recently but I cant' talk to any new potential date about any of this, it's far too soon.
Will somebody please please give me some advice on how to deal with this. Please?
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Time. There is nothing else, it Just takes time. People often act impulsively, doing what is best for them, not considering another persons feelings. I have fell victim to this as well. After by the way, stop crying for him, cry for yourself. Cry over the fact that you hurt, and You Let him hurt you. Your going through grief, I can relate cause I am too. Even if you think you know someone you never really do.
As for talking to guys you are dating... don't ever bring up an ex, this is the most unattractive thing You can do. A guys mindset will quickly change from potential mate to only getting laid (on a date guys will always think of this at some point, the difference is good guys will be willing to wait, although they still want it).
Do you work out? This is a great way to kill 2 birds with one stone. When you start having these feelings I recommend going for a run, or working out. When you do This it releases endorphines and will make you feel Good. Also, it helps with self esteem because you starts noticing toning and shape. Then You truly get revenge, because when he sees you 4-6 months from now, and you've moved on, You will look great and he will never be able have you, because you've learned to.love yourself more than him. Good luck.3