The not-so-wonderful choice I made was bearing my heart to him and then ignoring the red flags. Ignoring the signs was the biggest mistake I could have made. In retrospect, I could have communicated better that I was unhappy. When the other party commits a hurtful act and then they say that "you see everything through a filter of abuse", just to get away with it--- it seems to me that there was plenty of communication.
@sydneysentinel right his expectation would be you are not wounded. He knows that logically but emotionally appears awol. One big lesson I learned is have to honor the other persons wounds. Man has to submit unto woman. And that sucks sometimes. Both may be right, both have growth. He needs to find his emotions, you would benefit to heal the old wounds. It's actually all for good... when that is the outcome. I did what he did in my own way and she reacted as you did, guys are knuckle draggers (emotionally) for sure sometimes. It's the very thing we don't want to change... emotionally... that is the crux of the issue on both sides. "Iron sharpens Iron" Proverb 27:17 is so true... and so wo-man and man.
You're absolutely spot on!I have a neighbor who I have known for almost 9 years but is my father's age so I don't know him on the same level of a friendship but rather someone I'm just fond of. When I was still with my ex, he literally put his hands on my shoulders and shook me, saying, "I need you to take care of yourself so I don't have to worry so much about you and your daughter." That really resonated with me that it wasn't just my close friends that were picking up on things but other people that didn't know me as deeply.I'm glad you're happy again. No one should steal your happy!!
I am just glad that you two are alright! That's the most important thing! ❤And thanks for MHO! 😘
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