If you got a second chance with an ex who was perfect would you take it?

[Anonymous]

We broke up 3 years ago (my fault, combination of immature, scared, and got jealous of little things). I've been working really hard on myself to not be like that. Last Friday I went out to celebrate, got drunk and then text her. Following morning after woke up and realized I had become a stereotype of "what could have been" and immediately felt like crap. Ever since then though we've been talking for hours a day. She's single, I'm single, and she said that I have changed in all the right ways. I keep thinking maybe I'm just imagining it. But its at least 100 texts a day, and my heart races like it did when we first started dating. It definitely feels like it could be more than 2 people who were good friends catching up. Am I trying to find find gold in a silver mine here?

What the hell are you doing?

See how things happen, dont rush back in

Ask her out to coffee

Confess true feelings

Updates

+1 y

She said its never going to happen, she's interested in someone else but doesn't want to lose me as a friend. Thats pretty unhealthy for me, I'm always gonna want more... I also can't immediately cut and run because then she'll be right about me again. Can't let her win everytime, still hurts tho

[SueShe]

If, deep inside, you know that you have changed for the better and don't just take this excuse to hit on your ex again, then you should grab this second chance.

However, if it is just to get intimate with her and you know that you are not ready to commit, then don't do it because you are not helping her with that type of behavior.

You disappointed her once. There will be no 2nd. disappointment because not only will you lose her forever but also, you will get yourself a reputation of an unreliable person, a liar and probably a number of other not very complimentary adjectives.

Furthermore, you would only be cheating yourself...

[SueShe]

Thanks for the MHO

[Jake99999]

A really mature and insightful post. Well said.

[Avicenna]

Go ahead, and shoot your shot. Just remember that life, like water in a stream, moves on, so things usually can't be so easily restored

[humanearth]

Men do stupid stuff for women

[Jake99999]

Okay, a lot of people on here show what they intend to do, in the form of a question. You really don't need an answer to this. You are going to try to get back with her.

The thought of it is stuck in your head, and coming on here is just another outlet for your obsession.

So go ahead and go for it. You know that you are.

Just be sure its what you want, its not fair to her... to get it going again... and then change your mind.

Sometimes guys don't know what they have, till they lose it.

This happened to me. Not the same reasons but I lost someone I was crazy about, for a short period of time, because I was confused. I got my head straight, we got back together, and its been 4 years since then, and we are madly in love and its the best ever. She is " the one". She told me she never stopped loving me and cried when we got back together because she was so relieved/happy. I am a very lucky man. I hope it works out that way for you too. If you get your second chance, be sure and don't blow it.

[hahahmm]

"got jealous of little things" - give us some examples.

[hahahmm]

"I also can't immediately cut and run because then she'll be right about me again. " -- Wrong. You're being manipulated into giving her free attention. To women attention is like a hardcore drug. She'd love it if you gave her emotional support while all you get out of it is a pat on the head like you're a puppy dog. Just walk away. Who cares what she thinks.

[hahahmm]

And you never answered my question above.

[exitseven]

I would be all in.

[Iron_Man]

I don’t know

[888theGreat]

Nope