My ex calls me when she's in trouble. What does that mean?

[Anonymous]

My ex and I broke up over 6 months ago (we broke up twice) so we have not talked. She recently came into trouble and called me and on our conversation, she told me when she hears my voice and laugh, she feels happy and it abdicates her pain and sadness. What do you all think? Does she still have feelings for me?

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+1 y

She broke up with me two times. She came into trouble with financial and family problem.

[defiantdragonfly]

It means you are safe. You know her, you know what she wants to hear. She does still have feelings for you, but they are not the feelings you have for a lover, they are feelings she has of a safety net.

I'll admit that I occasionally have the temptation to call my exhusband. He's still my friend, he knows me better than anyone. We were together for 10 years and have a daughter together. He knows me, my reactions and what I need to hear. Drives my boyfriend bonkers, but sometimes I just need that safety of someone who knows everything about me to tell me it's going to be ok.

Bottom line: you're a safety net, don't let her back, you'll regret it

[Anonymous]

Well what was the trouble? and who broke up with who?

It could be that she just gets a small ego boost when you're happy to hear from you, maybe she genuinely enjoys your kindness and honestly likes you as a person, or maybe she does want to get back with you. It depends on why she's calling, how long its been, and the type of person she is.

[SplashyAxis]

I don't think a girl phones you to tell you her troubles as a way of showing her feelings of interest in you. She feels familiarity and comfort with you, especially if you've been together for a certain length of time. She feels happy when she hears your voice because it's something that she is used to, and makes her feel safe. Whenever people are stressed or in a state of discomfort, we look for those things that make us feel safe and we are familiar with, so I would imagine that's what she phones you for.

[thetheme]

She is just comfortable with you. You are a "friend" to her. You are someone that will listen to her no matter what, and she knows that. Just so you know when she doesn't have problems you won't hear from her, so you are being used for your time. Don't read too much into this. If she wanted you, she knows she can have you.

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

Sounds like you should get away from her. She's just going to keep using you as her safe guy :\ hope you aren't pining after her.

[noivus]

it means that the guy she dumped you for has now dumped her, and she's feeling lonesome and hopes you'll take her back.

[noivus]

if she calls you only when she's in trouble, it means that she's using you.

she's using you as an emotional resource, as a way to boost her ego or lift her spirits.

she's exploiting you.

if a guy telephoned a girl only when he wanted sex from her, I'd say the same thing.