why i can't sleep
Can’t have clarity until i meet my boyfriend to talk about everything thats going on, my boyfriend is looking to meet me despite me saying i can meet in his town, im waiting for him to get better he's sick at the moment and he said “i will see if i can meet u in the next few days ok?”, not even guaranteed, just maybe will meet me, for heavens sake…
what happens every damn night
i lay in my bed at night and think okay im comfortable i can sleep for a while not the whole night still have it in the back of my mind because I've been thinking of it all day, then hours later im on my phone to distract myself from one thought that starts it all off then i cry for hours then sleep eventually at 6am.
i haven't ate properly in days because i haven't slept i have honestly tried to sleep because im hungry but i seriously can't?
I can't stop crying i feel so unheard right now
i dont want to hear about medication or pills to help u sleep, i keep myself busy even my todo list has stuff whittled down to small mundane things to keep my mind off of it. i do it all i still overthink i tire myself out to sleep nothing helps i give up eventually i can't sleep until i hear clarity and talk to him my heart literally hurts
Thank u for anyone voicing their concerns and asking how i am <3
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Be easier to give an answer to this if we knew the back story really I'm afraid
i mean either way i can't sleep im not looking relationship advice
An absolutely fair point 🤣 have you tried anything other than your phone to distract yourself?
If your really stuck feel free to message me for a general chat
I tried reading then gave up its not something u would like to focus on of course if ur interested in something thats sitting in ur mind. i like being outside but its not a good idea at night. i wish i had something new to interest me like a new hobby to forget half of what im thinking of currently
Yeah outside isn't the best idea, maybe do an indoor work out?
Or is there any hobby you've always wanted to try? Now would defo be the time to try.
Or as I say my inbox is open
@xoxooxoxoxo did you manage to get much sleep in the end?
Nope :) stayed up and cleaned every inch of my house like anything matters
I'm sorry to hear that. at least you have a clean house.
Can you DM when you see this?
Yep!
Cool speak in messages in a sec
Neither of us can message can we? I've just realised 😂
Yeah we can't hahaha
Oops! Hahaha! Do you have a Kik account or anything? I'll drop my username here for ya quick if so
Kik? What is this highschool lmao
Oi play nicely 😜😂 snap or insta is calm to unless one of us magics up a level on here
Sorry i won't do either :/ happy my house is clean but my head is aching!! slept on and off today horrible ugh hungry beyond belief now
That's okay I totally understand! When one of us gets level two we can DM!
I bet! Any update on the situation? I'm here and happy to try and distract as best I can! I'd appreciate it if you commented on my newest post
Follow me back and then I'll drop you a message mate!
Haha nope no thanks thats gross
Digital devices overstimulate your mind. Put the phone down 2 hours before trying to sleep. If you wake up, get out of the bed. Try reading a book. Blue Blocker glasses might help.
You see i thought of this rule in my head,3 hours before u can sleep after eating. so my dinner would be like 5pm or earlier so my wind down is about 8? I want to do relaxing stuff then because my phone at night is so pointless it gets me no where and gives me a headache, i think thats why im not using it as often at night. first thing i do when i wake up is get breakfast brush my hair do what i need to do but i wanna throw in something fun like a non productive morning or a productive morning somedays! reading a book at the minute sort of helping, I've never heard of blue blocker glasses
Digital devices all emit a blue light that effects the natural production of Melatonin. And you can look up sleep hygiene to get some ideas. I can share something that also worked for me. Use your phone compass feature to see the orientation of your bed. I have my bed pointing North/South. When it was East/West, my sleep was horrible. It has something to do with the magnet field of the earth. It worked for me. It does not matter for me if my head of feet are north or south. Good luck with sleep. Thy to limit the phone. It floods you with too much information and causes depression. Have you heard of box breathing? Breathe in 4 seconds, Hold 4 seconds. Breathe out 4 seconds and hold 4 seconds. Repeat until you feel calmer.
The human brain is a unique organ with billions of connections. Digital is an connection with 2 selections. I really think younger people have been stunted by these digital devices.
"Boyfriend is looking to meet me despite me saying I can meet in his town"
Huh?
He wants to come to see me, he doesn't want me to travel to his town, he keeps saying no ill come to see u
Red 🚩flag
Huh? he said he didn't want me to travel and go out of my way he said i can if i want to but he feels awful and doesn't want me travelling and wants to make up for it by seeing me instead
He's jerking you around.
No he isn't? anyone can scream red flag nowadays. can u explain how he is?
He's sick for how long? "I will see if I can meet you in the next couple days?" He won't even say he is going to visit... hello? Does he know how upset you are and need to talk to him ASAP?
he's only been sick for a few days he had a bad cough, he said he's may meet me tomorrow. thats if he does or not. like why say may? of course he knows he even said he doesn't want this hanging over my head and he's beyond sorry for stressing me out. he really is sorry. we are trying to make an effort
Like I said, he is jerking you around.
okay lets see what happens ill keep u updated lets just see if he does make the effort
I wouldn't hold your breath.
uh huh