I hooked up with my most recent ex-boyfriend's brother and now I feel awful. Is there any way to rectify the situation?

[LeoPride93]

Okay, so a couple of years ago my ex-boyfriend and I got into a huge fight one night, which led to him ending things with me. His brother and him were roommates at the time, and we had all been drinking to excess. After the fight and we "broke up", his brother started kissing me and one thing led to another and we hooked up.
After that night my ex apologized, said he didn't mean anything and that he still wanted to be together. I confessed and we broke up, but kept in contact.
A few months ago, he reached out to me and told me still loves me and wanted to get back together. He said I've always been on his mind. So, we got back together.
He ended up getting a new job and moving across the country. He originally wanted me to go with him, but ultimately changed his mind and I was devastated. He told me he didn't want to bring our past on this new adventure.
After he moved, we talked for two straight weeks and he kept telling me he loved me and missed me. He started getting busier with work and said it was too stressful to deal with our relationship, so I told him we should just break up, even though I was devastated. He then blocked me off all social media.
His brother ended up messaging me a few days ago and invited me to a party. I reluctantly agreed, but I knew what was going to happen. I was reeling from a breakup and his brother was the perfect distraction and I knew it would hit my ex HARD.
Anyway, long story short, we ended up hooking about three times over the course of the weekend. It was fun, exciting and bad, I know.
My ended up drunk calling my ex and telling him what happened last night. He FREAKED OUT. He called me crude names and said he never wanted to see or talk to me ever again.
I know what I did was wrong, plain and simple, but I really wanted to hurt him for how he hurt me, which I know isn't the right answer.

[BeachBabe96]

I know I'm probably gonna get a lot of backlash for saying this but I really don't think what you dif was all that horrible. Each time something happened with his brother you guys technically were "OFF/broken up", you were up front and aware of the negative things that could happen after but his broyher should have known better than to not only take advances at you but to have not also taken advantage of you.

Ask yourself which one you truly love and care about, then from there decide if any of this is even worth it in the end. Could you live with the guilt? Do you want to move on? If the one you were initially dating felt so strongly to leave you behind and give up on you multiple times is it going to be worth your mental and emotional health to continue on this path? Just do what is best for you in this situation, I hope things get better! ❤

[Flyawaywithme]

Girl, you a ho. Sorry not sorry. Messing around with family members, no matter how angry, is never okay. If I were you, I start a whole new life. Focus on bettering yourself, bc you need it. And leave the brother and the ex ALONE. Let them live their best lives, without you in. Karma will come for the brother but you better try to fix your karma cause it’s coming for you too

[Inbox]

@Flyawaywithme Agreed. I understand she was hurt and angry, but screwing a family member was too much...

[imthatsteve]

Lol you can't rectify this. You wanted to hurt him and you did. Whats done is done.
Honestly i wouldn't have broken up with you in the first place if id thought the relationship could be saved. But after you fuck my brother the first time it would be over for good with no chance of talking to me again. Somehow this dude was considering giving you a second chance before coming to his senses and running while he could. So you proved to him that he made the right choice by fucking his brother again and then calling him to rub it in his face.

Im glad this dude got away from you, im sure he is in a much better place without you.

[personwew]

There's no fixing this. You had sex with his brother four times and called to tell him about it. I don't care how drunk you were - you can't undo that. Please, for the love of god, cut your lossess by cutting contact with both your ex and his brother, and encourage them to do the same

Also, gotta say, this brother of his is not following "bro-code" at all. It's kind of understood that you don't get together with someone's ex without asking them first, and you definitely don't do it the same day they break up. What an absolute asshole

[sejla]

I’d suggest therapy. Your sense of boundaries are all off for some reason.

[DizzyDesii]

You got with his brother twice 🤣 girl that means you ain't shit. Im sorry but someone had to say it. I mean i would know cause I've done some ain't shit things myself. My first ex cheated on me with his cousins girlfriend. So his cousin and i hooked up (but we didn't sleep together cause i dont go that far outside of a relationship). Sometimes you have to fight back dirty. It was wrong but shit you enjoyed it while it lasted. Now its time to move on and dont look back

[Cherokeehp]

You can’t un-fuck his brother. You did it twice. You’re kind of toxic. You’re kind of shitty. Maybe take some time for self reflection and stop being shitty.

[imthatsteve]

For real tho, people talking about "technically it wasn't cheating", thats not even close to whats wrong with what she did like wtf. You can't fuck your SO's sibling and then expect to pick back up where you left off.

This dude got so shook he moved accross the fucking country probably because he couldnt stand to look at or talk to his brother anymore. That shit will cut deep and hurt long after this hoe is out if the picture. This bitch out here splitting up brothers and wrecking family relationships.

I doubt he was really considering getting back with her. He probably just wanted to test and see if it really was just a one off mistake or if she did it on purpose to hurt him.

So after he didn't want to get back together she went and proved that she was a hoe and fucked his brother on purpose just to hurt him again and she called him up to rub it in his face because she wanted to hurt him and wanted to know how much she hurt him because she enjoyed it.

Im just glad this guy got away before marrying this crazy hoe.

[Cherokeehp]

@imthatsteve She does sound crazy. And his brother is shitty as well.

[imthatsteve]

Yeah im not sure if she is just bragging here or if she actually doesn't see anything wrong with that.

[hiddendevil]

That's messed up, I bet he (Your Ex) never want to see you again.
You wanna hurt something this is totally wrong thing to do i mean the worse.

I suggest do not try to make up with your ex, and you should be ashamed.
If i offended you. I don't care.
Maybe its your life and your choices, but this was something worse.

[SweetDisaster]

You already know the what you did, was totally wrong. So my best advice is let them live there life's. Stay away from them and learn from your mistakes so you don't make them again in the future. Good luck dear.

[Drumlin2001]

That's evil. He should never talk to you again.
Hooking up with his brother is one thing, but to call him up and rub it in his face, what were you thinking? Learn some lessons from the situation. Move on

[Thatsamazing]

I mean, there really isn't. Sorry. I understand why what happened, happened, and it's not even that big of a deal but the fact is that no one is going to be able to handle and de-escalate this situation.

[DashboardLight]

You are so fucking stupid it's actually unbelievable.

[Anonymous]

Your ex sounds pretty trashy too I mean going back and forth on you that many times? Wow just make up your mind already! If you ask me you didn’t cheat because he already blocked you out of his life.

[imthatsteve]

Its not about cheating, you dont fuck the sibling of someone that you would like to fuck in the future. Hell i wouldn't even fuck a girls roomate if id ever wanted to be with her in the future. And its even worse if you were already in a relationship with them and then fucked their sibling and then wanted to continue the relationship.

Its not even about cheating idc who you are im not going to fuck the same girl that my brother fucked, i probably wouldn't even fuck the same girl that my friend or roomate fucked. Let alone be in a relationship with her.

Im making no judgements about what she did im just saying they will never get back together and will likely never be friends again so as far as rectifying things its not possible. She said it herself, she wanted to hurt him and she did full stop. As bad as leading someone on is, fucking someones sibling is way worse.
Not to mention she did it after the got in a fight, this dude thought he made a mistake and tried to make things right the next morning but she had all ready jumped into bed with his brother that very night. She didn't wait around being sad about the breakup she wanted to fuck his brother long before the fight and i wouldn't be suprised if she was already cheating on him or fucked the brother before already.
Then she claimed it was just a terrible mistake and it wouldn't happen again.. And then she did it again.

The dude made the right choice, that isn't someone you can trust. She cares more about getting back at you than she does about you or the relationship. First sign of trouble and she's jumping ship for the next guy.

[Opinion Owner]

@imthatsteve you’re an Incel loser obsessed with the loyalty of an imaginary girlfriend. No wonder you’re so worked up over something that doesn’t even concern you. So dumb.

[imthatsteve]

Lol yeah no your right loyalty and trust dont matter at all in a relationship.

[Opinion Owner]

@imthatsteve You should worry about getting a relationship first loser lol.

[imthatsteve]

I dont need to have a relationship to know that trust and loyalty is important, and that fucking your partners sibling is a dealbreaker like wtf are you some sort of cuck?

[michael1469]

Why feel bad if you have needs?

[r0ddy]

You are either the biggest simp or super super desperate either way, fix the f*** up 😂😂😂

[Twinrova]

You're trashy.

[mynameisRIS]

That's messed up

[Fuentes]

Damn you. A hoe