What was your reasoning for unfriending an ex?

Question

Especially one you still had feelings for.

hammeronfire · Accepted Answer

i can go down the list one by one
ahem
ex#1: talked shit about me behind my back (in class, literally 10 feet behind my back) after we broke up to anyone who would listen to her
ex#2: was a crazy psycho who walked out in the cold for at least 15 minutes, broke into my building around 4am, walked up 11 flights of stairs after complaining about going up one, and sat outside my door for 30 minutes. then when she went home called me 9 times in a row leaving crying messages each time. did i mention that we hadn't even broken up yet and that this was after dating for 8 days.
ex#3: was cheating on me with one of her friends for 2 and a half months before i caught her and she finally decided to be honest.
ex#4: was a manipulative pathological liar who mentally abused me for months and cheated on me with 2 of her exes (who she told me were her brothers) and one of my friends (which her mom told me about. her mom told me about everything that she was doing because one night we were at her house and her neighbor asked her to babysit for a little while. so i started talking to her mom and she unraveled every lie she ever told me. then when i tried to leave she hit me)
ex#5: decided that we were going to date eachother on satudrday, then he broke up with me after hooking up that night on Sunday morning.
safe to say i dont have the best luck dating so im just not gonna do it anymore

Joey101 · Accepted Answer

She told me she needed time to figure out life, she asked for a year and said that we should be friends for that time. She said if something is meant to be it will be, which I thought is bullshit. If you want something to be you can make it be. Basically I couldn't live with the fact that she told me she loved me and than the next day she pulled this move. Truth is I deserve better and not to be treated as an option but now I know that doesn't exist for me. Its been over 6 months now and it still hurts like a bitch at times. But it was something I had to do.

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

I've only unfriended two people in my life time on any social media site at all - maybe 3 - one guy hated me for telling him his lifestyle was not biblical and tried to ruin my reputation with everybody he knew - another girl had a personality that made me very disgusted and annoyed and the only reason I was even friends with her to begin with was because she wouldn't stop harassing me and bugging me to be her friend - she was so messed up that she couldn't find law abiding people who wanted to be friends with her so she tried to force me to be her friend by harassing me all the time - I unfriended another guy cause he was almost a stranger I barely knew and he insulted me online

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

I tried to maintain a friendship with my first ex since the breakup was mutual.
It was fine for a while, especially since I had no feelings for him outside of friendship.

Until he started telling our mutual friends and guys I liked things about me I confided in him, including about our previous sex life!!!

Yeah that was the breaking point for me. I didn't tell anyone things about him, even after we broke up, yet he gossiped about me... the trust was broken. So I cut ties with him.

My other ex cheated on me, stating it was my fault, yet he wanted to stay friends with me. Hell no, didn't happen.

So yeah, no more befriending exes for me... EVER.

aWes0MeNeSs · Answer

I never unfriended either one, but both unfriended me, lol (except one added me back later when we put our differences behind us and decided to stay friends).

In both cases, I assume the reason was butthurt. The second kept me as a friend (and told me he wanted to stay friends) for several months, would post a bunch of things that I could tell were meant to piss me off (but I never responded), then eventually unfriended me. Oh well.

sejla · Answer

We needed to disconnect from each other's lives for our well being.

Franzi01 · Answer

my ex and me were on good terms when we broke up we said we would still be friends so we texted often but it got less and then he got a girlfriend soon after and the contact stopped. after 2 years he came back and said he wants me back he always wanted. i said i don't want that. he still wanted to be friends. i said i don't want that either because i moved on and i want him to do that too because he will always be the one dissapointed whatever i do when he's still interested. also because i was not ok with his actions and what he said.

Lost_Spark · Answer

Anyone that mistreats me or makes no effort to maintain friendships... They cease to exist in my life, I have no time for them.

If the split was amicable, then I could live with being civil at least. Feelings should be left in the past.

Life is too short to carry so much personal baggage around, set yourself free!

My ex was unfaithful, they were secretly contacting my closest friend from my phone as I slept. My friend had told me about it after the split.

On that day, they ceased to exist and I have had nothing to do with them for nearly 20 years.

If a person is going to be unfairful, grow the fuck up and end the relationship beforehand.

#notbitterintheslightest 😂😂😂😂😂

Hazelstar · Answer

Don't stay friends with your ex. Are you going to be okay with your ex moving on and he's with someone else. If you are okay watching that then by all means be his friend. If not then delete him out of your life. When my ex-boyfriend cheated on me with his ex girlfriend and is now his girlfriend. He asked me to be his friend. I still miss him and have feelings for him somwhere. I blocked him and deleted or blocked anything that was related to him. I chose to walk away because I don't deserve this and I am not okay till now moving on with his life. I don't want to see him but focus on myself. The moment when he said my real name instead of the nickname he had for me it broke my heart. I knew I couldn't be friends with him. I am different with my friends and treating the same way the guy I'm in love with who is not mine is simply heartbreaking.

Edson · Answer

i just recently unfriended my ex and it was precisely because I still had feelings for her. The problem was our relationship status was in a an ambiguous situation for the previous month in which i felt she was just stringing me along. So for the sake of my emotional health I blocked her and unfriended her, I´m still trying to get over her.

ZackBan · Answer

A wise man once coined the line
"If she keeps him as a friend because it's rude she would eat his babies like it's food"

I believe that goes both ways. Once a person is an ex it's less complicated to cut that person off especially if you're planning on dating again.
The new SO doesn't deserve the added drama that an ex can bring.

winterfox10 · Answer

She treated me like an afterthought. I made her a priority, but she acted like she couldn't care less what I thought/felt. She even told me that I made everything up in my head. So when the time came to decide if I wanted to just be friends, I booked it.

I know I broke her heart when I did that. But you don't get to disregard someone's feelings AND have everything be all good; that's not how life works.

DamnSam · Answer

She did play with my feelings while thinking only about her fun

Plus, she granted that she will be there when I need someone, but when my mother died of Cancer, nobody was there, after that besides from work I had none social contacts for 2 years

Xoxocutekitty · Answer

Sometimes you are trying to move in life and if the Ex is constantly reaching out like on a weekly or more basis fresh out of a break up its unsustainable. Sometimes, the relationship is toxic and people don't understand what we aren't together I need to focus on me means.

snowboarder720 · Answer

“... still had feelings..”

‘Had feelings’ and then moved on. I prefer to keep my ex’s separated in my social media. I have friends who still keep them in their friends list. To me that’s weird; it’s different with every guy.

aicarg · Answer

I have 2 exs. The first I unfriended and kept my distance as he was simply toxic - from cheating on me and catching him in on the act to the relationship being abusive - I learned he wasn't someone to associate with anymore. Second one after him, though we broke things off in somewhat good terms... though we remained friendly and kept in touch for a few years after the break up, I eventually kept my distance as he moved on and dated other women. He's now engaged.

xBec14x · Answer

I have all but one as a friend. The last one I just added after quite sometime after the breakup.

The one that I don’t have anymore unadded me, but I don’t care cause he cheated on me and pretty much all other girls he’s dated (still have some of his friends though. Partly cause college lol)

baconninjadc · Answer

I think it is a way to communicate that starting fresh should be the next steps. otherwise a relationship can drag on and people can forgo opportunities which may be better for them

virtue2332 · Answer

Out of site out of mind. I'm willing to bet someone close even suggested that it was a good idea. Its necessary to get closure and move on to some im sure.

malbrrtt00 · Answer

I unfriended him because I had feelings for him. We should've stayed friends, we were very toxic together and it was the best for us to break up. We always kept getting together everytime it was the last time. I needed to move on, so I cut him out of my life. It was so hard and still is I miss him but it was the best for me.

FlutteringFeelings · Answer

Once I move on I am moving on and don’t like to be bothered. I will unfriend, block, and do whatever to make sure that person doesn’t get in contact with me

WarriorGoddess26 · Answer

I went to a fair to meet him to talk about maybe getting back together and he showed up with his new girlfriend and blew me off. Plus I almost got stranded.

SaraSmithishere · Answer

I've never unfriended an ex, actually, since we were on good terms when we broke up. I did once have a guy that I hooked up with once in college unfriend me and change the message setting to encrpyted only once we graduated and he got a girlfriend, which I found to be hilarious given that I had sex with him once and I never wanted to speak to him again either.

PhantomShadow · Answer

To move forward After breaking up with her, i took a step back (unfriending her) then that's where i took a step forward, which is to heal my wounded heart, feelings, trust or whatever you call it

Hidaddyyy · Answer

When they break up with you over text after 3 years planning a future together, then you find out he cheated and that he calls you a psycho bitch to his friends. And also he was possessive and toxic.

Bman4907 · Answer

Her excessive cheating and her mother calling my sister a whore when I took her to a baseball game instead of my ex after we broke up.

And I quote, "SO THIS IS THE WHORE YOU LEFT MY DAUGHTER FOR?"

Just a quick reminder, Liz dumped me and married the guy she was cheating on me with. Pretty sure Liz lied to her mother as well.

PeacefulRainDrop · Answer

Moving on with my life no need to keep trash in the back yard

Agape93 · Answer

He wanted more than I was willing to give him, so I let him go. He deserves the happiness he desires.

Anonymous · Answer

First one he cheated and was also a narcissist and did a bunch of bad things.

Second ex well we were best friends even after breaking up but when he met someone he wanted to move on in life I guess, all he said was that we're too different which isn't false we had nothing in common. We also had a rocky last few months and both fought really hard to maintain the friendship.. But we're on good terms.

Anonymous · Answer

He disrespected me , he broke up with me over text , he was boring and rude no matter what I did it was never enough yet his family adored me and he told me to cut contact with them instead I cut it off with him as they were nice people and respected me a lot. So yeah I cut him off because who is he to tell me what to do esp when were not together.

Unicorns_exist · Answer

I have actually recently been blocked by an ex who I have not spoken to in 3 years. It was a bit out of the blue so I thought it’s because he still has feelings for me. Why else would you care?

iamallenvee · Answer

Mainly because I didn't want to catch feelings again

Clarity01 · Answer

He kept trying to cheat on his current girlfriend with me. No way would I ever do that

2ndTryatThis · Answer

She kept sending me nudes and videos and blowing up my Snapchat and phone wanting to hook up but she cheated and I was pissed. I eventually blocked her to be left alone to process everything because she gave me no time to do that.. and her social media was all posts of her trying to make me feel sorry for her because she felt bad.. like a guilt trip.. so BLOCKED

dmvgirl16 · Answer

Well I have never done that to an ex i still had feelings for because i knew that one he is my ex but that does not mean that u can not be friends but also it depends if u and ur ex ended on good or bad terms

Drumlin2001 · Answer

My ex unfriended herself by the way she acted. Our relationship was over, there was no way back. Better to move on and put space between us

AdithyaR · Answer

That's usually one of the reasons, if I still have feelings for an ex, I'm going to cut off all contact so that I can get over her.

Rob17792 · Answer

because it hurts to be with that person knowing they're with someone else when you still love that person

Kezzz · Answer

I still have feelings for my ex and I still am friends with her. The only reason being she broke it off not me... so I harbor no ill feelings towards her.

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

Still had feels for them. Too tempting to contact them.

Nahid1707 · Answer

I wouldn’t be friends with my ex girlfriend  Drama and stuff I Don’t want

ItsTheNephilim · Answer

Because there's no point in staying friends with them.

angryllama · Answer

If we couldn’t work as a relationship and that’s supposed to garner a higher level of respect and there wasn’t why stay friends. Literally couldn’t have you any your best

scholastic_vibez · Answer

If they say horrible things the day of the breakup meant to shatter your self-esteem, and then later tries to be friends, acting like they never said those hurtful things without apologizing.

allisonNicole · Answer

He and I were toxic together. When we weren't together we always found ourselves back in eachothers lifes. We tried being friends, but one of us would get jealous. When one was talking to someone. It was unhealthy for him and I. I decided it was best that he and I keep distance. I don't have him on social media or anything else.

opnbuk59 · Answer

Umm well hmm should i say her in from of so to read gosh it's umm ok it's like this see i never have done that childish if you so me to do so unless they a serial killer or Democrat

NatashaJ · Answer

He said I was cheating on him dating someone else when we not dating. Also, his wife send me a message talking shit to me. Even though I don't bother them at all.

akshay1998 · Answer

She acted really formal with me and didn't treat me like I was hers, and there was a best friend that has more conversations than me, so I felt jealous and like kind of locked up.

Desconhecida · Answer

It hurt too much. That's the main reason everyone should take a break with no communication after a breakup

jtodd2103 · Answer

I personally felt the need to distance myself so hopefully that would allow the healing to begin. It hasn't been that much easier.

Ash525 · Answer

I just moved on and we grew apart. We had two different outlooks on life and two differdnt lifestyles. I'm glad he broke up with me though😂truly a blessing in disguise.

KingdomForAKiss · Answer

He's an ex. There were still feelings, even though he wasn't good to me. Had to put distance there.

R3DthatDude · Answer

She unfriend me lol, it’s okay though she saved me the labor of doing it myself

ShortCircuit · Answer

Remaining friends with exes does nothing but harm future relationships.

devilsfan884 · Answer

I was ok with being friends, but it wasn't something she wanted and I respect that. Made things awkward with our common circle of friends, but it is what it is.

nodnol32 · Answer

I blocked her from everything. Its just hard accepting the harsh reality of someone who was you reason for a smile everyday.

CuriousGentleman · Answer

Those feeling you still have, they can hurt you, so an solution is cutting them at the root and forget...

funride74 · Answer

She didn't support me in a different time, but just reduced her presence. She told me that she will give me some days and on day 4 I decided to cut any contact

DaMack999 · Answer

There should be no friendship between enemies period.

Madhatter920 · Answer

Not having to constantly see them so I can move on.

ecfresh · Answer

They are your ex. Move on. Find other friends.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

This is as close to social media that I have. This app. I never “unfollowed” here here and she hasn’t either. Granted, I doubt she uses it anymore which might be why she hasn’t.

karangill · Answer

I didn't want her to be jealous of my current partner.

lovejyj · Answer

Ha!😂 He borrowed 700 dollars from me and refused to give it back

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