Really struggling to get over my gorgeous ex girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

I can't get her face out of my head. She was head turning gorgeous (like Natalie Portmans twin!) and I'm struggling to move on. I'm considered good looking and have had some great looking girls in the past but she was the most beautiful girl I have seen and I don't know how to forget her. I was smitten from day one! I've accepted we won't get back together but the problem is I don't feel like any other girl matches up looks wise. I'm not being shallow. It wasn't just her looks, I loved her personality too and she made me laugh. But it was the fact she seemed to have it all that makes me feel so bad. Am I still just heartbroken? It's been 3 months and I've never taken this long to get over a girl (even one's I believed I was in love with). Do I just need more time?

[broken1xx]

I am still heartbroken from a longterm relationship that he ended 3 months because of distance which we did for a year after we started going out and he just gave up. I know I still feel he is perfect and the best guy but he left and he took me for granted. If your ex wants to talk to you she will. I did try to get my ex back after a month and spilled my feelings out because I felt I just needed to put it all out there and know I said what I needed to. it helped me move on a bit more because I felt maybe he didn;t know how much I care for him. Even though he still didn't want to do the distance anymore I know that I have no regrets. Maybe you just telling her how you feel can help but it could hurt you more if you expected a different outcome from her. Especially if you have been with her for a long time a partner will get weird I noticed. I did before my ex got distant but he wouldn't let me break up with him even though I was horrible. but then my feelings came back after a semester and wanted him again. people get confused and you never know. Just don't keep it all inside. it will bottle up and hurt you more. Just it will take a while and don't feel like something is wrong with you because it does take time and change in your life to help build new memories that overpower the old you had with her. But don't put your life on hold for her. it will prolong your healing.

[TeAmo122008]

Truth is, you'll never forget her. But looking back and thinking about her will get easier and less emotionionally difficult for you. It's very sweet what you say about her! But, you just need time. You also can't expect to find love with someone else if all you do is compare other women to her... You'll just find yourself stuck, unhappy, and unfulfilled in any relationship. You'll also make yourself blind to the fact that there are actually other amazing and beautiful girls out there who will feel the same about you and you'll know you won't have to worry about another broken heart...although you were together for a reason, because you love her, you can't forget that things ended for a reason. Of course, most things are easier said than done. But seriously, give yourself time and everything will undoubtedly get better! It always does! Unless you keep going back to the same uncomfortable situations! I hope you feel better about it all!

[FallenRose]

Two options

> Give yourself space. And go out and meet other people

OR

> What you said was really sweet about her. Tell her everything you feel about her, tell her how much she means to u. If she says its still over move on even though its hard,

I think tell her how you feel. At least you know you have tried at least

[thetheme]

The thing is to get over someone, you have to want to get over them. That gos the same for forgetting someone. She is you EX. No matter who did the breaking up, the fact that you are not with her should tell you how much of a great person she is, especially if she left you for a stupid reason, so don't make excuses for her. Moving on is just that, moving on. People come and go. How would you know about other girls unless you go out and look and try? No woman is worth your self respect or putting your life on hold. She didn't have it all if she walked away from you so easily, remember that. Don't chase her, move on, don't compare this girl to others, there are always girls out there.

[Anonymous]

What difference does it make what she looked like? Hurt is hurt. She may have thought you looked like Brad Pitt but the fact is, for whatever reason, its over.

Either remedy this situation based upon something other than strictly superficial reasons, or move on. And yea - its gonna take some time to get over someone. 3 months isn't enough - sometimes 3 years isn't even long enough...

[Anonymous]

" It's been 3 months and I've never taken this long to get over a girl (even one's I believed I was in love with). "

What, no girl get past 3 months? I don't think you need help in that case, pfft, I wish I am a guy.

[ccm27]

I've never seen a girl struggling to get over their ex in more than 2 weeks. pff, wish I was a girl.

[LuvBiddy]

You need time, even more time if the relationship lasted a year or longer.

[Justinefoox]

If she makes you happy tell her how you feel.