Are You Friends with an Ex?
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I'm connected on social media with two exes. We live in different parts of the country so we don't ever see each other in person, but if we were ever in the same city, I'd be happy to meet with them. I'd be willing to connect with my other exes as well.
I stayed friends with most of my exes for at least a while after the breakup. One of them I stayed friends with for more than 10 years after we broke up. We'd sometimes go hiking together. She even came to my wedding (with the bride's approval knowing about the past relationship) and went on a week long trip with us and my sister-in-law. We eventually lost contact after she also got married and we both had children and were living in different states, but I'd be willing to meet her again if we ever cross paths again.
As long as the relationship isn't toxic and both people accept that it's over and don't keep talking about whatever problems there were in the relationship but just move on and treat each other as friends, I don't think there's any problem at all with staying friends with an ex. In my case at least, I liked the women I dated as people in addition to having romantic interest, so just because the romantic part didn't work didn't mean that we couldn't still be friends.
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No, but my sister keeps in touch with a couple of her exes, even though she and they are married to other people now.
I'm actively friends with 2 of my exes from the last 2 years. It depends on the reason why you broke up and the maturity of both parties and sort of the depth of the shared relationship. With both my "friends", we were just at the DTR phase where they were like, nah, not interested. That's fine, don't be my boyfriend, but if you know you don't want to be my boyfriend then there's no need to keep on ducking around. The benefits end, but the friendship continues.
I don't know it works pretty well. I hang out with each of them, maybe once a month. We have acquaintance level hobbies, and keep in touch through memes and general, how goes life. If they stop being my friend, will I cry a river? Probably not, but I'll be a little disappointed since new friends are hard to come by. I want the best for them and enjoy hearing about their dating adventures (im pretty boring as I've been quite happy with current boyfriend for a year now).
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He changed so yes.
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Nope. My exes are part of my past and they have no place in my future. There is a reason why generally this is a red flag for people when they hear someone is still "friends" with their ex (es). Generally speaking, this is a clear indication that you're not (fully) over that relationship, regardless of what the reason of the break-up may be. For most people, it's just a way to make the break-up fall softer.
I would not date someone who is still "friends" with her ex (es). And neither will others tolerate the same thing for me. I've moved on and have someone better in my life. And out of respect for myself AND my current relationship, I've made sure there are no traces left of my past relationships. -
My ex and I talked for a year even up to when I moved abroad. Then he got a girlfriend and she told him he shouldn’t talk to me anymore. Oh well.
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Nope. And even I lost all contact with one of them. I do not have his phone number and know nothing about his life
What he is doing or where he is
And there is no way to get in touch even if I wanted because as I said I have not one information on him
And I do not care. I cared for him so much when I was with him
But my feelings are 108% gone
I really do not care :) -
Yes. I am friends with an ex of mine who is actually a really great man and very supportive. We don't keep in touch often, but considering we've known each other for many years, whenever we need advice or help with something serious, we talk. We broke up more than 10 years ago, without any resentments, so I guess our friendship was stronger than anything else. We moved on since then, he has a wonderful family, while I am in love with someone else, so there's nothing romantically between us.
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I'm friends with only one ex. We didn't become friends immediately after the breakup tho, we spent almost one year without talking to each other but nowadays we talk and see each other regularly. No feelings involved solely a close friendship and honestly we're better as friends than we were as a couple.
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Once I’m done with someone my body no longer crave them and I’m not saying in a sexual way but the way I feel towards them. Once it’s over I completely lose focus because I’m open to someone new. In my mind of course I’m
thinking about that person and it’ll take time to get over the situation completely but I accept that it’s normal to think and not want to go back. -
I have a thought that love is forever
So if you really care about the person, even after the breakup, you still want her good.
I would DEFINITELY still maintain some level of friendship with a meaningful partner -
With the first one, I chat occasionally. I think she wants something with me, but I’m completely over my feelings for her. I do care about her life tho
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I'm Facebook friends with a couple of casual exes and wish them the best. I won't avoid them if I see them in public but I won't make an effort to talk to them.
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I'm still friends with some of my ex's because we ended mutually. Others no because it ended really bad.
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With all... except if they don't want to be. Friendship and love is like giving away a part of your heart. They grow on you. Even if the emotions have changed, history cannot be forgotten... and why?
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I'm friends with one of mine (I dated her 25 years ago), but she's just a really nice person.
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Yes. We are still friends but we don’t talk a lot after breakup. Just wave at each other as we pass by
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No. I tried this once and this wasn't a friendship at the end, just satisfaction of specific need our partners didn't offer.
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Nah, no interest in being friends with an ex.
Once we break up, no communication between us. -
Always. Great side pieces or when ya got a dry spell.
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nope once we stop dating i move on
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Yes one or two the rest nope
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I just kinda try to stay away from her
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Yes...
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