If your partner cheated on you, would that give you freedom to cheat back on them?

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

I'd just break up to be honest.

[Ozanne]

People who do this have learned nothing about relationship skills. If cheating is that serious of an offense to someone - which it is for just about everyone - you should either be grown-up enough to ride off into the sunset and find someone better, or else hunker down and get past it together to work on your relationship.

This mentality to even the score does NOTHING. You're still left with hurt feelings, no trust (now from both sides), and new reasons to hate each other. All this is, is revenge upon a breakup. So if that's the case, will you be so proud of yourself to do this? Acting no better than the person who caused the hurt in the first place makes you just as deceitful - and vengeful. People involved in adult-situations, should act like adults when faced with problems like this. Have some respect for yourself and either solve the problem or remove yourself from it.

(By "you", I mean in a general sense, not directed personally at you, @jean-marie_celine.)

[Cynicaldreamer]

No because then you would be as bad as they are.

The last guy I dated cheated on me. I was furious, hurt, and disgusted. But did I want to cheat back on him? Nope. I was too upset that he had done that to me to even consider getting "revenge." So I ended things.

Sleeping with another person won't make things right, or make you feel better.

[pikachu337]

I want to marry you! Lol.

[lexiflexs]

@pikachu337 why? It seems like common sense... no ones worth your time/effort if they’re cheating

[pikachu337]

Well I half read the comment and proposed on Impulse, lol.

@lexiflexs
My dream girl is someone who would stick with me regardless of consequences (I know it sounds unrealistic & maybe one sided). As long as I give her enough time. (Again being selfish. But even I won't expect someone to give me time if I ignore the said person. I am not that selfish even in my dreams, lol.)

Take the whole thing as a fetish or something like that and ignore this comment. (Why does my vocabulary gets so screwed when I need it? Lol, I wanted to express something rather than 'fetish' but couldn’t find any related word in my vocabulary. Maybe because I am not a Native. Lol.)

[Cynicaldreamer]

@lexiflexs Exactly!!!

I appreciate the upvotes; I do. But I'm just stating the facts. If they don't appreciate you enough not to cheat on you- leave them! Simple as that

[pikachu337]

@Cynicaldreamer
Although I am not that selfish to want someone expect keep liking me without me giving proper follow up in response. Be more gental! (Lol) Or I will deduct you waifu point, haha.

[pikachu337]

Actually I just read your comment a little and thought you a op waifu material and proposed you on impulse. Haha. (Jk)

[HawkPerception]

Every time I read one of your opinions, I resonate with each and every one of them. I really see a kindred soul in you and wish I met you off this app.

[Cynicaldreamer]

@HawkPerception Thank you! :)
I tell everyone I'm only speaking my mind: people either agree with me or not. I'm glad others do appreciate my words and take them to heart~

[lightbulb27]

No it doesn't give rights but it may feel like that is fair. That's a childish game. I know someone years ago who did that and it doesn't turn out any better. As the Bible says, the wages of "sin" is death. Guess who got killed in that case... an innocent unborn human whose chance to walk the earth ended with a knife to the neck just because of her sense of shame. For reference, this is a woman I knew in martial arts class and was "buddies" with who decided to hook up with a guy (wasn't me).

Folks... stuff goes wrong. Stop hurting your partners and try to work your stuff out or leave.

didn't you you cheat on her though?

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

We have a particular arrangment at the time, and theoretically is still active, but I've relinquished that "favor" she was according me.

[hahahmm]

Wrong question. Let's say a relationship is like a dish of food. So you have this nice plate of food that you were going to share with your partner & they spit in it. Asking if you can spit in it is pointless because it ignores the purpose of the relationship. Without commitment/loyalty you don't have a serious relationship. You might think you do but the cheater doesn't think so. Best thing to do is to agree that the relationship is dead and ignore it when the cheater says it was an accident.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

I admit I never thought of it like that

[OlderAndWiser]

If you cheat on her in retaliation, now you are both cheaters. I don't see how that is better, and it is horribly unfair to use the other girl just to get revenge on your partner.

[Mishan97]

Same I’d just break up. I’ve been there done that. I suspected my ex was cheating so I cheated on him and it didn’t make me feel any better when I found out for sure that he’d cheated. In fact it made me feel worse because I felt then that I had no right to be angry/sad but I still felt upset. So on top of feeling upset I also felt guilty about feeling upset. And then it also gave me an excuse to stay with him cause I thought “oh well we’re even”, when looking back, I realize I would’ve been much happier had I just left. And I honestly think if I hadn’t cheated too I would’ve left as soon as I found out about his infidelity. So from that experience I’ve learned that on my end I will be loyal so that in my mind I know that I did my best to make the relationship work. But as soon as my partner cheats I’m out.

[Miristheiss]

"Freedom"?

If my partner cheated and betrayed me I would end the relationship immediately and they would be dead to me so I am free to do anything I want at that point.

The way you word it sort of insinuates the relationship is going to continue...
What? Why would anyone stay in a relationship with a cheater? That is insane and so pathetic and weak.

[Apope16]

No. Each person is responsible for maintaining their own honor and for their own actions. A lover's indiscretion should never be license for your dishonor. Your revenge is their guilt. Do not minimize their guilt by making resentments equal. Let them suffer. Be the person they see in high esteem.

[rjroy3]

As an unmarried guy with no kids I'd just breakup. No need to get them back. If I were married with kids then I'd try to fix things. Part of fixing things "might" involve me sleeping with someone else and them knowing about it.

I've never been in that position so I don't know, but as I consider the idea I might take that route

[Anonymous]

It would be over between us I’m not gonna waste my time staying with someone who not only hurt me but disrespected me and our relationship the very moment they chose to stick their d*** where the sun don’t shine sleeping with someone else to get back at them isn’t going to change what happened

[Unit1]

nah, i'll just downgrade her to friends-with-benefits and drill as many pussies as I want until I find a normal girlfriend material to commit to. Cuckolds and simps (sycophants) are a disgrace to the male gender.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

I couldn't agree more

[DiegoO]

I cheated on my ex LD girlfriend, online. About 1 year later, she cheated on
me, for revenge. I couldn't say anything. The only thing I question was her maturity, and I was right. It wasn't mature for me to cheat on her, but, I thought she was much more mature than what she showed with the time.

[locutus9999]

If my partner cheat on me... that will be all... no revenge or nothing... she may find her stuff in my door whit a tender note inviting her to go to a much warm place in Christian mythology. No conctact whats or ever after that... not reconciliation. I have a tender heart so I will have to cut any chance I may forgive.

[JackSmy]

Nope! If I knew, for a fact, she cheated, we are DONE!! Her shit, out on the front lawn of my house, the locks changed, and FUCK OFF YOU SLUT!!
No questions, no 'Second Chance' to cheat again!! Just out!!
Not even dating her girlfriends, as they all talk!

[JayisI]

I mean... Yes and no i dont want to say go ruin your relationship but sometimes the other person thinks its ok to do that since they did it to you. But at the end of the day trust and respect are lost.

[CurlyGirl42]

No.. the worst part about cheating for me will be that they betrayed my trust. All men I will end up in a relationship would know I am even considering the option of an open relationship, so they should talk to me before they end up kissing/fucking someone else. Both parts cheating is not an open trusting relationship.

[PBandJ_Nerd]

No. I'd just want to break up with them and find a different person instead. There's no point in cheating since you'll leave them at the end for cheating.

[CrazyGirl2]

It happened, it was my “FIRST” and I dropped his ass SO quickly it made his AND my heads spin!

[CrazyGirl2]

But to be clear... No I would NOT “cheat back”! Think about it, one would loose ALL moral high ground. If he cheated on me, then I’m the victim of infidelity, but if I turn around and cheated as well... well then we’re BOTH just a pair of cheating assholes!

[electromagnetic]

Nope. Why would I waste my time with someone who’s clearly unfaithful when I can be doing other things?

[Finchie40]

That’s pretty much what would happen like a revenge thing or the cheater will cheat again, why it’s best to just end it and find someone that wouldn’t cheat and value you

[Bee-Hatch]

It doesn't make sense to introduce revenge measures into relationships. That kind of activities very unhealthy and doesn't solve anything.

[Kaamraj]

It would not give you the moral grounds to cheat and the smart thing to do would be to break up. However I would cheat back, because I'm a vindictive person.

[EmmaMary]

No, it would simply give me the opportunity to have divorce papers drawn up and issued.

[Little_Bumblebee]

I wouldn't be able to cheat like that. It would hurt me more than it would hurt them, honestly.

I would most likely just leave them.