Why is divorce so high in first world countries?

[Anonymous]

In third world countries the divorce rate is very low. In first world the divorce rate is like around fifty percent or higher. Why?

[dantetheexplorer]

Because in first world countries, women have more opportunities compared to their third world counterparts. Women in first world countries have more job opportunities and are able to live an independent life. Their third world counterparts might not have as many opportunities, so they stay in unhappy or even abusive marriages because they know that they wouldn't be able to support themselves if they leave their spouses.

Personally, I find it great that women in first world countries no longer need to be dependent on men. There are those men who simply lack empathy and cannot put themselves in women's shoes, men who have no idea what it feels like to have half as many opportunities simply because they were born into the "wrong" sex, who have no idea what it feels like to have members of the opposite sex think of them as incompetent simply because of their sex.

And, it's always amusing to see all the disgruntled men here go on and on about how women are like this and women are like that, when the reality is - women no longer NEED men. And these men cannot cope with this new reality. Many heterosexual women still WANT men - but they no longer NEED men. The freedom of independence, the delights of financial emancipation, the Luxury to live your life on your own terms - more and more women have that now. And at the end of the day, having more choices in your life can only be a good thing.

[Blightly]

alright i was up with ya until you threw out there "men who have no idea what it feels like to have half as many opportunities simply because they were born into the "wrong" sex, who have no idea what it feels like to have members of the opposite sex think of them as incompetent simply because of their sex"

i call bs, don't play mr white knight as many of my female engineering classmates were allowed to attend a "Women in Engineering" event at my school where they were hired ON THE SPOT by companies, skipping the line and the struggle of employment simply because of their sex. add to that the fact that universities hand out more scholarships to females in the name of females to advocate their advancement in education and the work force DESPITE the fact women are more likely to go to college then men AND have a higher graduation rate

the facts point to women in the lead, yet you're gonna sit here and say how poor women have it? get out

[dantetheexplorer]

@Blightly Your comment aligns with my statement that women in first world countries have more opportunities than women in third world countries. Thank you.

[Blightly]

www.census.gov/.../p20-578.pdf

From the United States Census Bureau

stop being a part of the problem, accept the fact its "beyond" equal now, meaning its largely in favor of women

[dantetheexplorer]

@Blightly Your comment aligns with my statement that women in first world countries have more opportunities than women in third world countries. Thank you.

[Blightly]

has nothing to do with opportunity, the hand holding has gone too far. i dont back your comment whatsoever. you're pandering for likes, accept the statistics. don't victimize and sympathize with the well fortuned, it makes no logical sense

[dantetheexplorer]

@Blightly I do not feel any inclination to entertain your poor reading comprehension.

[Blightly]

I'm not going to sit on here and logically spell out for you your horrible paragraphical structure that must deviate from your logical reasoning because i've read through it 4 times now and its the same thing

women of 3rd world countires have less opportunity than of first
men don't understand what its like to be a woman, women have struggled so very hard
women have persevered and no longer need men and its funny that men are mad about it

what am i missing? i disagree with paragraph 2, you say my info backs paragraph 2 and it doesn't. wtf are you on dude

[NearlyNapping]

1) No-fault divorce laws. Meaning that legally you need very little reason to get a divorce. There was a sharp increase in divorces after that. Quite simply, the courts allow divorce much more easily than they used to.

2) It's more accepted by society.

3) People see reason for people being allowed to divorce when the marriage sucks. A person shouldn't be forced to stay in a marriage where they are miserable just because of legal and societal taboos.

4) It's not really as high as it seems. A 50% divorce rate does not mean 50% of people who get married get divorced. That divorce rate includes people who get married and divorced multiple times. A person who gets divorced a first time is MUCH more likely to get divorced again... and again. So in a first marriage, the odds of staying married are much higher than the stated divorce rate.

5) Overall, society just doesn't place as much importance on it as it used to. As a result people just don't take marriage as seriously as they used to.

[Anonymous]

I’d imagine it’s because people in third world countries don’t have much. They need financial support from a partner. And obviously disease rates are a lot higher, it’s more likely to die young. So they stay together for love and support.

In the first world, divorce happens simply because we can. Most partners cannot be bothered sorting out their issues, or get married so they’re not alone. We get taught - School, University, Job, Marriage, Kids. And so people want to make that their reality, even when it isn’t what they actually want. And then they realise it isn’t what they want. So they get divorced. Simple as that.

[TrixiePooch]

People want to jump into bed before they even know someone. Would it be surprising that people get married for the same reason? When they finally come back down to earth they realize that sex isn't everything and they messed up, so they get a divorce. And then you have all the cheaters that don't want to get divorced but still like sex, just not with their mate, so again divorce when the other finds out. Human nature just sucks sometimes.

[miss_spongbub]

This is best answer of what is happening in USA

[OlderAndWiser]

Divorce rate is higher in the US because young people - and older people - have become accustomed to instant gratification PLUS if something breaks, you get a new one instead of repairing the old one. People want marriage to be like a visit to the ice cream parlor where you always get what you want. They don't expect to work to keep a marriage strong so they just quit instead of trying to work and resolve problems.

[jennifer_bloom]

Because people believe life is about pleasure and not about responsibility. Being oversaturated with pleasures like t. v., radio, internet, movies, and an endless supply of food perpetuates this belief.

[passinby]

Because in first world countries no one ever had to or knows how to struggle. Everyone is sooo spoiled and live in an almost virtual world anymore. So the first sign of this is hard, it is time to run.

We lease everything, all it temporary for instant gratification. E. g. the fake exciting overpriced party/wedding, all the gifts, friends, etc. Then reality sets in. It is just like a big wedding hangover; the remedy is vodka and a divorce on the rocks.

Women are independent and don’t need or I think want men anymore (zero respect for men per 1st world culture) long term and men are freed (after they have been bled to death) in this new world, so why stay in it? Why do it in the first place?

The divorce industry is 4-5 billion revenues (in the US that I remember) so it through the media and other means encourages divorce. No fault divorce is a gravy train for it. Feminism is a non stop money generator for it. Marriages are seed money for it. There is a large transference of personal wealth into the divorce industry by it. Big business at it’s best.

Humans are not monogamous by nature and so marriage was society’s attempt to enforce that unnatural state. Marriage was designed for control of this basic instinct. If marriage is easy to leave, it has no purpose. First world is easy to leave while third world is harder.

[Harsh_Ch]

Third world countries are patriarchal and do not give their women full rights... this prevents them from being fully independent and forces them to be dependent on their husbands

This also increases the overall fertility rate of the countries as the women are forced to breed
Essentially, the Muslims would out-breed the feminist countries like USA, UK , Germany, Japan etc in a couple of generations
Look at London and Sweden for reference, they want to vote for having Sharia courts lol

Also, countries where women do not have voting rights/ or communist countries where their votes don't matter also have a high fertility rate like Russia, China and Middle East countries
Because if they have full voting rights, the government would be forced to cater to their needs first as they are the majority of the population (due to high mortality of men) and hence would be powerless over the fertility rate and would have to "empower" women over the expense of men in some sick "equality" bullshit
The next generation of children would pay the price for that

It's about time men realized why the traditional marriage system made the woman obedient towards the man and why it no longer exists now (it was to make sure our race was't out bred by others)
Also, a patriarchal community will ALWAYS take over an egalitarian or a matriarchal/feminist community... it's just a matter who... the conservatives who will take away public voting rights and give it to only the ones who want to be drafted or the Muslims

[godfatherfan]

Unfortunately, young people in first world countries are spoiled. If you look at the baby boomer era, divorce rates are very low. They go up significantly for Gen X and astronomically for millenials. People are too used to getting exactly what they want. So when things get tough, they just throw their family away instead of fighting for it. In poorer nations, people need family more then first world countries. Many generations live in the same house. They don't have the resources to just throw people away like they were nothing. Also, third world countries aren't as petty as the people in first world. Life is harder and it is a struggle to survive. They are not going out partying every night and sleeping with other people. They are together to live, not just to have a good time. It is sad how many people bail on their family. If you can fall in love, as long as there isn't abuse, there is no reason you can't find that love again if your willing to work at it.

[NatashaJ]

Because in third world countries most of the time they are forced to marry people they didn't choose and be shame if they get a divorce even thou they are misery. I don't understand how people talk shit about western countries and how your able to divorce like people change! shit happens where relationships fall apart no one should be shit on just because they had a divorce I rather be divorced and happy then struck in a marriage with person I no longer love because I am scare of the backlash and shame coming from it just saying.

[sheikhzohaib14]

This one is accurate af

[NatashaJ]

@sheikhzohaib14 in misery*

[NatashaJ]

But it true thou people actually laugh and think they better then you if your marriage falls apart, I know my sister is a petty bitch like that for sure. But it's like at lease I got married if I got a divorce lol most people are not going to get married because people are just preferring common law marriage.

[sheikhzohaib14]

I really like your positivity towards like Natasha, people are people you've gotta make sure what's is best for you (which you definitely will)

[4pple]

There's a few reasons why divorce as a whole becomes more common. Firstly, modern society makes it a more acceptable and easy option to take, it's much easier to divorce and replace a perskn than to try and work out problems with them. Furthermore you're more likely to view divorce as viable option if people in your surrounding (mainly your parents) have been divorced. There's also interpersonal factors, the most common being marrying too soon, like after only 1 or 2 years together, then into the marriage the people realize they just don't get along together enough to live together and end up divorcing.
As a whole, it's a self-fuelling spiral, where divorce is seen more as one option rater than a drastic call, devaluing marriage as a whole and further making divorce more of a casual decision rather than a last-choice-decision.

[Decentguy]

Divorce is high in every country these days, and the major reasons for that are :

1. Most people can't stay loyal to their partner.

2. People dont want to work hard in their relationships, When a light bulb doesn't works you fix the light bulb, you dont change your house.

3. They dont want to make compromises and sacrifices in their relationship, but dont get me wrong, i dont mean compromising things like when your partner cheats on you, NO, I mean when you want something in your relationship, like any expensive car, but your partner wants something expensive too, so you compromise your happiness for your partner so he/she can be happy.

[Reach500]

I second what you said about not changing your house because of a broken light bulb.

[Decentguy]

@Reach500 Thanks

[coralee]

Divorce rates are higher in first world countries because people are allowed to get divorced. In developing countries people may be publicly shamed, ostracized or even killed in some instances for trying to get a divorce. Now this doesn't mean the First World system is perfect by any means. We still cling on to ridiculous notions of a one true love, and love at first sight instead of realizing marriage takes work and you have to choose to put the effort in sometimes. You have to realize that divorce hasn't been socially acceptable even in First World countries for long we are still taking the time to work out the kinks. We will get there cultural shifts always have some fallout. But, personally I'd rather live in a world where people in toxic marriages have the recourse to get out of them.

[Freiburger]

Look at Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs in the context of relationships. People in Developing and Less Developed Countries consider a happy marriage as fulfilling the needs in Tier 1-3. However in the Developed World, certainly in Western Europe, North America and Oceania people are on Tier 4-5. Basically a marriage that doesn't push you enough to become a better version of yourself is not worth it. This makes marriage in the west a lot harder...

[blubblubblub]

they may have the same amount of problems, but the couple in the third world country would just stick it out while couples in a first world country have the freedom to walk out. in a third world country, marriage is often still very much like a lifelong "deal" of sort based on financial circumstances. money is short, and divorce is expensive. marriage is also very religious and seen as more sacred, and there's a huge stigma around divorce. especially the female, she's often shamed for being a divorcee. divorce is not an option for them, even if things are going to hell usually.

whereas in a first world country marriages are based on compatibility, and when problems arise, it's a bigger deal. and people are given the freedom to walk out, there's not as much of a stigma around it, people are praised for walking out of a failing marriage. finances generally aren't as big of an issue either.

[JackNahil]

It's a double edged sword. The reason divorce rates are so Low in third world countries (I'm from one) is because it's socially looked down upon, yet from my observations I'd say the unhappiness ratio of married couples is the same average as from first world ones, roughly 70% of people are unhappily married but cannot even consider divorce due to religious or social stigmas attached to it.

Secondly, divorce rates are so high in first world countries because of two reasons:
Women are liberated enough to demand divorce with little consequences and more often, benefits.
Second reason is because in general, the first world's have a superficial idea of marriage in modern times. So emotionally immature people go on to marry other emotionally immature people not realizing that "the honeymoon love phase" only lasts a maximum of a year, and after that marriage is the same as any other relationship and requires commitment, communication and shared values.

[Carley99]

I'm from a third world country but I agree to this well as aside from the fact that divorce is expensive and most likely both parties are so broke (in a third word country) they can't even afford it, but a lot of young people are married and the women that I've meet aren't fully dependant on their husbands and a lot of people want to get married. I guess it's mostly likely of a cultural or generation thing in first world countries if something seems as if it's not working out it's better to quit I think that some people have that kind of mentality when it comes to marriage, also knowing that they can afford marriage they have that stored in the back of their minds if it doesn't work out.

[Just_A_Guy2018]

Women monkey branching. Women have figured out how to screw guys over. They can ride the cock carousel when they are younger, then when the baby rabies kicks in they can easily find a provider male. trick him into marriage which is designed to benefit women legally, then pop out a couple of kids. Then she gets bored with her domestic life, so she kicks him out, uses big daddy government and the courts to get them to force the guy to pay alimony and child support, gets the vehicles and house and moves in her new boy toy and get the poor sap now ex to pay for it all.

[winterfox10]

There are a few reasons, but they all boil down to the fact that people in the 1st world have a greater sense of individual security. Marriage isn't about making sure that you'll be okay for us.

1. People marry for love and happiness in the 1st World, which means that they are less likely to see the marriage through to the end if it's not making them happy in life.

2. Men and Women have their own sources of income, such that divorce isn't nearly as devastating for most people... Basically, if your marriage collapses, it sucks, but you aren't likely to have your life destroyed by it.

3. Technology and modern conveniences mean that people are always looking for the next thing, whatever that may be. If I don't want to work to get something, there's almost always a way for me to get it any way.

[OldDad]

Third world countries often time see marriage as a partnership, sort of like a business is ran. You work out your problems. There is some religioud beliefs, but you can be divorced in any culture. The ways out of a marriage aren't always in the nest interest of the wife though.
Even in the U. S. marriages were considered a business agreement. My Great Grandmother was married off to my Great great grandfathers friend. He was on his 40s, she was 12.
The basic thing is people think thet love will keep a marriage together, but love only goes as far as couples are willing to work at it.

[Ayer93]

My guess without doing any research on the matter would be that in first world countries social media is more prevalent and connecting with people is much easier. You can easily find other prospects within a short period of time by browsing dating sites or going to events. It's human nature to want more than what you have. When you have a bicycle, and you see someone with a motorcycle, you get jealous and desire it. That concept applies to relationships as well. If you see someone you find more attractive (chemistry or physically) than what you have, then you start desiring more. It's hard to get in the mentality to be content with what you have. In 3rd world countries people stick to what's familiar because it's "safe" and helps them get by in life.

[yucel_eden]

Severse reasOna:

1.) women in Third world countries are more dependent on their husband if divorced will have nothing
2.) Marriage has more meaning in third world countries whethers in the west marriage is a piece of paper
3.) Woman in western countries can divorce when bored and still have their ex husband look after them if they have kids plus the state
4.) Depression is very very very common to the point most people don’t understand they have it in western countries which means they do not love or care in the sane way others do in less developed countries where they understand the value of life and not the value of an ipad

[Pauliho]

It's a luxury, you're not depending on your partner or a necessity to putting in significant effort to make things work. Marriage is a partnership to raise kids and create a bastion against the world. Not a vacation home, not a love trip it's for two lovers deel in the trenches, and If you are free to leave anytime and the weather is good out of the trench, why would you bother trying to build a bastion with your partner. Just set up a vacation home and evacuate with the winter wind. Many people want passion and love, but that doesn't work for marriage. Why would people in the west bother staying in a bunker if you can go on a vacation...

[Pauliho]

Deep*
Or necessarily putting in significant effort*

[skateranon123]

Honestly I think its because people Get married because of the fear of being alone.

I had a friend who was like " OMG if I dont have a baby by age 24 I'm gonna go crazy my clock is ticking!" Some people say the same about marrying typically before the age of 30.

So people scurry amock and date, date date those relationships start going bad so they lower their standards out of desperation and they end up with a "good enough" person.

A lot of women end up with men they dont find physically attrative and the put up with it for a long time but a lot break and start to "not love him anymore" but by then they are already married with kids.

I'm not saying this is the case for ALL divorce (cheatin, abuse and other things come to mind too)