So my boyfriend and i broke up a month and a half ago, we stayed together for over two years. We didn't break up over lack of love or that one of us met someone else. We basically broke up cause of problems that kept happening and couldnt be fixed. We broke up on good terms (we're friendly and still care a lot about each other)
Anyway, what i dont understand is that i recently found out that he's been trying to move on by being with other girls.. While i can't be sexual with any guy, im just unable; i feel disgusted by all guys although i miss the intimacy we had.
Bottom line is, i dont understand how can i be in this state and he is okay with being with other girls. Although i know he hasn't moved on and i was the one who initiated the breakup. He even won't go out with our friends when im there because he feels uncomfortable seeing me with other guys. Im just completely confused and feel lonely. Any help please?
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I think that a person can get over a person fast enough if that person meets someone that results in stronger feelings than the girl before. I have had one of my friends do that. Love a guy to death and met another guy not that long after and fell in love with him. Even more than the her first love.
Well , he seems like he was over you before you guys started the second time , it was just a illusion that he loved you again, something that just lasted a few days .
When two people are really truly in love they may never get over each other.
I can't know if he was truly in love with you or not. People your age are known to see true actual love... and to be unwise enough to run from it. On the other hand people your age are also known to be unwise enough to mistake other emotions for true love which may not be love at all.
In any case his being in a new relationship is more than likely a rebound from you and will end very soon. It will not mean he's over it, in fact such relationships will mean he takes longer to get over it.
we never get over that girl we love
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I love all the warm fuzzy bullsh*t on this site, ugh. Anyway, You were in love and it didn't pan out. I feel ya! I'm nursing a broken heart myself. However, your question...how long does it take to get over you...that answer, he already has. He's with another girl! Is he "completely over you"...well, he's over you enough to be in bed with another woman right now. He started dating you again because he probably had nothing else going on, wanted to see if he could rekindle, realized he didn't have those feelings anymore, and got out.
I'm sure you are a wonderful person. Don't waste anymore time on this guy...destroy or put away all the pics from him/your relationship, remove him from your faceobok and phone, cry and let any emotions out that you have to, and jump back into meeting new guys again. He's not the only one for you, and moreover you want to be in a relationship that isn't "rocky". Don't settle for less. Good luck!Yea, we never really get over the girl we love. Eventually you accept things for what they are and they don't affect you, and you are totally fine without her but she will always be there. Just because he is with someone else doesn't mean he is over you. People react to situations differently. Some people latch on to others to help fill the void created. There is also a psycholigical term called transference where individuals transfer the feelings from one person to another. Pretty much why rebounds don't work. You think you have feelings for the new person but after time passes you realize you still miss your ex.
I dated a girl for 2-3 years and even though we've been done for a while I still think of her. I'm over her but I can say that we really shared some intense feelings towards each other. From my previous experiences thus far, I can say that we fell in love yes. But I've never been married yet obviously so I can't garruntee that it was "true love". But I still wish her the best at what she does in her life. I wouldn't ever think about going back to her though because my philosophy is, people break up for a reason so don't fool yourself.
So, he was in love with you, had those feelings for you, and went with someone else the next day? I'm not trying to be a jerk here, I'm just trying to show you the obvious, that he either loves you or doesn't. If he was begging you to move in and then went into the arms of another girl the next day, not only does he not love you, he's a needy douche and needs to have a woman pay attention to him. Really, run for the hills from this one. If you told him to get lost, that's good, but if you told him that and are trying to move on, why are you on here asking if he's over you? Just stop talking to him. You don't want anything to do with a guy that flaky, and worrying about whether he likes you or not is a waste of time.
And, if you truly love a woman, it will take different amounts of time to move on emotionally, depending on how long you were together. What's the "standard" ...2 weeks for every month you were together? I've read that... I 'd say that's pretty accurate in my experienceDefine over. I truly loved a girl I dated for two and a half years in high school. We broke up, and I spent the next year pining over her and missing her. She's engaged now to a guy eight years older than her and her family keeps dropping hints that they wish it were me and not him that was going to marry her. I occasionally hang out with the two of them, and don't have the uncontrollable urge to beat the living daylights out of him, however I've thought about what it would be like to have a relationship with her, even six years later, but I know she wasn't the one for me. She will, however, always have a special place in my heart.
Guys never get over a girl they truly loved. Girls are much better with their emotions. Your ex is probably running to this other girl to ease his pain of the breakup, but rest assured he'll be thinking of you every time he hears your name. Or sees your car you drive. Or your favorite TV show. I don't think guys fall in love as easily as women, but when they do, they never forget.
When I Broke it off with this Chick I Really Loved, It Always Made me Down and Feel like I was Missing Apart Of Myself, Truth Is I Don't think Some of Us Do Get Over It, But We have to Continue To Love And Share Love That's How I Delt With it Getting up And Hoping The Next day would be better then Before.
I believe it's much harder for a guy to get over a breakup than a girl, that is if he doesn't find anyone else. But if another girl enters his life, it makes the transition much easier whereas women seem to be able to move on much better unless she's one of the few psycho stalker women out there (I.E. Fatal Attraction).
i think its easier for guys because of that whole macho thing. if your friends see you moping around the jokes are soon to follow. guy friends don't let each other mope. in that case, its a night on the town.
There is no getting over the girl you loved. Not now not ever. I met the love of my life when I was 10 and it still breaks my heart knowing that she is with another man [who is a complete douchebag].
the next day.
but also never.
one is to the world and one is at the twilight time between sleeping and wakingI completely disagree with some of the guys here. I've gotten over girls that I love, even though it took, sometimes over a year. You just have to find a really special girl who can do that for you.
Well if he really loves you it should take him forever...but some guys jump into another girl to help get over previous one.
I have to agree with ksmbutt, I still think of my first love from time to time and that was over 20 years ago.
Well it has been a year and I haven't got over her.
As ksmbutt said:
we never get over that girl we love
It really is truehonestly, they will never stop loving them. It's called unconditional love. But they do stop thinking about them and that is what matters
I have a friend who is a guy and he was with his ex for 10 months and still after 2 years he still isn't over her.
It varies from guy to guy...
truly loved... never.
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