I didn't become friends with my ex immediately after the breakup. I thought it is healthy to take a bit of distance and I was right. After a while, I was able to communicate with them without resentment. All my feelings were gone so it was easy for me to remain friends with my ex. It's kinda nice because when we are in difficult times , we are always there for eachother. Positive vibes!
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It's better to keep distance permanently. Feelings come sometimes back even if the situation is more complicated than before. My ex invited me to a party after my relationship (after her) was over. She didn't feel any pity for her current boyfriend and wanted that I pound her like a hammer drill after several lines of speed at evening we met again. Every weekend or two we took some lines and had fun, her boyfriend tolerated this behavior of her, even though he was pissed on the beginning. After more than a year I noticed that I had no motivation to start a new relationship and she got literally what she wanted while our relationship started to die. Other girls tried everything to get me, but I didn't want one of them. All my needs in matter of women were satisfied and I didn't want to pull a potential girlfriend into this weird situation, because most of them were girls who wanted a relationship. I ended this because there was no future. Since than we exchange just a hatred glimpse if we meet at a party, but I keep lot of distance to her.
I am after twenty years.. she re married.. I respect the man. I'm sure he moonlights as an exerist... lol... we have a 18 year old... I'm uncle Bob to here daughter she's 4... n I crashed on their couch for a month.. ya something you never hear happen.. surprises any one I tell the story too.. and it did put a wedge in a past relationship of mine. it takes a huge amount of work and discipline.. bottom line... it is possible
I think that you can be friends with your ex. As long as the relationship ended on a good note and you had more good times then bad times. And personally I think the way you went with it, was wonderful. Being able to give yourself space and time to recover in order to know for sure if you wanted to still be friends. When I had broken up with my ex, we said we would be friends, but we realized how really different we were from each other and decided it was for the best that we just part ways. But it's always different because not everyone is the same.
I'm friends with exes whom I just dates not loved. I tend to bail on more long term relationships while I still have feelings. Rather anger, love, jealousy. Whatever. Kind of hard to be friends after that.
Yup. Totally understand. I have one ex that I just can't be friends with. Lots of feelings invested and hearts breaks during that relationship. After long time of no contact je tried to reach me God knows why... but I can't talk with him.
It is possible. But in the first few years, we were acquaintances, working together to raise our two boys but not much else. I would help her with things around her house now and then. I never wanted her to hurt, and I have never stopped caring about her. It's just that I was best 'non-married'. That's one reason why I somewhat understand the MGTOW movement. For me, it's not about hating women at all; in fact, I love women. But I had to Go My Own Way. it was better for me, my ex, my boys, and everyone else around me. Time carried on and now I can honestly say we are truly best friends. We continue to worry about our 'boys', (now men) together. We commiserate together, me more than her. And I know I can always reach out to her and she will be there, again me more than her. She's been happily married for more than almost twenty years, and I couldn't be happier for her. She WAS the marrying type. So, yes, it is possible.
I don’t and just can’t be friends with an ex. As the relationship ends, we go our separate ways. Maintaining contact with an ex even for something as innocent as friendship is mentally and emotionally unhealthy for me. I don’t how some people do it. I guess I’m wired differently.
I am but only because our relationship ended because of a misunderstanding and we both decided to just be friends. But with my other ex is different because our relationship was shallow mainly just there to talk to and make out with I am to this day not proud of those actions but I think it was for the better we didn't become normal friends.
Nope it's better to not get in contact. Cuz feelings still remain. When u try to get back it might be possible feelings might re Kindle which might lead u to state of confusion which might lead to problems or breakups. It's better to move on completely and not interact unless u are compelled to ( even if compelled to it's better to keep conversations or any form of communication negligible ) .
Yes, I am good friends with one of my exes. We've been friends since childhood. We had a messy breakup and didn't talk for a few months, but then decided to bury the hatchet and become friends again.
Here's how I look at it. I'm the type of person who just about no matter what wants to end on good terms, my ex cheated on me with two other men, I still want to be friends afterwards she the did not and pushed me away. If both people are willing to be friends and not let it be awkward then yes of course exs can be friends. But they can only be friends if both people are willing to be friends.
I’ve never been in a relationship but if I dated someone within the Rubik’s cube community then for the sake of my Rubik’s cube career I would have to be
May I introduce myself. I am a slightly above average lookin guy actually I'm just average. But I am a guy within the Rubik's Cube community. I can solve a 2x2 rubik's cube in under 4 hours and a 3x3 rubik's cube in about 3 days. I have been part of the rubik's cube community for a few years. I am on a quest to find my rubik's cube soulmate and I believe you might be the chosen one.
That is very unfortunate. I swore my calculations were correct, I thought you were the one. Because your fellow Rubik's cube member attempted to pick you up, can you for the very least follow me back for my brave attempt?
@user66345667 Well I’m looking for a guy within the cubing community that competes in competitions and unfortunately you’re times wouldn’t be able to make the cutoff time
I am not friends with my ex. I can try but I don't think i will ever be able to. Being around her will just bring the feelings back and with those feelings, the memories. At most, I'm friendly with her.
Sure I can. Some of the feelings still remain. Unless its very bad breakup. If I have cared for someone so much, there will remain certain interest to care and help them if they need.
Never been an issue for me because I only long term date women I like as individuals. If the romance fizzles out we still have compatibility on other levels.
No you can't be... Firstly, the only reason you guys were together is because he loved you in a way a friend could never love you. What does it mean when you guys still hang out, it's either you still have feeling or he still has
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