Women actually have rights. They are free to leave their partners if things go wrong, as are men. Men also aren't allowed to physically abuse their partners if they do something that they don't like. They're also more likely to leave their wife, rather than try to turn her into something that she's not through force. There's also much less societal pressure to get and stay married.
When both people in a relationship have rights, the chance of them splitting up will always be higher. When only one person has rights, that person can just abuse the one without rights into becoming whatever they want them to be, and the one without rights can't really do anything about it. Divorce also tends to be less taboo when both people have rights.
I don't know about non-Western countries today, but in the United States and Europe, before women had rights, it wasn't uncommon for a man to kill off his wife when he wanted another. Technically it was illegal, but it was never really investigated, even though everyone knew.
I would much prefer to live in a country with a high divorce rate, than to live in a country where a woman could be killed off when her husband gets sick of her.
The bottom 9 are countries, where divorce is practically not allowed and heavily taboo.
The top 9 are countries, where you can divorce and still live happy ever after.
It's a combination of factors, most of which have been touched on already. But I think one of the biggest reasons here in the US is that there is a huge incentive for women to divorce, both financial and in terms of custody outcomes. It's no secret that men get fucked hard in divorce court here, and the other side of that equation is that women tend to come out of divorce court in a very attractive position. That's why roughly 85% of divorces in the US are instigated by women.
Because there is so many reasons in their culture that prevent women from switching husband. The western world has removed most of these with equality so now both side can easily initiate a divorce , that on its own double the odds.
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Longevity of the marriage does not always mean a happy marriage. My parents got along but I've seen some couples who stayed married who were clearly miserable. I mean you can make almost any marriage work if you mean you don't divorce but in the countries with lower divorce rates it probably doesn't take into account the number of couples who separate for life or who have side people outside of the marriage.
It has nothing to do with "morals" or "values" as some ignorant people call them. In the past religion played a huge role in all Western societies. However, religion is an instrument of control - an institution that wants to indoctrinate you in a certain way so that you would behave as the religious authorities want you to behave. Religion must never be seen as a synonym to belief.
So in the past primarily Catholic, Anglican and Protestant movements of Christianity played a huge role in most people's lives in the West. In traditional Christian societies women were barely seen as something more than breeding factories. They had very few rights or value. Men were deemed to be superior to women and the Bible was often used to justify such claims. You can see similar patterns in the Muslim world where the value and freedom of women is much lower than that of men.
Because marriage was usually done in a church, it was extremely hard to get a divorce from the religious authorities. There was a strong social stigma related to divorce, but the divorced or even widowed women bore the biggest burden. If a man was not married (single, divorced, widower), people would often say he is a poor soul, he cannot find a good woman to take care of him, and collectively try to find him a new wife. If a woman was divorced or widowed, people would usually say it was her fault and blame her for staying single again - she would almost be forced to remarry or pressured to join a convent by the society at the time. Being a single woman was a huge shame.
After the Cultural Revolution in 1960s, the entire society managed to get rid of the huge influence of Christianity on their lives. Women started getting equal rights and in many Western nations, they were allowed to go to Universities, do politics - decide for themselves. Imagine, all of this started happening less than 60 years ago.
Nowadays women can decide whether to marry or not, just as men are. We can equally divorce each other. We can choose to forgo marriage all together because marriage on its own is not the indicator of mutual love, respect and support for each other. In reality, I feel that the Western societies are the healthiest ones as they do not rely on being forced to do something they may not feel happy doing. They can choose and choice is all that matters.
I think some of these numbers come from a smaller stigma and easier methods for divorce. Although, one of the big factors that motivate these noticeably higher percentages is the way divorces are counted. Divorces after a short period and divorces from individuals who've previously been divorced (and are far more likely to divorce again) are counted alongside divorces from more typical marriages. A more appropriate figure would be the percentage of people who've had a divorce from long-term marriages (more than 5 years). Not having specific figures can skew results and the theories gathered from them. As I said, prior divorcees are more likely to divorce again, 60% for second marriages and 73% for third. Say there are four married men, but one gets a divorce. (0% to 25%) The divorcee gets remarried (20%), then divorces again (40%). They get remarried one more time (33%), then divorced one more time (50%). If this kept going till the person had twelve divorces (which I realize is unrealistic), the group would have a divorce rate of 80%, but only one of the four men would have had a divorce. The other three are still happily married. Data improperly categorized is poor data, and while my example is limited, I think it showcases the issue at hand.
My great Aunt is Chinese (not blood related) came to the states when she was 18 to go to college and married my Uncle sometime before I was born. There's about a 30 year age difference between them (she's in her late 50s now and he's somewhere in his 80s). For a while my uncle had bad health issues and was sick with what turned out to be a stroke. For a few years she acted more as a caretaker in a nursing home than as a wife, and one holiday I made a comment to her on how difficult that must be. She responded saying how in China it's socially unacceptable to leave your spouse in times of sickness or crisis. The commitment of marriage is taken very seriously, and if it is to be broken then at a bare minimum you show enough respect to leave when your spouse is in good health and isn't dependant on your support. Even though things were hard, she believed it to be unacceptable to take any other action than making sure she did everything she was able to help him through his sickness. Fortunately he's better now, and their relationship is strong as it has been since before I was born. There's no such social stigma in the states. If a couple gets divorced here it's seen as a salvation of one's independence, and relationships are treated as something that probably won't last. When you enter a relationship with that low an expectation you doom the relationship to failure. If failure is a possibility you're willing to accept, then you're far more likely to accept it, rather than put in the hard work necessary to stay together. I think this is definitely part of the divorce issue. It's disgusting to me that people value relationships so poorly. I have tremendous respect for my aunt for her attitude and her dedication to my uncle. I know a lot of women could benefit from her example.
In the West we have 3 philosophies that really create a strange situation when it comes to marriage, long term commitments, etc...
1. The pursuit and attainment of happiness is the most important life goal: Happiness is a very short term thing, and even your soulmate isn't always going to make you the happiest person in the world: that doesn't mean something is wrong, it means that you are living your life.
2. The value of the freedom of personal choice: We believe that people have the right to basically do whatever they want, and we don't have social structures in place that prevent people from fucking their lives up. I don't care if you have the best intentioned, most loyal wife in the world; if she surrounds herself with women who try to emulate Sex and The City in their personal lives: your wife is more likely to slip up. Her friends will create situations for her to stray, even if it's unintentional.
3. We have constant reminders of everything we don't have: This pretty much causes us to get tunnel vision and shut ourselves off from everything that isn't our next paycheck.
Because people select partners based on an innocent past, education, some emphasis on looks, family background and personality (morals, discipline etc.) while in the west they put looks above everything else. They care about personality too but looks come first which isn't the case in the so-called 3rd world countries. Also, things like education and a good job are obviously ignored.
The leading causes for divorce in the west are:Cheating and financial crisis.
People in the so-called 3rd world countries tend to have higher self-control and are more likely to choose partners with a good degree. So, the divorces are less likely to happen.
I don’t think it’s necessarily about morality, but that people in western countries often have more options due to wealth and don’t remain together out of necessity like they do elsewhere.
In places where people marry to forge stronger familial unions, to merge property lines or for protection and safety they’re likely to stay together to keep that.
In the west if something’s not working you throw it away and start again. If my computer breaks I don’t spend a bunch of time and effort on trying to fix it; I buy another one.
For many, relationships are the same way.
Family court law is the answer. It’s the seed of all evils. It’s been written that once you get married to a woman, she is entitled to half of your wealth, property, half of your everything. It’s very common to find a man getting divorce raped after 2 years of marriage.
In the Philippines, women will pursue annulment rather than divorce. Because the family court law there don’t put women on the pedestal. Yes women can divorce, but she is also forced to sign a paper saying she will not marry again, ever. Why? Well for a 3d world country. That certain society has a particular ideology that they hold high in their culture.
1. Women's rights. (No one should have to live with abuse).
2. It's legal.
3. A change in the culture surrounding marriage.
4. Some men leave from abuse. Men should not have to put up with abuse, either.
5. Con artists. Marriage con artists... It's a thing.
6. One person cheating on the other. Be it from intoxication, thinking they found love, or something else.
7. The increase of looking for "love" which is typically a fleeting affair that can last up to two years. Once the initial high from new love leaves, they have to decide if they actually like each other enough to stay. Often this turns out to be a no, likely from the constant desire for that new love feeling. Sometimes from the fact that the high of new love made them hide who they really are. Sometimes because the high of new love made them overlook things they can't actually stand to live with.
so there's 2 things about this. A: why is there more divorce and B: is that good or bad?
A: there is more divorce in countries where the social repercussions are low. so for example in many parts of india, a divorce still means social death for the woman and make it very hard for the man to find a new wife too so basically you're stuck with your partner for good.
B: is that good or bad? well choosing a partner isn't easy and really there's no good way of learning how to find a good one. i'd say it's good to be able to divorce, cause everyone can be wrong about the partner they chose. being stuck with a mistake sucks.
Countries with the highest success rate are usually the most religious, the divorce is either going against god or extremely judged. Culture and lifestyle has a big impact. Obviously the laws are the biggest factor, because many people might want the divorce but it is simply against the rules. Westerners have all the freedom, promiscuous lifestyle, they do not see marriage as something for life, to them it's more ''until something doesn't go how I planned''
Flawed social system. Lower commitment, loyalty and trust to relationship, higher lifestyles extremely based on materialistic things. But still most people work/fight for basic necessities these days which never happens in most 3rd world countries. People fight for basic needs in developed world and people fight for development in lesser developed worlds. Lack of securities for basic necessities is one of main cause of divorce in developed countries. Lol for instance, someday we might pay for the air we breathe.
The West is currently rebelling against itself and its old institutions, marriage is not seem with good eyes. And the people that marry give it little thought, wich severely increases the chance of a divorce. Very high expectations and little personal effort turn marriages into disappointments. Also, the feeling of being married is different in itself, people marry more as a formality, before people only really got togheter with the marriage, the marriage was a community event filled with simbolism, and when you married you would make sacrifices to make it work, people don't make sacrifices nowadays
Social stigma against divorce has waned in the west, more women getting higher education and entering the workforce makes them less dependent on their husbands, pop culture promoted promiscuity and unrealistic standards, shrinking religious influence has decreased the value of marriage, more people opt out of parenthood and so have less attachment to their marriage.
Tons of reasons really
because being liberal and free is what the western nations are built on. however, this is one side effect of having our freedom. For girls especially, when they've been with many different guys, they start to pull the best traits of each guy and form it into some super guy that doesn't exist. They get bored with their man because he isn't like some other dude or wants something new so she leaves. She has nothing holding her back, she gets a huge pay check if she leaves, so what's stopping her?
The trick is to find a girl who hasn't had any partners in her life but you. Good luck
Because women are free to abuse the system thanks to feminism / misandry. If she wants to steal her man's money, house, kids, pets, etc. all she has to do is file for divorce. So that's what women do. The liberal media is supporting this thus destroying families in the country. And politics are making people more divided than ever. Marriage is a thing of the past.
On the one hand, it's the loss of value that the nuclear family once had in the West but on the other hand, it would also be unfair to say that marriages tend to be successful in countries where divorce rates are smaller - chances are that many of them consists of two married people who are not happy with one another but they can't divorce because that is either illegal or taboo.
In Hinduism (india) marriage and divorce are rather difficult, the woman pays a dowry to the guy which is higher depending on the beauty of the girl.
And in Islam- divorce is said to be unliked by god.
I'm guessing this plays a role. Other things are wealth and open relationships and later unfaithfulness... the world has become more 'I see it-I want it' rather than 'what i already have is enough' if that makes sense?
Obviously, most of these marriages were in the 80s and 90s right? Like your parents generation.
Lots of economic hardships, people get married because being a woman solo back then was pretty bad because they couldn't make enough to live.
So they had to marry whatever guy looking marginally competent. Eventually, the bar marriage falls apart.
Because we live in a society based on comfort and a lot of us aren't willing to fight for their marriage. Plus people don't think that well when it comes to marrying others on whether it'll be compatible or not. This includes beliefs and just how they should live their life. A lot of people in the U. S. don't care about politics.
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