Girls, Do you see why I am hurt?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend has a best friend woman that calls and texts him and vice versa. This has went on for 10 months and has been one cause with our four break ups we have went through. The third broke we got back together I sent her a message … a nice message saying that I would like her to respect our relationship and back off … that he has a girlfriend and it’s inappropriate for this calling when she is bored or checking up on him stuff. That’s my job to check up on him. Or to call about a question on what I should buy. So after I sent her the message saying how I felt about it all … she got mad sending him the message I sent her and my boyfriend flipped out and started yelling at me saying that’s not my place. Worried about loosing her from it. So we broke up and then got back together a week later 😒and I asked him nicely if he would please send her a text saying that our relationship will be respected and I will come first and the contact should vanish. He replies saying ok , good luck … 6 days went by and she must of got mad that my boyfriend has not called her or messaged her and she deleted him off fb. Now he is all upset saying I caused him in loosing his best friend. I didn’t cause that. I feel like she is valued more over me and what I want. I feel like she knows him and dis that up set him so he would reach out 2 her. She is mad that we got back together because he told her he wouldn’t with me after our third break up. I do not feel important to his life. He is so worried about loosing her and not so much us. Red flag?

[Tweetybird15]

I don’t think it’s a red flag. As adults, we value our friendships. I would be hurt over losing a friend. Personally, I have guy friends even though I’m married. I had these friends before marriage. I think male/female friendships change after one or both are in romantic relationships, but they don’t have to end. I think it’s a bit extreme to want her out of his life. My guy friends and I check on each other just the way I would with my gal friends. We care about each other, but there’s certainly no other feelings. I’m going through something like this myself with a guy friend who just got married. The wife is definitely threatened by me for some reason. But I respect their relationship, and I treat her with respect out of respect for my friend.

[Bhrianne]

I dont get why he is loosing it so much. You are being so nice about it. I know you are in love with your boyfriend and you really wish that this girl would just disappear. She doesn't sound like a nice person. I would be sceptical of him around her. Have a very stern talk with him. Dont let him away with this behaviour. He should listen to you and see where you are coming from and respect how you feel. Ask him how he would feel if you were messaging a guy friend all the time and became cranky when he said anything about it. Be careful. That girl sounds nasty

[Anonymous]

Wow I definitely get why you would feel that way. It does seem like values his best friend more than you. You kept breaking up over the same thing and it’s obvious that he’s never gonna change, you deserve someone who prioritizes you so I suggest you to break up. For real this time

[Asker]

Isn’t it strange how she got upset because he hasn’t called or texted her and just deleted him off her fb?

[Opinion Owner]

Yes it’s mad sus. I feel like she sees you as her competition for his attention, seems like she wants to be the only girl that he pays attention to (even only as a friend)

[Changiis07]

Wow! Sounds a lot like my ex with his ex. I blocked him recently because I felt that she mattered more to him than I did

[Asker]

Ex? This is his woman friend

[Changiis07]

Yes my ex has a woman friend