Have you ever made a decision like this that hurt your heart but you knew would be good for you?

[Friendlyexperienced]

Yes. Over recent years I've been going through transformation and met woman of my dreams.

Transformation: one huge thing is because of some difficulties when young I never wanted children. As I went through course in 2014 at ripe age of 40, I discovered something new about children and then realized I wanted children.

I met this woman year or so after and she was comfortable enough with talking with me and open to idea of having child with me, despite great possibility child would have disability like mine. She did bit of research on and we had few discussions.

Though she was living polyamorous lifestyle, which I was open to at time, we agreed to have monogamous relationship. Couple months later, I found she had cheated on me. I really considered staying with her because of what we talked about building, I really was in love with her, and with transformation she was first woman I ever thought and felt good about being mother of my child.

After thinking about for few days, I envisioned another man having sex with her, which really bothered me. I broke up with her about 3 weeks later. This was very difficult for me because of love I felt for her and most women I've been with broke up with me, but I knew it was thing to do. We're actually friend's today.

[OlderAndWiser]

I assume that you made the right choice in ending the relationship but, apparently, there were some not-so-wonderful choices that got you into that mess in the first place.

After a break up, the most important thing is to not find ways to blame your ex, because you can't do anything about his behavior. What you CAN do is determine how you made mistakes in the relationship, what (in retrospect) you should have done differently, so that you can learn some lessons and not make the same mistakes in future relationships. Spend more energy on those tasks so you can find a more satisfying relationship next time.

[BlackRoseFairy]

I had to... not once, but 3 times in regard of relationships...

But especially with my ex things were so bad...
I can relate to what you are going through and my heart reaches out to you. My ex's parents went from lovely to being so outright mean... I can't even find the right word to describe it...

3 years later they are still trying to blame me for all that happened and they are talking bad behind my back to anyone who knew about us.

My mom used to be devastated by all this, and she was taking it much more badly than I did. I just told her to think about something
If I had been so wrong and the bad guy in the story, then why has no one, but literally no one, has come to me to ask for an explanation or to tell me to go back together?
It's been 3 years and I haven't heard anyone trying to tell me to work it out, give him another chance, try again... whatever.
All I ever hear from people is "Thank God you got out of there" and "Wow, you look happy again"

I think that says it all. I continue to live my life and ignore whatever they have to say, they choose to live in the past and drown in their own poison...

Embrace the future girl! It's out there... turn the page and don't look back. You deserve better! Xoxo 💕💕

[midnightmoon05]

Yes, I have. A few times. After 4 months, after 6 months, after one year. But I was not strong enough to walk away. Becasue I tried to give it the benefit of the doubt knowing he is a kind hearted, genuine person.

When things had to end for a good reason. Then look back, if I had walked away after 4 months, he would not have been where he is now. The grow outweights the pain in this case. I believe.

Just know, whenever we make a decision to love or to end a relationship, there will be pain. I chose to always look at myself to see what I learned, how I can heal and how I can be a better person for myself, and my children especially because they see me, feel me and they become me.

I believe you already blocked him. What he needs to say/do is unrelevant to your healing process. Love yourself, love your baby :) The greatest love you can give, is love him, thank him that he came to your life for a purpose.

[angecandy]

Yeah. When i was 10 I gave up on my friends so i could give all my time to my mom and my siblings after my mom divorced and had a tuff time, and my siblings were just twin babys and 1 that was 6 year old. I pushed away people who wanted to be friend, who wanted to be in a relationshop with me. I also gave up sleeping over or party. I am always nice, never does anything stupid, teachers pet, dress Nice and help out. People call me perfectionist, a lonely wolf. It was a little hurtfull , but i am so proud i did it and i am happy, now my siblings have grown up, everybody are healty and have no worries. Now i am 16 and i dont need to help my mom so much as before, i have many friends now. Before i was always busy and had only time for my family and school. I have a lot of time now. Sometimes, taking hurtfull decision, can be helpful and positive for you both fycical and for your mentaly healt.

[ItsAMeA]

Yes. When I quit binge drinking. :-, (

[BrotherFrost]

I do it all the time.

[indian_rocky]

I left my girlfriend.

[Agape93]

Yes absolutely

[GreenGold1992]

Yeah

[COMMODOREII]

Yep me too

[MJVneedstoknow]

Making one now