For the most part I would say it is all relative to how long you were together, did your relationship have more happy times than sad? How long has it been since you ended things together and who ultimately ended the relationships. I'm also curious as to what steps you have taken towards reconciling afterward. (If that is your goal).
Any person that jumps into a relationship quickly after a breakup is not over their ex.
Currently I'm in the exact same boat as yourself, myself and my ex of 3 years broke up not too long ago and she has recently began dating nearly 2 months ago. Currently she has been talking to me more and attempting to see me without actually asking me, (setting up events with mutual friends).
If you two dated for a decent amount of time and broke up recently I'd say around 3-4 maybe even as much as 6 months ago, she is most likely lonely and is NOT over you. She has found that burying her feelings for you with a new person is a quick temporary fix, rather than accepting them and giving herself enough time to heal. These relationships never work out. My advice if you want to reconcile your relationship is to be extremely elusive. Do not completely ignore her but also recognize that it is no longer your job to be there for her whenever she needs. You are not her emotional tampon. After awhile, (took a little over a month for myself) she will begin to wonder where you went and what you are doing and will reach out to you.
Watching your ex in a new relationship quickly after yours ended is exceptionally hard but if you can wait out the beginning phases of their relationship (Honeymoon Phase) without interfering or causing problems, working on yourself and overall being mature about things, it will peak her interest which is exactly what you want. Go out and have fun, force yourself to meet new people and act like your having the best time of your life without her (without being arrogant or condescending of course). Work on yourself, and really dissect the cause of the rift between you two for your next time together or even your next relationship if need be.
Dating someone new right after a relationship is a horrible idea. People need time to heal and learn about themselves. The first step in getting an ex back or even someone new who is worth the trouble is to evaluate yourself and spend time working on your own quirks.
I realize this is a little more than what the actual question was but I hope it helps.
Same here I'm still in pain we been together for 1 year and a half but she moved on and didn't get a text from her yet only me. I don't know if she's really moved on got a picture of them on Facebook which I feel that's a pie in the face but I don't know but still love her but I don't wanna chase her away
(continued from comment below... I ran out of space!) wow Danman, you're good and the "if they jump into a relationship quickly they aren't over you" is so true because that's exactly what I did except I didn't realize I wasn't over him at the time - was only after I broke up with the new guy about 3 months later that I realized it was just a distraction and I'd been enjoying the thrill of something new. Trust me leetaylor, it does't last (and this new guy told me he loved me!). Only thing the new guy did was make me realize what was special about my ex and all the things I missed. I soon went back to him, admitting I'd made a mistake in breaking up, telling him I'd met someone else but completely regretted it and asking for a second chance. Problem was damage was already done - the fact I'd seen someone else kinda crushed him (which I don't blame him for) so although we tried to make it work it kinda fizzled out. But to answer your question... it's been nearly two years and I'm not over him, no-one else has even come close. The only thing I would say though is that he did what you did and sat back and 'let me miss him', rather than coming after me or putting up a fight which played on my mind - all girls are different but if he had come after me when I left I may never have ended up with the new guy in the first place... but it's easy to say that now I guess. it was a hard pill to swallow my pride and go back and admit I was wrong and apologize and ask for him to take me back - at least if she gets to that stage, knowing that you still love her and want her back would make it slightly easier. we're all human and we all make mistakes. sometimes it takes being apart from someone to work out how you truly feel about them.
It really depends on multiple factors. How long you've been in the relationship, if it was a bad break up or a good break up, who broke up with who...etc.
I've had one relationship that lasted a year and a half, and I broke up with the guy. It was a clean break up, but it took me several months to get over. Whereas I broke up with another guy after two and a half years, and even though it was a clean break up, I was over him in a month. The relationship was so bad for so long, that I realized after breaking up, that I already went through the pain and the heartache, and I wasn't going to deal with it again after we were apart. So, in a way, it was like a great weight of frustration off my shoulders, and I moved on fairly fast.
it's different for every girl and every relationship...
my first love of 4 years-- took me nearly 3 years to completely get over him to where I stopped missing him. I dated other people during that time, but I always kind of loved him.
my recent love of 1 year-- took me 3 months, impart because I had a feeling part way through the relationship that I couldn't commit to a guy like him. it was a long time coming.
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I agree with sweetgal24, everyone is different. Suppose it depends how much you really cared about them. I was dating a guy last year for about 10 months and it took me about 5 - 6 months to get over him. Guy broke it off with me a week ago and this hurt is till going so no idea how long this one will last. x
When I fall, I fall hard. So for me it would take a while . . .
I feel the same way as you. My ex-boyfriend moved on very quickly, and here I am, nine months after the break-up, still pining for him.
it takes me 3 hours and 30 minutes and 5 seconds to get over someone.
Then the next hours I find the new m.r. right.
lol I get over guys pretty fast.
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