Are you friends with your ex?

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Yes I'm

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

No. Not a good idea.  Exes can be friendly but not friends.  You can’t erase that history. One person will always have more longing/nostalgia then the other.  However some people think the best method is deal with an ex is to completely remove them from their entire existence. If there was cheating, physical abuse, stealing, lying about major things, etc then that’s definitely warranted. I had one ex who tried to kill herself right in front of me when I broke up with her.  But doing that to someone just because you just no longer have feelings for them is cruel and arguably conceited. That doesn’t mean you should hang out with them all the time. But they are still human and a decent person will treat them as such. Admittedly I have a deep seated hang up over one particular ex. Although I miss her that doesn’t mean I want her back. However I badly needed closure about something she said to me at the very end (it was very malicious and unnecessary). But I have to accept that I am not going to get it.

AviatorTom · Accepted Answer

I wouldn't call us friends but my ex-wife and I still get along. We live in different cities and still see each other once or twice a year at extended family events like weddings and funerals.

provokeesmokee · Accepted Answer

Not with my exbfs. First was a cheater, second was a manchild.

I'm acquaintances with my exgf. We are technically friends but she hardly interacts and I don't really seek her out. That said she isn't very social to begin with, so it isn't like its different to how she treats her other friends.

She invites me out to queer events with her because she is scared to go alone and I am safe for her. I don't mind because I'm happy to help her find someone who makes her happy. I let go of romantic connection to her when I broke up with her.

EmmaMary · Accepted Answer

I'm actually still very good friends with all four of my ex's... Even having invited them to my wedding, and been to three of theirs.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Unless you have a child with your ex, why would you want to remain friends? So your new girlfriend can be constantly jealous and mistrusting?

Drumlin2001 · Answer

Nope. We haven't spoken since she reached out a couple of months after she ended things. That interaction didn't go well.
It maybe interesting to sit down for a coffee sometime, but there's not really anything for us to talk about. I wouldn't believe anything she told me anyhow

SolitarySolace · Answer

Haven’t been for 7-8 years. I was off and on friends with her after she cheated on me twice. Then as “friends” she encouraged me to chase a girl I met in college and ended up on the wrong end of an ex parte PPO 🤷🏻‍♂️ let’s just say we aren’t friends anymore and haven’t been for years sense then. I don’t do female friends at all actually.

sawno · Answer

No, it was to painful for us (We left on good terms) and she ended up in a relationship. We both agree'd not to have contact when one of us was in a relationship.

DoggyDude · Answer

Absolutely. I always found it strange, if people got along well why they wouldn't remain friends (excepting a situation where someone needed to escape a troubled partner).

Yyyyp789 · Answer

I don't because they are an ex for a reason, and when I have moved on they are a closed chapter in my life.

Mariena_Anne92 · Answer

Yeah. Didn’t see why we wanna hate each other because we separate by choice

IslaTheWitch · Answer

yeah, I got a funny meme this morning from one of them :D

AaronKrieger · Answer

No, but I am on good terms with all of them. We just do not talk anymore, since everyone becomes distant at some point just due to life. It's normal.

rosemilk · Answer

i don't have an ex, but i'm assuming i probably wouldn't be, depends on our history tho

strateguy632 · Answer

no. better to separate and block "clean" for a fresh start.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

Nah, she wanted to act like we could be friends, but nope.. We haven't spoken since last year in January..

Dinklex3 · Answer

Nah. We’re not on bad terms or anything though.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

I don't keep in contact with past relationships.

LaurenM1997 · Answer

No I’m not he cheated so didn’t want to stay friends with him

Yannae · Answer

We are friendly but we don't really hang out anymore.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

I'm civil to my ex because sadly we co own a house and a cat.

msc545 · Answer

Strangely enough, I am friends with my ex. We are better at being friends than we were at being lovers.

McKellar · Answer

I'm sorry for saying this so bluntly, but hell f**king no!

Jennz6 · Answer

Sure, we have sex too sometimes

DizzyDesii · Answer

We’re cordial now. Acquaintances at best

Lowiu · Answer

Im friendly with my ex but not friends

exitseven · Answer

No, they are Exes for a reason.

JacobJordan · Answer

Don't have an ex

sheikalana · Answer

I have zero contact with my ex.

annabananna · Answer

We don’t speak so no but I don’t hate them.

Sameone · Answer

Yes aim but not all of them Just 3

OtterMan68 · Answer

yes, she's one of my better friends

Still-alive · Answer

one of them yes. the other? nope

dudeinohio · Answer

No. Inappropriate when married to someone else

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

No, we grew apart.

jadeXcatastro62 · Answer

Nope!

jaskin777 · Answer

Yes I am

JayBones · Answer

All of them.

In_Trance · Answer

Never

MaxUsefull · Answer

Nope

riverrat3 · Answer

I am

Anonymous · Answer

No way fuck him

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