Why is he so upset?

[prettylovescats]

So me and old coworker slept to together it was a mistake. I was vulnerable I was going through abuse with my mom. 3years later the new supervisor at my job is friends with the same guy who took my virginity… I stay far away from him. Then he told my sous chef I never speak to him. I was basically forced to speak to my supervisor? I never meant me and his friend had did it once.. I didn’t think I would end up liking him… so today we got into a fight it was over the fact my sous chef is super jealous of me. She likes the supervisor… he told her he has a gf… he tells me he doesn’t he just wants her to stoop flirting. Any time I talk to him she’s behind him 24/7. So I got upset I told I didn’t want to compete for a man at my job. Then I meant what she did years ago with his friend and me… omg he end up asking if we had something… I end up telling him he said I was selfish and that’s his friend… he said he can’t trust me… he stop texting a lot… I try apologizing
Why is he so upset? How am I selfish?

[Dantec2024]

Don't listen to these assholes who made comments on your post. You were vulnerable and quite honestly from what you made it sound like he took advantage of you in a very rough time in your life. As for your job they should be professional and not involve personal matters with work because it's kinda disgusting that they'd put you on the spot. One last thing, don't think that just because you have sex with someone for the first time means that you lost your virginity to them. If you meet someone else that you truly like or even love then I'd say that that is how you lost it because virginity is more than just the physical aspect of it, if any of that made sense to you

[DarkLegacy]

Love to know why you are white knighting

[Dantec2024]

It's my own opinion, you have yours and I have mine. Just because I wasn't being an ass doesn't mean I was "white knighting".

[prettylovescats]

I was a virgin.. he said I use abused as an excuse no I didn’t I was abuse by my mother the doors were lock on me every night.. it happened 3years ago … he told me it was selfish of me not to say anything… I didn’t even want to talk to him… I barely talk to him because I knew I lost my virginity by his friend. I was forced to speak to him because he’s my supervisor. He said he’s good.. then I told I hope he’s okay if he needs a hug. He said he needs more than a hug… I said we can go outside restaurant he said yes..

[prettylovescats]

I have only 2 bodies now I lost my v at 23…. So I do have morals… I was in a very low point in my life. I regret it everyday … I’m now 25

[Dantec2024]

Yeah he shouldn't have said that to you, you were going through something hard. But I will say this, it wasn't good that you did end up sleeping with someone at work since more people will hear about it and possibly expect to get something from you

[prettylovescats]

Well the guy doesn’t work there anymore it’s been 3-4years everyone new now. In the food industry people dont stay long due to cutting hours & pay. lol I never talked to anyone again. I curved every line cook. Until I met him it only took a year for me to even start getting close. I never use to speak to my supervisor at all I would just say hey

[prettylovescats]

He also been flirting with me.. I thought his friend would’ve told him about me. That’s why I stay away from him lol

[DarkLegacy]

Trust a woman to use abuse as an excuse to justify bad behaviour. The fact you are apologizing lets you know that you are in the wrong here.

[JesseP1nk]

That is probably best example "Don't get your honey where you make your money" Now probably everyone gonna know at your work...

[Anonymous]

What a big mess that’s what happens when you sleep around

[strateguy632]

because of what you said

[Anonymous]

Keep your pussy in your pants.