Do you agree that some people don't want to be fixed because being broken gets them lots of attention?

[Avicenna]

Yes

No

[BeeNee]

I used to have a friend who's whole life was creating her own terrible situations, coming to cry on everyone's shoulder, then repeating the whole thing. After round 4 and trying to illustrate to her through the biggest connect the dots chart possible that her troubles were of her own making and not the world's fault, I had to cut her loose because some people will never learn, and I no longer wanted to be a part of the enabler train. Some people like staying at the bottom. It's comforting blowing up their life and having people flock to them in support. If I see someone now in a situation where they are broken, and I see even the tiniest bit of effort on their part to change their situation or truly ask and follow through with help, I'm there for them 100%, but if it's 10 years later and we're still at square one, what is going to change with that situation----probably nothing.

[GraveDoll]

while it may seem broken to you it could mean it helps another.

No one ask anyone to be captain save a hoe.

When I meet these people i just go the other way. Problem solve. I have no time trying to save people like some savior.

Live and let live

[OlderAndWiser]

I think that is one of many reasons. Essentially, people are like battleships and the circumstances in our lives are like the ocean that surrounds the battleships. The currents of the ocean propel a ship to maintain its course and provide resistance to the efforts to change direction. It takes a long time and a concerted effort to make a battleship change its course.

[coachTanthony]

LOL the people who need to be fixed don't believe they should so they get attention by default.. Not sure if they do this on purpose!

[Secret6620]

Absolutely. Some people thrive off of constantly being a victim and being victimized by others. 😱

[Avicenna]

Yeah, or having other people THINK they're a victim when they're actually the abuser.

[Secret6620]

It's a narcissist trait 😱

[Avicenna]

Quite true

[ManOnFire]

I do agree with that. I think they also don't want to be fixed because they find appeal in a dramatic kind of life of distress, where they like thinking of themselves as constantly victimized or done wrong.

[Daren77]

It's often worse than that. Many people are addicted to low vibration energy. This puts them into a negative spiral that sometimes becomes out of control.

[JackVE]

The people who want the attention aren't actually damaged, but trust me, if someone is really hurt, they will want help, sometimes they just don't know how or where to get it

[SarahsSummer]

some people use it as their identity. It's sad really

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Yes i agree , some people who are broke , likes to receive attention
that is why they don't want fixed.

[ShadowofRegret]

I certainly agree, I have seen people like that before.

[JimboGB]

Wouldn't that be the definition of a broken person, someone so lost within their pain, it has become the only way they can express themselves.

[WhiteShoulder]

Not at all. And being “broken” is subjective.

[midnightmoon05]

The comfort zone most live in.

[SALIM28]

U can say that again👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍

[NickiB]

Of course there's some out there.

[pizzalovershouse]

depends on how, bad mental illness is

[pizzalovershouse]

plus what we eat effects are hormones

[Creepazoid]

this i do agree with