I hade my first kiss and lost my v-card to this guy and he broke up shortly after?

[Anonymous]

I am only 19, and he is 22. Recently started dating for a few weeks. Thought he was the one. Now I feel betrayed. He told me that he couldn’t see himself in a serious-relationship with me... so he broke up with me and asked to be friends. I told him that I would think about it and initiated no contact. Over the past few weeks I have thought about him, a lot. He’s was a lot more experienced than me, I just thought that “we” would work out. I kinda felt like he used me and I’m really hurting because of it. We only dated shy of 2 months, but it feels like we dated longer. Over those 2 months we went on about 10 dates... he didn’t spend a dime on me. After we had sex, we did it again, and again. After that, he slowly faded and I asked what was wrong only for him to reply “nothing. Everything is okay” then I asked if he still liked me and he replied with “I don’t think I can see myself in a serious relationship with you. I want a serious relationship I just don’t think it will work out. Don’t want to hurt you, so it’s better to tell you know”. Ouch. Well it hurt. Did he use me?

[AmazyingOnlyMe]

we will never know. he could use you but then again we can't tell. how was the 2 months with him ( he did not spend a dime on you ) and you paying everything is kinda using you. if he really like you he would of pay at least a few times. 50/50 you know!! did you guys get along well or had manny arguments? did you give sex fast and did not wait? all that depends.. but I totally understand how you feel..

[Asker]

Well we didn’t go out anywhere to eat or anything that cost money. We went to the beach, hiking, etc... Which is fine. We got along very well. No arguments at all. I had sex on the forth date...

[Anonymous]

He is a player who used you. This is why you should always wait until marriage before having sex. Because no players are waiting that long.

[Anonymous]

Damn you got played. That sucks. Man what an asshole.

[Asker]

You think so? What makes you think that?

[Opinion Owner]

He knew you were a virgin and he just left you hanging. talks to you for 2 months gets in your pants and then he's gone. He didn't even think maybe she's saving her V-card for someone special. But don't worry about it you'll get a better man some day.

[Asker]

He apologized and said “sorry your first time couldn’t be with someone more special” yeah. I am a bit bummed. Oh well. You’re right

[In_Trance]

he used you

[Asker]

How do you know this? How are you so certain?

[In_Trance]

because that's how you explained it. you smashed and he left