Can you be friends with your ex?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I can. That doesn't mean she can with me though. Here's the deal if you're my friend you will always be my friend because I am loyal. But if you are my partner you come before all my friends. And my friends understand that. Now if you were my partner, then choose to just be friends you have to understand you are demoted to friend status. It's been my experience that a lot of women want to retire from that postof girlfriend but keep the benefits of that post.😆 life just doesn't work that way is all.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

"Is it possible?" is not the best question to ask. The answer, of course, is quite different if you have a child together but if not. . . you should ask yourself, "WHY would I want to do that?" and "What is the most likely outcome of making that attempt?"

DishLady · Accepted Answer

You CAN be but it’s not always the healthiest choice so you need to know yourself and the other person well enough to know if it’s something you can do without the risk of sabotaging each other’s future happiness and relationships.

DizzyDesii · Accepted Answer

Acquaintances but not friends… and only after some years of ending things

HawkPerception · Answer

It's possible, but not healthy. Best to just cut ties and move on. Trust me as a guy that was dumb enough to have that dynamic twice. It does not go well.

Summeroflove · Answer

Yes but depends on the breakup. If it’s someone that I’m just not compatible with and we ended it on good terms yes. Someone who did something shady no thanks

AviatorTom · Answer

Friends? No. Civil with an ex? Yes. My ex-wife and I still get along, attend family functions and wish each other happy birthday on our birthdays. But we are not friends.

SyainR888 · Answer

If you are Currently in a relationship and your partner doesn’t know about that friendship , clearly it’s not just gonna be a “friendship”

but if your going that direction , it’s because your being pushed away from your current partner too seek new communication new energy that you aren’t receiving. But also your partner is doing it on purpose because he knows you already are and is grabbing all the evidence of it and will use it against you. And little will you know that you’ll never find out what he’s doing on purpose to make you “cheat” on him. In order to keep what’s most important to him in the relationship. Maybe not you maybe something special that you guys had in the relationship. And clearly is setting you up to lose what’s most important to you. Maybe you should ask him if that’s okay. Or maybe he already knows and is waiting for you to fall for his plan. Always be aware of doing this like that cause you don’t know the damage it might cause as in “karma”

EzraIsShy76028 · Answer

Somewhat of a tricky road. You can, but it might not always be the best choice. I guess it also depends if the breakup was a peaceful one or a really aggressive one. As in "I really like you as a person but I don't think we're compatible romantically" versus "I hate you, you're an abusive piece of shit and I regret ever having dated you." That might be important.

Keyboardkat · Answer

That depends on why and how you broke up. If it was a mutual decision, then maybe. But if one party dumped the other, and the "dumpee" is nursing a broken heart, then I don't see how it's possible. The wound is still fresh.

See, the person who's heart is broken doesn't WANT you to be their friend. They want back what the two of you had before. If that is impossible, then it's best to move on and give the wounded person time to mourn, to grieve and to heal.

MrOracle · Answer

Rarely. That doesn't mean you can't be civil, but FRIENDS? In most cases, that's a pretty difficult thing to do, and usually not in your best interests, especially as a man. I've seen people try, but rarely is it friends. Much more often, it's the woman wanting to be able to call the man for favors and labor as if they are still in a relationship.

I've seen friends and coworkers get caught up in that many times, and it's rare that they see any benefit.

NathanDavis · Answer

two of my best friends today... were my girlfriends back in high-school, and the other one from college years

that was forever ago, so long ago that we've been friends and just friends for a much longer time now... so yeah, we are friends

however, with the more recent ex-girlfriends, I do not keep a friendship, we're in touch from time to time and in very good terms... but we're not close friends like that, it's just different, very different

FunkyMonkee · Answer

I've never had a problem with it. At least not at first. I'm still friends with Sally, it's just that we travel in different circles and almost never see each other. It's been 26 years since I last saw her. Another 9 years before that. I WAS best friends with Carol until 6 years ago when she let money (.58c!!) get between us!! Anu is the only one I DON'T want as a friend!! She's proven to me that she can't be trusted! I don't need or want friends I can't trust!!

Fireguy17 · Answer

I am with my ex-wife after 25 years.
She reached out to me but has never apologized for doinking the landlord.
Now when I look back on it, it is kind of funny, not so much at the time.
That's why I left.
So I don't put a lot of stock into it.

knottyguy · Answer

Depends on the type of relationship the 2 of you had and what caused the breakup and how bad the breakup was.

I've been friend with all my exs. One even sent a naughty pic months after the breakup. Of course I've always been a gentleman with my women.

Purpleronnie · Answer

For me NO , never , after breaking up they may as well not exist. Is it possible? Yeah I guess for some but my question to those people would be why? , what could you possibly have to gain assuming there are no children involved

McLlovin · Answer

The real question is why? Are you still in love? What benefits can you get from that relationship? Why can’t you not leave the relationship and not be friends? (If you didn’t have kids with them)

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

I usually say yes, but let me clarify. Our breakup wasn't bad, we just parted ways. I can be friendly with my ex, we get along. But out of respect for my relationship I'm not staying in contact with my ex. We're not "friends".

Cormac995 · Answer

It's a bad idea on pretty much every level. If you date and it doesn't work out you need to part ways for your sake, their sake and the sake of any future partners you might have.

lexxiliesbae · Answer

It honestly depends on a few things, how long you were together, how long have you been apart and the terms you ended on. So I say yess, you can be friends with an ex.

RingOfFire · Answer

Of course! I've always been friends with each girl I've had a relationship with in my life. Some of them I'm still in touch with that I dated in high school more than 50 years ago. I don't think I've ever left a relationship hating each other.

Novemberr_ · Answer

No this is disrespectfulness to myself and finished relationship, lived memories. If a person can stay a friend with his or her ex, simply means that they never loved each other and just wasted their time for nothing.

David318578 · Answer

I guess it's possible, but I'm not friends with any of my exes. It's not like we hate each other or anything, it's we just went separate ways in life

trumpetplayerforlife · Answer

I feel like some people can but for me I have horrible exs so no lol

Joshydavid25 · Answer

It's possible, but not likely unless you two lost attraction to each other and were already friends..

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

Nope, not on anything toxic either, moving on tho, which is the process right after would be a lot harder

Shiprex · Answer

Nope, all gone. Finished. Clean slate. Mutual friends too. Reset with new armour.

Nikki1989 · Answer

I am friends with all of them except one. Most I talk to at least once a week.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Yes but it depends on why you guys broke up

msg321 · Answer

Do you want your significant other be friend with his/her ex? I guess most of people's answers would be no to this question then you shouldn't be friend with your ex too.

soe11 · Answer

Yes ofcourse.  Still 8 am friends with ex girlfriends.

kaucky1 · Answer

It cool to be friend with an ex not see each other for quite some time run across each other she asks let's fuck...

Gymrat01 · Answer

I say no cause they saw me naked and I saw them. I don’t allow people to see at least from the waist down. Other than my doctor.

StevenMcGarrett · Answer

It's good to be friends with your ex but sometimes it is just not possible.

dudeinohio · Answer

Not a good idea. Your next partner may have issues. For me, that's a deal-breaker.

foxsquirrell · Answer

You will always be like two broken pieces next to each other.

nicfire171 · Answer

Yes if it doesn’t bother your new significant other

Pterodon · Answer

No. Not really. It prevents one from moving on and causes problems with future relationships

Allyicedcoffee · Answer

Depends if u guys ended on good terms and decided it was best to be friends go for it if it wasn't good terms no

Anonymous · Answer

Hypothetically - yes, but I don't have an ex, I've never been in a relationship.

Ian888 · Answer

Yes but give it some time before hanging out

Alwayreckles93 · Answer

No an ex is an ex for a reason.

thegreenyogi · Answer

It depends on what caused the break up.

slatyb · Answer

Most of them, but not my ex-wife.

NicholasRedone · Answer

Terrible idea to my brain

Anonymous · Answer

No. Not when you have a new partner.

Oldschool1981 · Answer

My wife sometimes. still sleeps with her ex

Anonymous · Answer

Yes. Probably unwise though.

69Lonely69 · Answer

I think its a really bad choice

blackeagle007 · Answer

Me? No, once over, always over

Crazzyyworld · Answer

yes if we haven't had any sex

MikeRJ · Answer

Yes, you can.

Nightmoon23 · Answer

Loyal guys can I don't know about girls

sassiisammii · Answer

Not if you’re in a relationship.

Manuelwe · Answer

Yes if we can have sec now or then

wkhan_87 · Answer

Yes friendship always exists

Anonymous · Answer

I tolerate them as best as I can

TwoToTooTutu2 · Answer

I am.

12karen · Answer

Me, I can't

zombiewoof · Answer

Of course

MatureMan40 · Answer

Yes.

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